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    Put the keyboard down booner.

    It sounds like you need to get some actual help with this.. rather than talking about it here.

    At the very least you and she need to have a conversation about you feeling that you need help.
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    There's a shit-load of projection going on in this thread.

    One thing: those of you who don't have kids really need to stop giving advice. You just have no idea how different a marriage is after that - everything is far more complex to a degree you cannot understand even though you probably think you know.

    Having said that, booner, it's just money - who cares? You can't take it with you. I'm actually okay with the idea of hiding some money in advance so long as you give it directly to your kids later on.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TahoeJ View Post
    Having said that, booner, it's just money - who cares? You can't take it with you. I'm actually okay with the idea of hiding some money in advance so long as you give it directly to your kids later on.
    Regarding the money, my kids will be fine. They're well taken care of and always will be.

    It's me I worry about. I'm an expensive kid. I've worked hard to get to where I am. To revert back to being broke again would crush me.


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    Quote Originally Posted by TahoeJ View Post
    One thing: those of you who don't have kids really need to stop giving advice. those of you who don't have kids really need to stop giving advice. You just have no idea how different a marriage is after that
    It doesn't make this thread a good idea.
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    Quote Originally Posted by booner View Post

    Now, real talk...

    I like to spark debate sometimes while sacrificing a bit of reality. I do love the porn though...Not faking that.

    I'll make sure I have her spread her ass real wide so we can debate whether or not she's due for a bleaching.









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    How does sitting on the toilet for an hr after a night of screamers help?
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    I hear you Booner... Being married is tough. While I don't always like the way my wife acts or some of the decisions she makes, I do love her, and I am not inclined to actually leave. For me, it really is about me. I can be an impatient perfectionist, and I try not to impose those expectations on the people around me. They're painful and frustrating enough for me already, and it's not like any person or thing is going to live up to them, so might as well keep that shit to myself.

    Good luck.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Timberridge View Post
    How does sitting on the toilet for an hr after a night of screamers help?
    That's when I do my best reflecting (PORN!)


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    Quote Originally Posted by booner View Post
    I did the right thing and walked away from the situation without putting her down or yelling. I should have yelled at her...she certainly deserved it, but that would have made things worse, and I would have become the bad guy.
    I obviously don't know you or your situation and I am certainly not the perfect guy so take this however you want.

    You're the bad guy for being a pussy and not dealing with things. It's easy to hide at the bottom of a pint glass. She probably didn't deserve to be yelled at and you probably are not the right person to do the yelling if she did. She probably deserved someone to listen to her with an open mind and then have a conversation with her. Comes with being in a relationship. You deserve the same. Us dudes have a way of feeling smart by making others feel dumb. Ultimately, we look like assholes. If you look around the room and can't pick out the prick, it's probably you.

    If you want out, get out. If you want to stay, try being a supportive gentleman. You married someone dumb so either realize you did it and swallow it or move on. If you were blinded by tang, that's your own fault. Or maybe you like feeling smart so you find someone "dumb" to spend time with. Seriously, I'd rather be the dumb one in the relationship.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AaronWright View Post
    Child support is for the custodial spouse to maintain a household and lifestyle that the children were accustomed to before the divorce, much like alimony or maintenance. It's based off the combined net of the couple usually and then apportioned according to the ratio of who earns more or less. It sound like your ex made less than you and/or you live in a state without alimony or maintenance.

    Child support isn't supposed to be given directly to the children it's to help the custodial parent support the children. When people have attitudes like "none of the money get's to the kids" we wind up with child support registries and dead beat dad laws.

    When I got divorced I willingly paid more alimony instead of a large amount of child support. Alimony is a tax deduction for me and a income for her. Increasing her income lessens my child support burden.

    The key to a happy divorce is to be smart, thorough and patient as well as being fair, not bitter and putting your emotions in a box.
    Thank you Capt Obvious.

    The point is that she got $2k in child support a month, and the kids were always in rags, and there was "nothing for them".

    Right, that was (15-20 years ago), and even though according to the law, that was supposed to support them, in fact, I got bagged with LOTS of extra expense waaaay above and beyond what I was obligated to so as not to see them go without.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bite me View Post
    Thank you Capt Obvious.

    The point is that she got $2k in child support a month, and the kids were always in rags, and there was "nothing for them".

    Right, that was (15-20 years ago), and even though according to the law, that was supposed to support them, in fact, I got bagged with LOTS of extra expense waaaay above and beyond what I was obligated to so as not to see them go without.
    $2K/month doesn't go very far when it comes to the expense of kids IMO. We fly through food, clothes, medical bills, gas, etc. Then when you pile on expenses for school and activities, that $2K seems a bit paltry IMO. 15-20 years ago makes a big difference...so maybe i'm off base.

    To the OP: For the kids, either stay or leave...that should be the main factor your calculation, not your personal happiness alone. You chose to bring them into the world so it's up to you to provide the best situation for them...and that may very well be that it's better for them if you and your wife part ways.
    Damn shame, throwing away a perfectly good white boy like that

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    You gotta know when to fold em
    Know when to hold em
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    Quote Originally Posted by booner View Post

    Ibut it's pretty comical to read what some people think the reality is.

    I was pretty fired up when I originally posted because I was, once again, dealing with unnecessary drama due to her insecurity.

    I did the right thing and walked away from the situation without putting her down or yelling. I should have yelled at her...she certainly deserved it, but that would have made things worse, and I would have become the bad guy.



