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Thread: Does Marriage Make Sense Today?
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02-09-2022, 05:45 PM #1Registered User
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Does Marriage Make Sense Today?
I'm in my 30s in a committed relationship that has been serious for about two years. I love my girlfriend and I'm starting to think about getting married.
Having seen friends go through some rough divorces, I'm wondering if it makes sense in today's legal environment of spousal support, alimony and splitting assets.
I make roughly 2x what she does. Neither of us have debt. My net worth is in the low seven figures and hers is in the low six figures.
We are both likely to inherit money from our families in our lifetimes. She will likely inherit an amount that is significantly larger than I will.
Neither of us are religious and neither of our families are religious, so there is no religious pressure to get married. At a minimum, it seems like it makes sense to have a prenup in place before getting married to protect both of our assets and the assets of our families.
That said, the current legal environment for marriage seems very, very broken and I can't see any tangible benefit to being married.
Is the current legal system too far gone? Would you get married today?
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02-09-2022, 05:49 PM #2
Until you have kids - NO
If and when you have kids - YES
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02-09-2022, 05:49 PM #3
why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?
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02-09-2022, 05:51 PM #4
Other than kids, the only other big reason is health insurance.
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02-09-2022, 05:58 PM #5
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02-09-2022, 06:01 PM #6
The system is geared to benefit marriage.
Employee benefits extend to spouses
Tax rates are geared to benefit marriage, especially with a significant income differential between partners
When one of you has a health issue, it's significantly easier to act on a spouses behalf than prove you're authorized as a FWB
Buying a home or car is easier since they look at joint income and not individual
Mortgage interest deduction used to be better, still isn't bad
Once kids are involved, if you're not married she calls all the legal shots and you get no say in anythingWait, how can we trust this guy^^^ He's clearly not DJSapp
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02-09-2022, 06:11 PM #7
Wow, seven figure net worth in your thirties and still waiting for the inheritance lotto.
Pre nup, bud.
If you do get married, pick the best state for joint asset sharing, or, lack of, since you're already pretty convinced it won't work. Don't have kids. Divorce fucks them up.
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02-09-2022, 06:15 PM #8Registered User
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RE: taxation, we got fucked when we got married (I mean, that's the whole point! rimshot) because pre-marriage I took the mortgage deduction and my wife took the standard deduction. When we started filing joint, we still itemized but our biggest deduction was the mortgage, so we deducted much less. So tax impact might not be positive. But yeah, otherwise totally agree with DJSapp.
Sounds like both of you could potentially benefit from a prenup - you shelter your net worth, she protects her anticipated inheritance. worth bringing up if you think you can do it in a way that won't turn her off the whole idea of marrying you in the first place
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02-09-2022, 06:16 PM #9
I'll say "NO!"
But I'm biased.It makes perfect sense...until you think about it.
I suspect there's logic behind the madness, but I'm too dumb to see it.
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02-09-2022, 06:27 PM #10Registered User
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Nah, fuck all that shit. Drop her, enjoy your seven figures and have multiple casual shitty relationships while you count your money.
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02-09-2022, 06:29 PM #11
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02-09-2022, 06:35 PM #12Rope->Dope
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Does Marriage Make Sense Today?
If she posts in the ULLR thread, we can provide a clearer answer.
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02-09-2022, 06:36 PM #13
Does Marriage Make Sense Today?
I am six months away from ending the nightmare you fear. Divorced when my kids were two, and now they are off to college.
I have lived the nightmare to it’s fullest. Millions wasted, and very little skiing.
Do not get married without a prenup, never. Even if you’re broke. And even still, put assets into trusts etc.
Your money is your business only, if they don’t like it, find one who will.
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02-09-2022, 06:38 PM #14
Nine posts and we’re your marriage consultants?
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02-09-2022, 06:40 PM #15
Can you at least post a few pix of her tits first?!
The nerve of some people....Daniel Ortega eats here.
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02-09-2022, 06:42 PM #16man of ice
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02-09-2022, 06:47 PM #17Registered User
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As someone who is in their 20s and in a pretty serious relationship, I still don’t know how I’d ever consider getting married without a prenup. Maybe that makes me a shitty person [shrug]. But the thing is, no one can deny that it’s impossible to predict the future, no matter how good things are in the present.
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02-09-2022, 06:49 PM #18
M series Jong's these days. Get off my lawn.
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02-09-2022, 06:50 PM #19
Ask your lawyer
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02-09-2022, 06:51 PM #20
Does she want kids?
Does she want to get married?
Do you want kids?A woman reported to police at 6:30 p.m. that she was being "smart-mouthed."
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02-09-2022, 06:54 PM #21
I've been married 11 years, going on 12 in May. Happy I made that choice.
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02-09-2022, 06:59 PM #22
Can't tell ya if she's a keeper without seeing her ski
There is sumthins to be said about the ceremonies and vows before friends n fams
And striving to keep them and share a life together in matrinony"When the child was a child it waited patiently for the first snow and it still does"- Van "The Man" Morrison
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02-09-2022, 07:01 PM #23retired ed
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Cheap wedding invitations and hope for the best
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02-09-2022, 07:01 PM #24
Does marriage make sense today? Short answer: no
Long answer: yes
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02-09-2022, 07:03 PM #25
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