Fatherhood anonymous; an open discussion on being a dad.

**riser4** · 09-16-2023, 08:33 AM

Originally Posted by subtle plague

The big girl had her first days of school.
Exiciting times for everyone.

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Dang, nobody rolled me the big phat Bob Marley cone on my first day of school! Kids these days!

**Norseman** · 09-16-2023, 09:41 AM

Originally Posted by riser4

Dang, nobody rolled me the big phat Bob Marley cone on my first day of school! Kids these days!

Complete with baked sea life, purple easy-light tissue, and glittered JAH label!

**jackattack** · 09-16-2023, 09:52 AM

Conicals exhibit anxiety quelling properties

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Schult%C3%BCte

**SchralphMacchio** · 09-16-2023, 12:02 PM

Stoned out of his miiiiiiiiiiiiiind!

**subtle plague** · 09-16-2023, 01:34 PM

Yeah I mean if you don't praise di herb in the family the kids will never learn to be true believers in Jah.

I reckon school cones with Gifts are not a thing in the US.

**riser4** · 09-16-2023, 10:06 PM

Originally Posted by subtle plague

Yeah I mean if you don't praise di herb in the family the kids will never learn to be true believers in Jah.

I reckon school cones with Gifts are not a thing in the US.

I reckon.

**lowsparkco** · 09-16-2023, 11:23 PM

My kid is 4 months old.

It is a Thule Chariot I picked up used.

I went ahead and picked up a cheap cruiser with a QR to tool around the neighborhood, but that might end up being a spring activity.

I thought about the infant adapter, I’m using a car seat adapter in a Burley jogging stroller, but her mom isn’t crazy about it. She’s pretty big and strong, but she’s still only 4 months old. Even sitting safely in her car seat I can’t watch her bump all around. Looks like I’ll be sticking fo the bike path and her jogger until ski season rolls around. We have quite a bit of good groomed skiing in central OR - so that will probably be our thing this winter.

**fatnslow** · 09-17-2023, 09:01 AM

Just dropped last kid off for his sophomore year of college. Moved into a high rise appt that charges a premium and in true college town fashion they basically don't clean between renters. Bought him a weeks worh of groceries and a 30 pack before bailing.

**Bunion 2020** · 09-17-2023, 09:22 AM

Doin it wrong.

and a 29 pack before bailing

**Choss Jonger, Sr.** · 09-18-2023, 10:06 AM

Our little girl, Mica Magnolia, is four months old and the best thing either of us have ever been a part of.

She is increasingly insistent that she spend her day time upright on her feet. It goes so fast, this pure magic of new family.

**doebedoe** · 09-18-2023, 10:13 AM

Originally Posted by fatnslow

Just dropped last kid off for his sophomore year of college. Moved into a high rise appt that charges a premium and in true college town fashion they basically don't clean between renters. Bought him a weeks worh of groceries and a 30 pack before bailing.

I have a fond memory of getting off the elevator with my pops moving into my dorm. He was carrying a case of two buck chuck for 18yo me first time he met my RA.

19ish years til I get to replicate.

**SchralphMacchio** · 09-18-2023, 10:24 AM

Originally Posted by lowsparkco

My kid is 4 months old.

It is a Thule Chariot I picked up used.

I went ahead and picked up a cheap cruiser with a QR to tool around the neighborhood, but that might end up being a spring activity.

I thought about the infant adapter, I’m using a car seat adapter in a Burley jogging stroller, but her mom isn’t crazy about it. She’s pretty big and strong, but she’s still only 4 months old. Even sitting safely in her car seat I can’t watch her bump all around. Looks like I’ll be sticking fo the bike path and her jogger until ski season rolls around. We have quite a bit of good groomed skiing in central OR - so that will probably be our thing this winter.

If you make it to the Doo, I have a Thule infant sling for the Chariot that you can have. Actually I’ll be at Crescent Lake for the eclipse in 4 weeks.

**jackattack** · 09-18-2023, 11:54 AM

Originally Posted by waveshello

I have an old burley tandem with the softride beam. I might have to modify it for a gear/kid hauler. Did you do anything unique to make this setup work?

**fatnslow** · 09-18-2023, 12:13 PM

Originally Posted by doebedoe

I have a fond memory of getting off the elevator with my pops moving into my dorm. He was carrying a case of two buck chuck for 18yo me first time he met my RA.

19ish years til I get to replicate.

Kid has 4 roomates all oldest kids in their families. Kind of funny seeing all their moms cleaning, setting up their baby boys' rooms while I dumped all his shit in a pile, went shopping, ate a late lunch and dropped him off. My wife actually scheduled a girls vacation so I was in charge of the move in process. Might as well have put our oldest kid in charge.....

**skaredshtles** · 09-18-2023, 12:16 PM

Originally Posted by fatnslow

Kid has 4 roomates all oldest kids in their families. Kind of funny seeing all their moms cleaning, setting up their baby boys' rooms while I dumped all his shit in a pile, went shopping, ate a late lunch and dropped him off. My wife actually scheduled a girls vacation so I was in charge of the move in process. Might as well have put our oldest kid in charge.....

