
Originally Posted by
Mustonen
Since my divorce, we’ve had a shared custody arrangement with my 2 dogs. Basically, they follow the kids. This has been good for the kids (I think) and until a few weeks ago I didn’t have anything in the way of a yard, so it was good for them to have a chance to spend time with her (still tiny) yard. She’s tried from the beginning to axe this arrangement and have the dogs live with me, which I resisted on account of the yard, mostly just by not agreeing to it and pointing out my lack of yard situation.
She doesn’t take good care of them, doesn’t particularly like them, and doesn’t even contain them in her yard - the invisible fence broke about a year after I moved out and she hasn’t managed to fix it. Every 6 to 10 months there’s some incident that results in her trying to strong arm the dogs into my sole custody. She long ago stopped participating with vet appointments and the bills that come out of them.
Fast forward to now - I have 8 acres outside of town, no visible neighbors, and a working pet containment system. Figured I’d wait until the next “event” and jump on it. Happened pretty much immediately a couple weeks ago with a story about my one dog biting a young child. I don’t know the details and the whole thing is so out of character for the dog that I’m pretty skeptical about what happened. Be that as it may, she says the dogs need to live with me now and I say “sure!”
Then I get a phone call from her boyfriend about how maybe we just need to manage the whole thing, and if they have stuff going on or visitors or need to be out of town the dogs stay with me, but if they don’t then the dogs can come along with the kids. This doesn’t feel like how dogs work…. They aren’t a timeshare, subject to your convenience, but…again, I say “sure!” They say they’ll still keep the dogs for an upcoming out of town trip/mini vacation that I was taking the kids and my girlfriend on this past weekend.
Apparently, the dogs got into her garbage a couple times, and then one of my dogs (the other one) bit her and growled and snarled at her boyfriend when she pushed him off the couch and then crouched down at eye level to yell at him. This dog IS challenging, especially with other dogs, though I’ve NEVER seen him act aggressively toward a human. He’s also very much my dog…he listens to others, but not 100% - though on reflection he listens to my girlfriend pretty reliably. He had some separation anxiety issues that were only resolved by getting the second dog. He’s since, after a lot of patience and effort, mostly accepted my girlfriend’s dog into his pack.
I wasn’t there, and don’t know the whole story, but when she told me about it I told her it probably makes sense for the dogs to be with me for a while, at least; let things calm down, see if there’s something going on with the dog (any hint of aggression), etc. No, now she just wants the one dog, at her convenience - the one who “bit a kid.” I guess now it wasn’t really a bite; she was just herding the kid and didn’t break the skin, leave a mark, or seem aggressive. I told her no. Now she’s waging a campaign through the kids.
Annoying as shit.
TL;DR: My ex wife is annoying, per expectation.
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