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Thread: Sobriety, V2.
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10-29-2022, 04:56 PM #326
that’s called friends
I didn't believe in reincarnation when I was your age either.
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10-29-2022, 06:04 PM #327
Do you have many REALLY good friends who don't smoke weed at all? Serious question. I have some from way back.. But, not many in sobriety. Because most are in AA or weren't partiers at all.
Different perspective.. If you had to give up weed, for whatever reason could NEVER smoke weed again, would you be more likely to start drinking again?Go that way really REALLY fast. If something gets in your way, TURN!
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10-29-2022, 06:42 PM #328
dood thanks for the questions
yes
I have lots of friends who don’t smoke weed at all - always have and always will - at this point I probably hang out with more people that don’t smoke than do
AND
no
I don’t think I’d be more likely to start drinking again if I couldn’t smoke weed again - at this point I don’t like alcohol or how it makes me feel and behave - I quit weed for like the first year I quit beer because I got scared - I like weed but I don’t like beer
my girlfriend is getting out of a marriage with an alcoholic - she has been trending sober since we started hanging out together - she’s she’s had a few beers, but she’s feeling like it’s better for her to not have it around
I have a 16 year old son and she has 13 and 16 year old sons - they all have dads who have struggled - I’m sober but I don’t know about her ex - we really don’t need to have alcohol around for them to see - she smokes here and there, but she is very careful about that too - and she’s asked me to stay aware of my toking because she knows it might not be good for me and she wants me clear headed
at this point in my life almost everyone I know is my group - pretty much everyone I know knows about my shit - and I am not afraid to share it with new people I meet - when my girlfriend and I stayed with a friend of hers a couple weeks ago she told her friend I don’t drink and told her a little bit why - that was cool - we can normalize things like thatI didn't believe in reincarnation when I was your age either.
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11-02-2022, 11:20 AM #329
I went to some meetings of Recovery Dharma with my ex to support her, and it seemed to be less preachy and “shame-y” than AA. Buddhist principles.
This was in CA.
https://recoverydharma.org
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11-02-2022, 11:28 AM #330
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11-04-2022, 09:47 AM #331
COVID sure fucked a lot of people over that are used to groups.
I went to a couple of those Dharma meetings but they were a long drive and it wasn’t sustainable for me.
Zoom sessions aren’t really my thing. I’ve done it one on one for counseling and that’s tolerable but I really prefer face to face.I didn't believe in reincarnation when I was your age either.
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11-04-2022, 10:00 AM #332
One foot in front of the other.
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11-04-2022, 02:48 PM #333
^ I get it. I’m not abstinent (and not trying to be), but I don’t think I could handle meetings - too much of a misanthropic introvert. I was just throwing out some alternatives that have worked for people I know.
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11-04-2022, 03:49 PM #334I didn't believe in reincarnation when I was your age either.
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11-27-2022, 12:21 AM #335
Sobriety, V2.
it’s amazing what the holidays can do to folks
I’ve been helping a friend who is struggling again
I’m going to take her ski touring and to a meeting tomorrow. In that order.
edit: yeah, I’ll take her to a meeting
that’s where we met
that’s what she needs
she knows it’s not my thing but I told her I’ll go with herI didn't believe in reincarnation when I was your age either.
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11-27-2022, 08:41 AM #336
Good on you. It’s not about you, it’s about helping her
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Utah?
Yeah, Utah. It's wedged in between Wyoming and Nevada. You've seen pictures of it, right?
So after 15 years we finally made it to Utah.....
Thanks BCSAR and POWMOW Ski Patrol for rescues
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11-27-2022, 10:34 AM #337
Everybody ends up with their own program. Start with the basics then stick with what works for you. Helping others is critical regardless of what you do with the rest of your recovery strategy. Keeping close to the struggles of others (while helping them) reminds us how close we are to that ourselves if we don't keep vigilant.
Go that way really REALLY fast. If something gets in your way, TURN!
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11-27-2022, 10:46 AM #338
yup
and she’s specifically asked me to take her / teach her touring. Today she’s snowshoeing up and riding down at the ski area, but we’ll get her a ski set up. She knows what she can get from me and how I can help her best. Fkn smart really.
