Gambling Addiction

[Lostintime]

Reaching out to the collective for advice. Presently separated from spouse. The other night she tells me she thinks she may have a gambling addiction. As someone said in the original sobriety thread, if you think you may have a problem, you have a problem. For years, I thought it was online shopping, now this revelation. Joint bank accounts cleared out, cash stolen, etc. Overdraft charges daily, often in excess of the original charge.

I imagine someone here has thoughts on where to seek effective help. Has anyone here been able to save a relationship that has been destroyed by gambling? Should I just run and call it good?

Someone here, I'm sure has some sage advice. Don't really know where to turn.

[Hott Butt Mud]

Sorry to hear man. Life is short. Move on and live the rest of your life without that drama.

It's one thing to lose your shared money on DUI's and bail money, but when it's gambling, that seems to be another level. And now that gambling is becoming more and more legal throughout the country, that problem ain't going away.

[stuckathuntermtn]

Well, first of all, you need to take back financial control or independence.
After that it's what she's willing to work on for herself and what you're willing to live with.
If there's no kids involved, pulling the ejection lever should be pretty painless if you have to go that route. Especially if there's no money left.

[AK47bp]

If you love this woman you should help her.

If you don’t love her move on.


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[riser4]

You got to know when to hold 'em, you got to know when to fold 'em

[Benny Profane]

I was reading just recently that this is a young person's problem, will fade.

[stealurface831]

You got to know when to hold 'em, you got to know when to fold 'em

know when to walk away, know when to run

[Lostintime]

If you love this woman you should help her.

If you don’t love her move on.


I love her and have a big heart, but am I just pissing in the wind?


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I was reading just recently that this is a young person's problem, will fade.

Is 38 young? I know you read everything.

[SkiBall]

Is 38 young? I know you read everything.

Your almost near the end. How do you want to spend your twilight years?

If she has found a bottom and willing to work to address issues, then you have some pondering to do. If she still is excuses and stories, save yourself. Either way, get control of what little money is left.

[Benny Profane]

Is 38 young? I know you read everything.

So, whatever. Pimp her out

[Lostintime]

Other than blaming genetics, I think she is coming to a great realization. As far as the money, it's been just joint savings and cash. No cash in house now.

[Harry]

Pimp her out

OP, Benny might have found the solution to your dilemma. We need pics of her, preferably nekkid, to properly evaluate Benny’s proposal.


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[riser4]

I want to buy your women.

[hawkgt]

"addiction is personal, you're white noise in background"

that comment from a friend hit home, and i decided to move out when i turned 18

understand that and work from there

[Lostintime]

OP, Benny might have found the solution to your dilemma. We need pics of her, preferably nekkid, to properly evaluate Benny’s proposal.


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Finally, some levity!

[hawkgt]

Finally, some levity!

[VTeton]

I had a buddy who lost quite a bit to Gambling. Owed a bookie 30gs, lost his long term GF, Job etc. I think he's better these days but still digging out of a whole. I'm concerned hes now betting on Gamestop etc..... It's tough but if you love her, maybe give it a chance... Why is she gambling? Boredom online? Casinos? Scratchys?

[ötzi]

Get your money where she can't get it, lock your credit, cancel any joint accounts, then give her a shot if you're feeling it.

7 to 5 she can beat it.

[hawkgt]

7 to 5 she can beat it.

fuck, i love this little special place in the digital world. well done

[MTT]

The is a 12 step program called GA

Most don't go until it's court ordered.

Serious gambling usually ends up with criminal charge's.

I live in Nevada. Not me,. But it's all around me.
It's really easy to fall into.

And deviating. Hits directly at family and friends.
End up losing both.

[muted]

7 to 5 she can beat it.

Wanna bet?

[4matic]

If you don’t have kids go dark and run. Close every account you can.

[Gepeto]

And deviating. Hits directly at family and friends.
End up losing everything.

fify



OP... evaluate the relationship without the weight of the addiction. Could it/would it be healthy and good for both of you? There's your answer.

...all around me.
It's really easy to fall into.

Sounder words would be hard to find.

Make a recovering alcoholic sleep in a liquor store? Removing the addict from the environment would greatly accelerate her recovery.

GA meetings are a good idea. Being around other people stuck on chasing the "juice".

[Lostintime]

fify



OP... evaluate the relationship without the weight of the addiction. Could it/would it be healthy and good for both of you? There's your answer.


Sounder words would be hard to find.

Make a recovering alcoholic sleep in a liquor store? Removing the addict from the environment would greatly accelerate her recovery.

GA meetings are a good idea. Being around other people stuck on chasing the "juice".

You really can't remove someone from the online gaming environment. Jeezus, if you are going to gamble, play something with better odds. She's very bright, but the addiction leads to some poor choices.

Aside from the gambling issues, our lives have been great together

[Skidog]

Sorry to hear man. Life is short. Move on and live the rest of your life without that drama.

It's one thing to lose your shared money on DUI's and bail money, but when it's gambling, that seems to be another level. And now that gambling is becoming more and more legal throughout the country, that problem ain't going away.

OP sorry to hear. I don't want to rush to say cut n run, but you do have lots to consider now. Gambling seems like an addiction that has a bad chance to fuck you big time..

As to hott butt mud comment. I was just saying to my wife how horrible I think it is they can advertise gambling on tv for online participation. Disgusts me. I'm cool with gambling and all, but that advertising tv shits got to go...seems predatory. Free money if you join etc...like if you want to gamble you know where to go, putting it on tv opens it to people who think "just one big win", and down the hole we go.

Good luck OP, vibes.

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