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04-14-2021, 10:32 AM #2676
Anytime I’ve been driving in the mountains at night during a snowstorm my wife or partner has been asleep in the passenger seat
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04-14-2021, 10:45 AM #2677
Best bang for your buck: https://www.amazon.com/Breville-BES8...1&ts_id=289748
I have two of them. Oddly they are $100 more expensive now than when I bought each of them. Maybe covid related or something.I ski 135 degree chutes switch to the road.
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04-14-2021, 10:55 AM #2678
There is an espresso/coffee thread and a coffee roasting thread - both full of good info whether you’re a beginner or expert or somewhere in between. Tgapp is TGR’s resident coffee guru (and will not tell you that you need to spends thousands of dollars and hours of your day to have great coffee)
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04-14-2021, 10:57 AM #2679
Are you kidding? For that money you can't even get a halfway decent grinder. Might as well drink Sanka. (I have a couple of Brevilles without grinders. It must be awful being married to a coffee nerd. Enough to drive a woman to herbal tea. On second thought they do that on their own. Every time I open my pantry 47 different kinds of tea spill out, none of which are actually tea. When I go to the grocery store I can't even find plain black tea amid all the crap so called teas.)
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04-14-2021, 11:06 AM #2680
yeah i agree with this. honestly. i would get the amazon warehouse deal one for $450 tho, i've had such good luck with amazon warehouse deals in the past (especially when sold by amazon) - it's almost always that the box is beat up or something seriously minor. i just scored their $400 kuat knockoff 2-tray bike rack (Allen branded) for $150, and it was new in packaging. maybe the box was beat up? i couldn't tell.
breville has amazing customer service and a great warranty, but good luck getting your wife to actually use the damn thing
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04-14-2021, 11:13 AM #2681Registered User
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I have a Rancillio Sylvia at home and the cheapest Breville the roma at GF's , I've had a lot of experiance with this MC and it actualy makes a pretty good Espresso
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04-14-2021, 11:15 AM #2682
Ms Boissal uses our constantly. I've given up on trying to convince her of a few things, namely:
. tamping her coffee properly and removing the loose stuff on the edge of the basket
. not dumping excess milk into the tray where it happily turns into coffee-flavored cheese
. cleaning the wand immediately after using it (see cheese story above)
. keeping the tank full so it doesn't run out halfway through a pull...
. not ignoring the cleaning light but instead do the 5-minute super easy cleaning cycle
The machine is still miraculously alive after 3 years of heavy use, it just takes a thorough weekly cleaning to keep up with her methods. It makes her really happy in the morning, totally worth it. She's a dysfunctional monster before coffee. It's super obvious when we're camping as she won't deal with the manual grinder on her own, she's too impatient. She waits for me to get up instead, and by wait I mean she sits on the tailgate and stares at me angrily until I get up to make the coffee. Then I get a talking to about not bringing creamer or milk, things I have NEVER USED IN MY LIFE."Your wife being mad is temporary, but pow turns do not get unmade" - mallwalker the wise
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04-14-2021, 11:16 AM #2683lysterine
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04-14-2021, 11:25 AM #2684
for powdered instant -
https://49thcoffee.com/collections/instant-coffees (h/t bmac for turning me on to them, they're great)
https://swiftcupcoffee.com/ - also fantastic, i like their kenyans quite a bit
powdered instant coffee lacks the aroma of freshly brewed coffee but both of these brands do a good job.. good enough that i no longer take my handgrinder on backpacking/climbing trips
for frozen instant (higher quality but less convenient for long backpacking trips or whatever)
https://cometeer.com/
cometeer is as good or better than most speciality coffee shops, for reference
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04-14-2021, 12:06 PM #2685Registered User
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This is my conundrum too. Back when we were just dating i used to (still do) do all the driving and she would never offer to help with gas which kind of bothered me so i would try and make here drive on any "easy" good weather drives. That strategy officially ended on a roadtrip to CA when i woke up to her sitting cross legged going 70 in cruise control weaving around semis going over siskyou pass. now when i get bothered by always driving i just think that id rather be sober and uncomfortable than dead.
I;ve had that a couple times where she has been passed out and i just spent the last 3 hours battling shit driving conditions, but have finally gotten to lowlands or a good road or clear weather and am cruising again. She will wake up and mention how i'm not making very good time, or "you shouldnt drink so much caffeine". Most of the time she stays awake though, which I appreciate for someone to talk to when the driving is boring... also it doesnt help when you start drifting or fishtailing and that wakes her up with a start and she freaks out... better for her to see the loose moments coming.
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04-14-2021, 12:36 PM #2686
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04-14-2021, 01:00 PM #2687
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04-14-2021, 01:16 PM #2688
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04-14-2021, 01:22 PM #2689
Art, don't get me started.
Not being on the same page with parenting was a major contributor to the eventual end of my long marriage. Calm is so critical. I wasn't always as calm as I should have been back in those days, but she'd get pissed at me when I came down on the guys for treating her like shit, which she let them do. It was fucked up, frustrating, and completely befuddling.
She refused to follow through on consequences she threatened, adhere to our agreements about how to handle things, or be a bad guy in any way besides constantly accusing them of being drunk or high when they came home as teenagers. They STILL talk about how painful that was for them because while sometimes they were drunk or high, they often weren't, and 99% of the time they adhered to their agreements about when they had to come home etc. I got in trouble for protecting them from that shit too. Ugh.
