Question for parents

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All kidding aside......

Like others have said, here's how I really feel.

If you think your kid is getting bullied or being a wimp, let'em scrap.

If your kid is the one being the douche and is being a bully, pull him away and explain why it's not cool.

[Stu Gotz]

THIS.

When I was in third grade, I got into a fight with the neighbor kid. We must have fought for a solid hour. I was getting beat pretty good for a while, and the kids Dad was cheering him on out the house window. This hurt the most.
Luckily the fight ended when I had the kid by his neck with his head locked into a drainage ditch. I punched that kid in the face until my knuckles were bleeding. His face was all blood. [/glory days]

I figure that up until about 8th grade, kids can't really hurt themselves in fights. Busted lip, bloody nose. Wounded pride. That's about it. No one really wants to hurt the other person.

Truth be told, I think my buddy had just read a book about kids needing to be more independent. I have no problem with that, but figure at two, problems are tough to solve when you can't communicate at a very high level.

[AsheanMT]

THIS.

When I was in third grade, I got into a fight with the neighbor kid. We must have fought for a solid hour. I was getting beat pretty good for a while, and the kids Dad was cheering him on out the house window. This hurt the most.
Luckily the fight ended when I had the kid by his neck with his head locked into a drainage ditch. I punched that kid in the face until my knuckles were bleeding. His face was all blood. [/glory days]

Which is why I won't stand for it as a parent. Its my responsibility to help us evolve and I'm not gonna sit on the sidelines and let the same old behavior ,that has been handed down to us from the primates, continue.

There is a time and a place that one does have to physically fight back. But I think its a better idea to avoid such stupid situations. Its my job to teach my kid how to do just that. Realize what stupid behavior and what stupid situations are so that he can avoid them. Self control is the best form of self preservation. IMO

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Which is why I won't stand for it as a parent. Its my responsibility to help us evolve and I'm not gonna sit on the sidelines and let the same old behavior ,that has been handed down to us from the primates, continue.

There is a time and a place that one does have to physically fight back. But I think its a better idea to avoid such stupid situations. Its my job to teach my kid how to do just that. Realize what stupid behavior and what stupid situations are so that he can avoid them. Self control is the best form of self preservation. IMO

good post. I agree.

[Poop~Ghost]

I've got a boy and girl about to turn 2 and 4. They fight pretty good over the same toys and so we spend a good deal of energy trying to teach them how to not RIP a toy out of each other's hands.

it's like having a couple of little insane orangutans running around the house.

kids at that age have so little control over their emotions - it really does make me laugh. When the older one takes something forcibly from the younger ones hands, the trembling anger/sadness/rage on her face is something to behold.

[Liveezy]

His face was all blood. [/glory days]

No way dude i totally had you.

Yea, separate them if you will, but me and my dad didn't hang out together at rugby practice. I had t look after myself and its a good job i knew how.

[Downbound Train]

I think it depends what kind of kid you want to produce. I don't picture Bill Gates or some big nerdy banker doing a lot of scrapping as a kid. Chuck Lidell or Brian Erlacher?
Scrap away.

I like to try to encourage them to talk their way out of trouble. Talking is what happens in the grown up world - mostly.

[MMP]

there are a few things that are worth fighting over when you're a kid. your kid brother, your sister, your mom, your race, or your religion. your toys? not so much. when you break up a struggle over a toy you aren't creating a pussy or discouraging bullying, you're teaching them how to communicate. a kid called my son a derogatory name based on our religion and i instructed him to punch him in the face. another time he was getting shit from a kid at football practice (grabbed, pushed, etc when in line for drills). i showed him how to drop a bigger kid on the field. neither happened, but the message was, stick up for yourself and don't be a doormat.

[Tippster]

If you think your kid is getting bullied or being a wimp, let'em scrap.

If your kid is the one being the douche and is being a bully, pull him away and explain why it's not cool.

What Brett said.

[TBS]

I think 2 years old is a little young to be encouraging fighting. They still think they are the center of the universe, and haven't learned many problem solving tools, so they usually resort to whacking on each other to resolve conflict. Teaching them some alternatives to the shovel-across-the-skull option is usually a good start at that point.

Once the kids get a little older and understand better how to deal with others, then teach them some self defense skills and let 'em scrap.