I offered to take her to a meeting. I don’t think she’s gone since she wrecked. I’ll even drive an hour plus so we can go to our old, small home group where we met.I didn't believe in reincarnation when I was your age either.
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11-27-2022, 02:45 PM #339
damn
she no showed
not respondingI didn't believe in reincarnation when I was your age either.
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11-27-2022, 04:21 PM #340
Hang in there ya'll
Reading here people talk about the mental battle... but that's only 1/2 of it. Working in a hospital last few years I have seen a few people in the E R who quit drinking but their body still addicted. Holy sh*t> serious mental confusion, hallucinations and seizures. Limbs flailing so violently they need to be strapped down sometimes.
That's some heavy sh*t /I'll never look at an alcoholic the same way again.
Good Luck out there. It's nice to know there's places like this thread people can talk about this stuff without the finger pointing I saw in meetings I was at years ago.
Carry On
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11-27-2022, 05:35 PM #341
^^^^Jerry Garcia died of a heart attack in full on delirium tremens.. with a full medical staff attending his detox.. Mine was pretty rough too but I was home alone riding it out solo.
Dude that's rough. Not much more you can do at this point though.... unless you can connect with her family intervention style. I've never been involved on one personally though. Unfortunately they don't have a high success rate long term. We need to want it for ourselves as much as others want it for us..Go that way really REALLY fast. If something gets in your way, TURN!
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11-27-2022, 06:29 PM #342
I had a withdrawal induced seizure in 2010. Scariest moment of my life. Scarier than being under moving snow in a slide bouncing off the rocks/bed surface. I wouldn't wish booze withdrawal on my worst enemies.
Coming up on 12 years sober. Just got a second sponsee yesterday. We'll be reading the book/and skinning vert. I only seem to sponsor skiers
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01-12-2023, 08:45 AM #343
https://restorationrecoverycenter.com
I’ve been wondering about some of the folks in this thread lately
a friend of mine who used to be a big mountain extreme ski athlete started this place
it’s totally different than any place I’ve ever seen
lots of outdoor activities
tech friendly - they don’t take all your stuff away - they treat you like an adult with a life, not like a loser
I’ve never been there, but I know it’s different
if you need help you should check em out
hit me up if you need help getting help
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01-12-2023, 09:42 AM #344
Daughter is hard off the wagon.
Drink of choice these days are airplane bottles of lemonade vodka
Fiancé dumped her and kicked her out of the house
Fired last Friday at work.
Suspended from ski patrol.
Psychiatrist keeps giving her anything she wants
But, apparently, for her, the bottom is not yet in sight.
FMLIn order to properly convert this thread to a polyasshat thread to more fully enrage the liberal left frequenting here...... (insert latest democratic blunder of your choice).
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01-12-2023, 09:47 AM #345
oh shit Ken
I didn't believe in reincarnation when I was your age either.
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01-12-2023, 09:49 AM #346
Fuck bro. Brutal. Sorry man.
I feel good. A meeting a week, touch base w my sponsor weekly. I'm enjoying clarity.
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01-12-2023, 09:51 AM #347
That sucks Ken. Hard to fathom the power alcohol must have over her to watch her life fall apart like that and still keep doing it. Vibes to you and her and your whole family. What a difficult thing to watch your child go through, I just can't imagine how hard that must be.
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01-12-2023, 10:56 AM #348
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01-12-2023, 11:01 AM #349
And I have no fucking clue how or what to do. She is driving all of us crazy. 15 calls a day to her twin sister the PA who has enough stress in her life already.
I do know she is going to end up dead if she doesn't get her shit together. Car wreck, liver failure, fall down the steps, who the fuck knows.In order to properly convert this thread to a polyasshat thread to more fully enrage the liberal left frequenting here...... (insert latest democratic blunder of your choice).
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01-12-2023, 11:21 AM #350
My cousin's daughter is a lifelong drug alcohol disaster. Raised by great ppl in a loving family. Prison, rape, street ppl, prostitution, stealing from the family. The whole fucking deal.
Shes a little bit better now but track marks all over her still.
They had to let her go to preserve themselves and their other daughter, after basically wrecking thier retirement to help her..
You gotta be you and have a life. A good life. She's walking her own path. Easier said than done I know.
Best wishes bro.
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