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    EWG from the top rope!
    FKNA.

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    Quote Originally Posted by californiagrown View Post
    Woah, woah, woah there buddy. I said that trying for Thing #3 would be a great way to pass the time and take his mind of the empty nest. I never said anything about actually having another kid!
    Lmao sorry, my bad!

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    Quote Originally Posted by hatchgreenchile View Post
    EWG from the top rope!
    FKNA.
    X a million….. Thanks EWG.

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    Spouses/Parents often triangulate their relationship off of their kids. When the kids leave the home, the created system becomes unbalanced without the third leg of the kids. This imbalance can obviously feel uncomfortable. Have a discussion with your wife to jointly create a new shared leg to triangulate off and restore balance.

    At least that’s what our couples therapist introduced to us in our discussions about how to transition to empty nesting as gracefully as we can. I found it to be an interesting concept and has helped shape our conversations about our future.

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    why is the "nest" female?
    "fuck off you asshat gaper shit for brains fucktard wanker." - Jesus Christ
    "She was tossing her bean salad with the vigor of a Drunken Pop princess so I walked out of the corner and said.... "need a hand?"" - Odin
    "everybody's got their hooks into you, fuck em....forge on motherfuckers, drag all those bitches across the goal line with you." - (not so) ill-advised strategy

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    Triangulating relationships sounds naughty.
    "timberridge is terminally vapid" -- a fortune cookie in Yueyang

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    Quote Originally Posted by yeahman View Post
    Bucket list stuff does not need to be expensive. It's more about having the time free of any child-related obligations.
    Ya but we were already mostly doing that when the first kid was in college and the 2nd was in high school Younger kid was way more involved with her circle of friends and we left her behind when traveling.. which actually saved money too.

    Only thing that having her out too does is makes sex in places beyond the locked door of the master bedroom an option..
    Go that way really REALLY fast. If something gets in your way, TURN!

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    Quote Originally Posted by singlecross View Post
    Spouses/Parents often triangulate their relationship off of their kids. When the kids leave the home, the created system becomes unbalanced without the third leg of the kids. This imbalance can obviously feel uncomfortable. Have a discussion with your wife to jointly create a new shared leg to triangulate off and restore balance.

    At least that’s what our couples therapist introduced to us in our discussions about how to transition to empty nesting as gracefully as we can. I found it to be an interesting concept and has helped shape our conversations about our future.
    I think that is where my wife and I may be doing it right... we've always really like one another's company and the kids were always more of a nuisance than anything.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Danno View Post
    why is the "nest" female?
    A man nest just sounds gross.

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    mrs ::: ::: converted the boy's bedroom already to her sewing room
    he's only just had a week of classes lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by riser4 View Post
    It's only phase 1. ... We've been through a whole bunch of combinations of the three kids being away, being home, going away.
    This is the most likely scenario. Two of my brothers gladly rebounded home for at least six months, as did I (only under extreme financial duress - couldn't wait to GTFO again).

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    Quote Originally Posted by AK47bp View Post
    A man nest just sounds gross.
    It?

    The nest, it is empty?
    "fuck off you asshat gaper shit for brains fucktard wanker." - Jesus Christ
    "She was tossing her bean salad with the vigor of a Drunken Pop princess so I walked out of the corner and said.... "need a hand?"" - Odin
    "everybody's got their hooks into you, fuck em....forge on motherfuckers, drag all those bitches across the goal line with you." - (not so) ill-advised strategy

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    Wow, EWG wins at parenting.

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    I have an 8 and 4 yo I can lend to anyone who is missing having kids around. Grocery stipend included. Can deliver.

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    Quote Originally Posted by seano732 View Post
    C’Est le bon Chance Roullie,
    I have secondary advice. Get a Duolingo account and learn French, cause google has no idea what that is

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    Damn. Gonna bookmark this for next year...

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    Quote Originally Posted by skiJ View Post
    they already have three dogs.
    Then get another. Or give one away so they start fresh while keeping the numbers even.

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    Building on EWG's post, show Mrs. Seano tgapp's BDSM dungeon report and start the remodeling plans. Set some goals.

    And fwiw, I always throught it was creepy as fuck all the parents that kept my friend's rooms exactly the same as when they left. Weird ass time capsules from the late 90's.
    Wait, how can we trust this guy^^^ He's clearly not DJSapp

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    We don't need their rooms for anything so I don't have any plans to change them until I'm 90% sure they're gone for good. Which will probably be in about ten years.

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    Quote Originally Posted by zion zig zag View Post
    I have secondary advice. Get a Duolingo account and learn French, cause google has no idea what that is
    Lol you get the gist

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    Quote Originally Posted by SumJongGuy View Post
    Ya but we were already mostly doing that when the first kid was in college and the 2nd was in high school Younger kid was way more involved with her circle of friends and we left her behind when traveling.. which actually saved money too.

    Only thing that having her out too does is makes sex in places beyond the locked door of the master bedroom an option..
    Use that last thought and make a new bucket list.

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    I sent thing #3 a pic of my new office. He's like "hey, that's my room!". Not any more it isn't.

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    My 25 year old treats his old room like a by the hour motel or hostel. He only lives 5 miles away but if he's near home and partied a bit too hard just slips in through the back and sleeps here, usually with his girlfriend. Wakes up late with , "is there anything to eat ?" 50/50 success rate scoring free breakfast.

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    We have identical twins. Finally, after 6 years of college and grad school, with only half being away from home because of Covid, one is gone. Unfortunately, the way she left couldn't have been more painful, things were said that can't be unsaid and her mom isn't her biggest fan anymore because of it. We really don't like the guy she's with but that's for another time... Her sister is still here at home because that's the only way she could afford to go to the right grad school and she still has another 3 semesters. So, the quiet empty nest we were looking forward to won't happen for a while unless I get totally fed up and tell the one to split. Sometimes it's like my brain says 'Yo dude, you had a plan and it's a few years past time to see it happen' but then I think that my perception of what being a full-time dad was going to be 25 years ago was a little shortsighted. I dunno, it just seems like it's time to go get some shit done before I totally fall apart and actually get fat.

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    Quote Originally Posted by zion zig zag View Post
    Man I just can’t relate. Wife and I are empty nesters and it’s awesome. And now when I see my kids it’s meaningful with good conversations. Arguments with kids AND wife have decreased 99%.

    I don’t get the weepy listlessness. Don’t you have a life to live? Enjoy the ch-ch-ch-changes.
    100% this, but it takes a few years for some people to get here.
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