    Now, real talk...

    It's just getting more and more difficult to deal with her shit. I don't treat her bad or fight in front of the kids. We actually hardly ever fight. I'm just finding myself regularly fighting the urge to blow up at her and tell her to knock her shit off. I'm not sure I can do it forever.



    It's more about the thoughts I have of where things might be headed, not where they are.

    And for the record, the poor girl takes enough of the D as it is...Not sure it's in her best interest to get punished anymore than she already does. Although I do like the idea.


    I agree that naked pics are going to help everyone fully understand the situation. I'm going to let her know that I started a thread about how I want to leave her cause she's dumb, and that naked pics are in order so the random Internet peeps can help me find the right path.

    I'll make sure I have her spread her ass real wide so we can debate whether or not she's due for a bleach
    You are the one baring your soul. Even in your overly macho "I'm smarter/better/drunker than everyone" style, you reveal the seriously desperate nature of your current situation.

    Drinking less, focusing on your children (who are not babies anymore) and being a better friend to your wife seem like top priorities in your drama world.

    You win no prizes for being "right" in a family. It is HOW and the STYLE you impart knowledge............because people will only remember how angry you are.....not that you may have been right.
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    Quote Originally Posted by bite me View Post
    Thank you Capt Obvious.

    The point is that she got $2k in child support a month, and the kids were always in rags, and there was "nothing for them".

    Right, that was (15-20 years ago), and even though according to the law, that was supposed to support them, in fact, I got bagged with LOTS of extra expense waaaay above and beyond what I was obligated to so as not to see them go without.
    Holy fuck your ex shold have spent $100 of that child support to buy you a clue. "Extra expense" over and above your $2k/month for 2+ kids. Oh yeah, it must have been just awwwwwwffullllll!!! "But" you say, it was 15 or 20 years ago, so it was 1995 or 2000, when $2k a month still wasn't enough to even begin to raise a kid. Pull your head from your ass and stop bitching about the woman who raised your children.

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    Quote Originally Posted by smartyiak View Post
    That's funny...for a long time I was in almost the same boat as you...but I was too poor to get divorced. Now I'm much richer...and not just in a monetary sense.


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    if your unhappy she is probably just as unhappy. Divorce, now we are both happier. As for the money. If you actually have some it is pretty easy to split in two and still be fine. keep the lawyers out. Simple dissolution. I kept my retirement and my business. We split all the assets. Since we both loved the kids was fairly easy to agree on custody. A friend who has been divorced twice says. No big deal once you realize nobody cares.
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    Quote Originally Posted by AaronWright View Post
    I agree. Be a man for fuck's sake. "hide your cash"? If she were to find out about that the court battle would likely be more expensive than what you're hiding. Also it's fucking childish and selfish and she'd be better off without a "man" like that.


    Because her lawyer is going to tell her to take it easy on him? I dont think so.

    If you have no leverage they will walk all over you. They will not negotiate. I was practically murdered. Only now do i get an apology, and reason. 7 yrs later broke but there for my kids. Happens to alot of good men.

    Ill share this, because it will get a chuckle . But i was locked up. and banned from my home. I had 2 million up for grabs i made it myself, and they went for it all!!! No mercy, none. But when they ransacked my house for tax records etc. they forgot the porn tapes. And a month later, when I was allowed home, to find everything gone or sold, including my house, I reached up high, and wouldnt you know it? There they were. The home porn tapes. All atempts on my life ceased after that.

    life is nasty. i wish it were not.

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    I get the feeling there's a lot of one-sided hate fucking.
    Next time you're really railing it, tell to stop being such a closed off, insecure cunt. Time how long you can hang on. Post results in Bullfighting tread. Ok, that's bull riding, but it's close.
    No longer stuck.

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    Just an uneducated guess.

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    Quote Originally Posted by flatlander#2 View Post
    And Ice will get caught, go to the joint and be trying to fit in by regaling the brothers with stories, trying to keep on the good side of the rapers. He'll be telling a highlarryus yarn about flicking a match end in some dudes ear when a huge guy will stand up and say I've been deaf in this ear ever since that happened, it's how people sneak up and rape me in here.
    I can totally see this happening. You bought her another day, dude.

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    Quote Originally Posted by stuckathuntermtn View Post
    I get the feeling there's a lot of one-sided hate fucking.
    Next time you're really railing it, tell to stop being such a closed off, insecure cunt. Time how long you can hang on. Post results in Bullfighting tread. Ok, that's bull riding, but it's close.
    this might be the best thing you've ever posted.
    "fuck off you asshat gaper shit for brains fucktard wanker." - Jesus Christ
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    When I was a young man in in early CPA job i did a lotta work for a client "george." Must have had about 10 or so profitable activites going on, Strip shopping centers, large insurance agency, rental centers, etc. probably worth 25 million or so today.

    "claude" was the partner. One day I said something like "george sure does do well for himself, good client to have" to which claude said, "best thing I ever done for george...george said claude ahm thinkin of gettin me a DE-vorce (deep south). ah told george, I says george, it's true, you gotta lotta money. I ain't think you gotta nuff moneyfor a DE-vorce.

    Yep. that's the best thing I ever done for george."
    "Can't you see..."

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    He must of been doing more for George. Amazing people value money over quality of life.
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    ^ imagine that someone might think of thier kids before themselves. oh the horror.
    "Can't you see..."

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    sorry I thought your post was about money
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