This is why mothers should not be allowed anywhere near college move-in days.

**bagtagley** · 09-18-2023, 12:20 PM

Originally Posted by yeahman

Personally I'd be more worried about video games than social media. I did not have to worry about gaming with two girls, we never even had a gaming console, but gaming seems more isolating and addictive to me. Social media OTOH has proven to be relatively harmless. It's just how kids interact these days, and witholding it after age 13 seems pointless if not actually stunting to me. And apps like TikTok are pretty creative. My kids don't make many TikTok videos but when they do the content is quite hilarious. It's impressive, I think.

Our experience with video games has been the opposite. For my youngest and his friends, it’s how they hang out when they’re not together, like a replacement for the phone. He hasn’t shown much interest yet, but I’m much more concerned about social media.

**yeahman** · 09-18-2023, 12:30 PM

Originally Posted by bagtagley

Our experience with video games has been the opposite. For my youngest and his friends, it’s how they hang out when they’re not together, like a replacement for the phone. He hasn’t shown much interest yet, but I’m much more concerned about social media.

What specifically are you concerned about? SM plays basically the same roll you are describing. It's how they hang out and communicate when not together.

**Mustonen** · 09-18-2023, 01:23 PM

I’d suggest the focus is different. Gaming is an activity you socialize around. Social media is making a game of socializing. Not to get too cute about it.

The former builds shared experience. The latter isn’t really about sharing an experience with others at all, it’s sharing manufactured experiences to others and inviting comparison.

I’ve given up on really trying to control either, and that’s ended up being healthiest for me and my relationship with my kids. I do wish they had a chance to be teens without social media, but I don’t think that’s really possible.

**bagtagley** · 09-18-2023, 01:33 PM

Originally Posted by Mustonen

I’d suggest the focus is different. Gaming is an activity you socialize around. Social media is making a game of socializing. Not to get too cute about it.

The former builds shared experience. The latter isn’t really about sharing an experience with others at all, it’s sharing manufactured experiences to others and inviting comparison.

I’ve given up on really trying to control either, and that’s ended up being healthiest for me and my relationship with my kids. I do wish they had a chance to be teens without social media, but I don’t think that’s really possible.

I was trying to type a thoughtful response, but this sums it up pretty well, and we're in a similar place.

**yeahman** · 09-18-2023, 03:39 PM

I'm going to venture a guess you guys have not really looked closely at the social media accounts of today's tweens and teens.

**Mustonen** · 09-18-2023, 03:51 PM

Originally Posted by yeahman

I'm going to venture a guess you guys have not really looked closely at the social media accounts of today's tweens and teens.

You’d probably be wrong, then.

ETA: “Us guys’” inclination between the potentially harmful effects of social media vs video games are generally supported by studies and professionals. But I understand that nothing is really as clear as all that. Still, there’s something profound and profoundly different about social media that is unique to the format.

**Core Shot** · 09-18-2023, 05:08 PM

Cross posting a mikeyb post from the Robb gaffney thread. .

He’s so right. I’ve intuitively done much of what he says. When my boys get rad I coach them how to do it safely. And let them send. Mom? Not so much.

My boys are soon on their own. I worry sometimes. But I trust them. I have to. I doubt they’ll do half the dumb shit I did. Or maybe they’ll outdo me. Either way they have to fly.

**yeahman** · 09-18-2023, 06:32 PM

Originally Posted by Mustonen

Still, there’s something profound and profoundly different about social media that is unique to the format.

Yes. For starters, on social media you don't spend hours a day behind a screen pretending to crash cars, kill people, and blow shit up.

**Mustonen** · 09-18-2023, 07:00 PM

Originally Posted by yeahman

Yes. For starters, on social media you don't spend hours a day behind a screen pretending to crash cars, kill people, and blow shit up.

Sure. You can intuit all kinds of stuff from that. I’m not a video game player, and neither are my kids (though they did go through phases), but my off the cuff opinion is that video games have the capacity to teach focus, problem solving, and teamwork with their friends and is a perfectly valid bonding experience around accomplishing objectives and setting goals. Quite frankly, I’d gladly take the trade of them spending half of the time they spend scrolling TikTok or instagram on video games.

It’s dangerous for us to apply our experience and environment growing up to what our kids are and will experience in their very different lifetimes. They’ll be competing with their peers, not us. Eventually. Even so, studies and professionals actually do support my supposings, and they don’t support yours. Make of that whatever you want.

**lowsparkco** · 09-18-2023, 11:25 PM

Originally Posted by Choss Jonger, Sr.

Our little girl, Mica Magnolia, is four months old and the best thing either of us have ever been a part of.

She is increasingly insistent that she spend her day time upright on her feet. It goes so fast, this pure magic of new family.

Congrats! Fun times. Love the name, too. If I had known how much fun it was going to be I probably would have done it sooner.