A goodbye to my Daughters MOM - RIP Michelle

[teleee]

My deepest condolences to you and your daughters. Nothing harder to deal with than suicide of a loved one.


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[Foggy_Goggles]

Thats a tough read Frozen. Your a good shit. The universe is a better place with you in it. Keep your head up. I hope our paths cross again one day. Lot of love.

[frozenwater]

I am truly overwhelmed at the kindness. Thank you to all those who have reached out here and IRL.

I pickup my youngest daughter from the airport in a few hours. She made the choice to go sit with her mothers body (mind had gone, body was on life support so they could donate organs - they did that and shut down the machines late Tuesday night/Wednesday Morning). We have both daughters lined up for therapy/grief counseling today - each separately.

We talk many times a day. I was on the phone with my youngest as she waited for her moms heart to stop - we didn't talk we just were there for each other. That was a hard night. I will try and redouble my efforts as a parent. I have a second grader who through whispered conversations learned that his sisters mom has died. He sleeps with us every night now, just the concept that moms die has his little world rocked.
To my oldest friends here - time has passed and we have changed and moved, but I still count you as the best of friends. Thank you for still being here, all these years later.

[TNKen]

Godspeed Michelle. I hope you find peace.

Condolences to your daughters, you and your families.

[oftpiste]

So sorry for your loss Frozen. That was a beautiful eulogy, and I can only imagine the tangle of emotions you're having. It sounds like you're surrounded by support and love. Way to keep showing up in the face of the unspeakable.

[The Suit]

Aw Frozen, I'm so sorry. I wish I was there to bring you a mocha.

[mud]

“Be excellent to each other.”

[smartyiak]

Friday September* (edited) 8th she committed suicide. She is gone.

Tough read...but that was a gut punch I was not expecting.

Vibes+++ and condolences. No words.

[The Reverend Floater]

One love Fred. I'm so sorry to hear this and I hope she found the peace she was looking for.

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[huckbucket]

So sorry Fred. I hope you can help your girls get to a place of peace.

[altachic]

We are deeply sorry for your loss, Fred. Thank you for being so vulnerable, honest and open. In some ways, at least from my grief in the past it helps to just "put it out there"
Somehow saying all of this feels better/good/needed. I wish you peace, love and much much healing to you and your children...all THREE of them.

[skiJ]

+++vibes+++ as requested -

More Condolences...

Thank You for sharing your experience, frozen-

wishing Peace for Michelle,

And ( peace ) for the rest of your Family - and friends, too.

With love

tj

[bodywhomper]

Really sorry for the loss.

[gointhedistance]

“Be excellent to each other.”

+1
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Deepest condolences to you and your daughters frozen... hope you and your daughters stay resilient in light of a crummy situation.
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Mental health and suicide has reared its head several times with friends/family in my life recently - and I can not understate the importance of opening up and seeking help. Therapy has changed a lot of people's lives for the better. As ugly as the world might seem, sometimes talking with someone new - having that new "friend" or perspective can mean everything to pull through a moment of crisis or despair. Best of luck.

[The AD]

Very sorry to hear this. A good friend's nephew committed suicide last year and it's been hell for their family. It has made me wonder if the person who took their life would have chosen a different path if they could see the aftermath. I supposed not if they are in that dark of a place. Just shitty for everyone involved.

[Not DJSapp]

Frozen, so sorry to hear this. A lot of us old timers are still here around the campfire, lurking more and posting less. But we're still here. If typing stuff out helps you through these times, we're all here with you and we're listening.

[Kevo]

One or my best friends committed suicide 7 years ago. He wasn't able to move past his childhood trauma despite a monumental effort.

It still hurts. He was a great man and a great friend, like a brother to me.

I talked to his wife a couple weeks ago. She said that she recently had a dream where he showed her this peaceful life he had in another place somewhere out there and that it gave her some closure. We were both choking up talking about it on the phone.

All the best to you and your kids. I'm so sorry.

[GiBo]

Damn. I'm so sorry. I have an ex and two 20 something kids. This really hit me.

Lost my 17 yo nephew to suicide 4 months ago. It's such a complicated mourning.

[bennymac]

Yeah the spectrum/constellation of emotions is incredible.

Frozen - give yourself permission to feel all those emotions - including anger.

[Art Shirk]

What a heartfelt and raw post. Fuck Frozen, im so sorry for you and your daughters. Much love to you guys.

I volunteer with a foundation that provides grief assistance to children who have lost a parent and I’ve seen firsthand the benefits of having that support. It’s awesome your kids have you as their father.


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[Blatant]

Fck. I cried. The older you get the more shit rings. Prayers and vibes man.

[Doremite]

I am incredibly sorry to hear. I have two (much younger) daughters despite my being the ~same age as Michelle. I can’t imagine having to support them in such a situation. I am sure you will do all you can — and do it well - while managing your own grief. Damn. Sincere condolences. Lean on this community as much as you need to.

I have lost a friend to suicide. It was hard to process and understand. Her situation was related to a state of mental health. I wish I’d been closer to her to have had more awareness. I felt guilt that I wasn’t in the know enough to have done more for her but perhaps there was no action of mine that would have mattered. I’ll never know.

[RShea]

Continue to be there for your daughters and celebrate all that she touched while here on earth. Her mark was left definitely on you and your time together as well as your kids. Nice tribute to her and your ups and downs and the love shared.

Prayers go out as you and your daughters deal with her taking of her own life, that can be rough also.

[fatnslow]

Vibes to you and your daughters. What a gut punch to lose someone that helped you become the man you are from the beginning. Whatever happened between you two at the end of your marriage doesn't change the fact you created four awesome people because you were together for 20 plus years.

[Woodsy]

For those of you who knew her, who shared a conversation, a drink, who felt welcomed into our homes and lives – please tip one back for her. Please send my daughters whatever positive vibes you’ve got.
Goodbye to the sweet 15 year old girl I met back in 1989. It was a helluva ride. I hope you find what you were missing here.

Was so sorry to hear F,
I only knew her with you when we met in the early-mid aughts and y'all didnt divorce till after I left and I am glad you and I stay in touch.

Both of your hospitality was greatly appreciated in SLC & in Driggs.
You were always gracious and entertaining hosts.

Her patience with us and abilty & willingness to care for your daughters while you and I had adventures up the Cottonwood Canyons as well as in downtown SLC/Park City definitely helped shape that time in my life.

Sorry she couldnt see a better way out and glad you and your new wife and son are doing so well. Look forward to J & my CJ sharing adventures one day.

big love for you from the right coast