My dad eventually moved into out inlaw apt, but even though it was right downstairs, eventually I put a couple of cameras down there so I could check in if I heard a crash or something without constantly going down there to investigate. Worked great
My dad eventually moved into out inlaw apt, but even though it was right downstairs, eventually I put a couple of cameras down there so I could check in if I heard a crash or something without constantly going down there to investigate. Worked great
That hit a little close to home. Some time back I had an abdominal pain that was bothering me for a couple days. One day I had to skip my daily run and in the middle of that night I was making such weird noises my wife made me get up out of bed and took me to the hospital. Turned out to be a ruptured appendix. Might not have turned out well if we’d been a couple hours out of town, instead of ten minutes from the ER.
When I was ten my buddy and I went to this local guys house to fish, he had ponds where he raised trout. We knocked on his door to ask him if it was okay like we usually did but no answer. We walked behind the house to see if he was out back and we saw him sitting at the kitchen table through the window. We yelled and banged on the window to no avail, he was older so thought he didn’t hear us. My buddy gave me a boost to look inside and get his attention. When I looked inside I saw that he was clearly dead and had been for some time. All bloated up and shit. We rode home to tell our folks, the sheriff said he’d likely been dead a week or more.
You know, there’s something appealing to die relatively quickly sitting at home rather than going slowly all hooked up to machines in some institution where nothing is familiar or comforting. Seems like it anyway.
I concur
OTOH, it seems like Gene probably died of discovering his wife's body over and over until his heart gave out.
well he probably would not remember ^^ a local old guy was close to 100 and had lost it completely so the son had to put little reminders around the house that his wife was dead because he forgot and so every time he found out she was dead it was for the first time which was very sad for dad.
Dad would ride his trike right into highway traffic or fall off people would call the son to tell him what they seen dad do so son took the trike away I asked how dad feels about that and apparently dad dosent remember he had a trike
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My mom had an alert device. She fell and broke her pelvis but refused to use the alert. Fortunately she was found the next day by her caregiver. Mom said she didn't use it because she didn't want to go to the ER You mean if you're dying you just want to be kept comfortable? No, I want everything done, I just don't want to go to the ER. Uh, that's not how it works Mom.
Our friend, 6'6, has Parkinson's/ He started falling a lot. His wife put in cameras to keep an eye on him when she was out. She showed us a video of him tumbling literally head over heels from top to bottom of a very long ,steep, hard staircase and get up without a scratch on him. Eventually they had to move down to Reno and a one story house. Meadow Skipper--there's a reason married men live longer than single men. Men are too stupid to go to the doctor when they're sick.
My mom had an alert device. She fell and broke her pelvis but refused to use the alert
my mom wouldn't get an alert device probably becuz of $$$ even tho she had LOTS of money she also wouldn't take the blood thinners she was prescibed by a really good GP cuz she seen something on TV that said they were bad
Mom collapsed and spent I think 17 hrs on the kitchen floor, injury induced demntia, yadayada gone in about 3 months I am spending all that money she didnt spend and have paid off my house
My father had sepsu on his leg due ti neglect
both my parents could have should have lasted longer but did not due to self induced tramua
Lee Lau - xxx-er is the laziest Asian canuck I know
So they can get jars opened.
We clean up dog poop, take out the trash, etc etc.
Don't worry, the AI sex robots are coming soon.
I fear my parents will end up with a similar fate. The older I get, the more I keep learning how old people can just be stubborn AF. And it doesn't seem to be for lack of wanting to live better. They just don't listen to ANY advice. I mean, I guess maybe they've earned that right, BUT geez it gets annoying. My grandma and more recently my wife's grandma both REFUSED to go into any assisted living. But then they'd want us all to drop everything and zoom over every time something happened. We'd go over, identify all sorts of issues, try and help make their lives better, but nope. They don't wanna hear none of it.
Ended up being the death of my grandmother. Her yard was totally dead, needed watering. We offered to pay for an irrigation system and everything. Told her we'd totally take care of it all. She refused for all sorts of nonsensical reasons. She ended up tripping over the garden hose watering her muddy yard, broke her hip. Done after the usual downward spiral. I couldn't help but be annoyed since it was her stubbornness that killed her. This wasn't the only thing she was stubborn about. Just the last.
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My dad started exhibiting some dementia a few years ago. He lived alone for almost 10 years after his last partner died. Luckily his frugality outweighed his stubbornness and we convinced him to sell his house at the height of the market and move into an independent living facility. The last 2 1/2 years of his life were magical. He made friends, was as social as he had ever been, participated in all the activities, etc. When he was in hospice, several staff came to visit him. Being from a small family, this meant a lot.
I try and share his story with everyone with an older parent. Leaving their home can open up so many opportunities for older folks who need more socialization. Good luck to any of you who are in a tough situation with elderly parents.
I’ve known many oldsters that were dragged to assisted living against their protests, but they ended up loving it. Not all of them, but success rate is pretty high
I think a lot of older people, specifically once they see a friend or two go off to the hospital and never come back, would rather die on their kitchen floor than spend a couple weeks or months in an ICU or hospice. Once you go in you lose the ability to make most of the decisions and I have to think that sucks hard.
Live Free or Die
You obviously don’t work in a hospital. We’re full of people on life sustaining care that should be on comfort care.
End of life decisions used to seem so far away. My parents are long gone. And now I'm middle aged.
don’t jinx yourself bro
Meadow Skipper--there's a reason married men live longer than single men. Men are too stupid to go to the doctor when they're sick
I don't need to go to the MD cuz i have a medical consultant who does wellness checks but really he wants an espresso or glass of pinot grigio
Buddy seems to be in shit alot cuz an anesthetist is practiclly a surgeon or at least he hung out a lot with Surgeons who were highly trained in not having a bedside manner
So he talks about his S.O. I ask him how he feels, he gets the espresso or glass of good NZ pinot grigio , when he leaves note to self fuck glad I am single and so I feel better about myself
Lee Lau - xxx-er is the laziest Asian canuck I know
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