Eventually, I did a lot of work in therapy (pre, during and post marriage failure) to learn to manage my automatic reactions to various trigger points, see them coming, and not allow them to dictate my responses. By the time I figured it out and got a handle on it they were mostly grown up, and I had to go back and do a ton of healing with them - including proving I had changed with long term behavior - which I'm grateful to say was successful, and our relationships are amazing. But that was some tough work too.
So I ended up being the sole responsible party for trying to be a parent and apply consequences for behavior issues. That of course made me more stressed and pissed off and reactive!
I realize your roles are different, and this is still a few years out for you and yours, but it'll come on quick and the way you set things up and work together now will set the stage for those challenging years, and maybe keep your relationship whole.
I hugely recommend getting some help to come to some kind of agreements you can both adhere to around parenting and reactions. It's an investment you won't regret.
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04-14-2021, 01:48 PM #2690Good-lookin' wool
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Thanks for the thoughful reply, P. I can totally see how crucial it is for us to get on the same page as soon as possible. I am fighting an especially tough battle because my wife's father left at a young age, so my wife, her sister and her mother became a bit more like siblings just trying to make their way together in the world. Certain barriers were destroyed, and it is hard for her to remain in a mother role in tense situations. In order to cope with the stress, they also got tricked into thinking that they could blow it all out at a drop of a hat and that they wouldn't hold grudges later. Sounds good in principle, but it escalated things unnecessarily and no one had the EQ to actually disassociate with harsh words after the fact. I see the cycle starting again and I don't want to be a referee, I want to co-parent.
Actually had a heart to heart with her yesterday, and the new plan is that if things start to spin out of control, I won't attempt to control them in the moment, I will calmly ask to speak with her in private, but immediately behind closed doors, and we can then present a unified front after discussion. This will also allow time for tempers to subside. I hope this is a good first step.
Damn, shit got real in here. We can get back to some more light-hearted stuff like pouring milk into the run-off tray in the coffee machine?? Holy hell that's a new one.
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04-14-2021, 01:57 PM #2691
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04-14-2021, 04:05 PM #2692
The driving ones reminded me of this, old but good:
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04-14-2021, 04:46 PM #2693
I'd love to give her the benefit of the doubt but it's happened too often to be an accidental spill. I think there's too much milk in there and it goes in the tray, either cause it frothes like crazy and goes overboard or because she dumps it in there. I haven't seen it happened yet, I usually find out when I clean the thing.
Right? Even us cheese-lovers haven't made a coffee cheese yet, and for good reasons...
The steam wand thing kills me, and I never ever use it myself. She usually wipes it with the first sponge she can get her hands on, which sometimes is the nasty ass sponge for the counters, not the one for dishes. It makes me gag. I usually clean the wand by running in near-boiling water and even then I look at it suspiciously.
She probably feels the same way about my habit of eating whatever crumb I find on the table and occasionally the ground. I just tell her she doesn't know what it is to have grown up hungry. Neither do I TBH but you gotta justify your weird shit somehow."Your wife being mad is temporary, but pow turns do not get unmade" - mallwalker the wise
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04-14-2021, 05:20 PM #2694
I think that's a great first step. If I might suggest an addendum to that conversation ASAP, it's about adhering to that agreement, and what steps/processes will you engage together if one of you finds it impossible to go along with the program. Like, "what do we do TOGETHER if I ask to speak with you in private and you're so pissed off at the kids you yell at me (which I completely understand!), or won't have that private conversation?"
Grudges maybe not, but resentment can quietly build over time and fester. Have an agreement to follow up on conflict later when everyone is calm so it doesn't do that. There are some great (and hard!) strategies for this. Happy to talk with you if you want.
Of course the key element in all these things is that both of you must abide by your agreements no matter how pissed off you get. That's where my shit came apart. She just wouldn't. And this shit is fuckin' hard.
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04-14-2021, 05:28 PM #2695Registered User
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04-14-2021, 05:37 PM #2696
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04-14-2021, 05:40 PM #2697
It hasn't been perfect, but we are together 99.99% of the time on what to do when reprimanding mini-plug. We both kinda knew that going in, and actually will basically have some sort of meeting beforehand. We don't always agree, but we compromise somehow and go with that. It also becomes a way to not go off the cuff and fly off the handle.
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That strategy officially ended on a roadtrip to CA when i woke up to her sitting cross legged going 70 in cruise control weaving around semis going over siskyou pass. now when i get bothered by always driving i just think that id rather be sober and uncomfortable than dead.
Very early in our relationship we were driving to Tahoe from fishing S. of Reno somewhere. I was driving, and I started to get stomach cramps really bad, so future Mrs. Plug offered to drive. We started to head over one of the passes, (prolly on 89), and they were doing construction, so it was even more curvy and confusing. She started hitting the brakes completely randomly, swerving, obviously driving towards something then hitting the brakes and steering back to the center of the lane, etc. Turns out she can't see well at night, and basically hates driving.
I'm groaning and in pain, but she was fucking killing me.
I drove from then on.Well maybe I'm the faggot America
I'm not a part of a redneck agenda
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04-14-2021, 05:54 PM #2698
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04-14-2021, 06:02 PM #2699Registered User
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If you ever figure out how to get her to differentiate between a counter sponge and a dish sponge, and particularly to avoid using the dish sponge on counters, could you please let me know?
The idea of rinsing out the sponge and then winging out as much as possible also seems to be incomprehensible. After all, why would you want to deprive whatever you just cleaned off the dishes of the opportunity to hang out in the sponge and party?
Also, bonus points if you have a way to explain that things that were just on the ground (eg tote bag) shouldn't next go on the food prep counter.
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