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    Covid and your kids

    So I didnt really see a thread specifically for this covid phenomenon.

    My kids are very friendly. Have many friends. My daughters best friend, pre covid, was literally at my house every week basically Friday - Sunday. Then the faucet shut off. Understandable.

    How are you all dealing with this as restrictions start to ease? My daughter best friend is asking for a sleepover. Im not overly concerned. We know the family, basically know where they go.

    I think getting kids back to even a semi normal has to happen soon. Being social is important.

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    We have been letting our kids play with the neighbors kid unless someone in either house is isolating due to symptoms. Yard and driveway are small and connected so it'd be basically impossible to keep them apart anyways.
    However the age difference there is pretty significant so they are still struggling with lack of peer interaction. If/when summer camp is canceled I think my wife might go out for the proverbial pack of cigarettes since she is alone at home with them 10-11 hours per day while working remotely.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bizarrefaith View Post
    We have been letting our kids play with the neighbors kid unless someone in either house is isolating due to symptoms. Yard and driveway are small and connected so it'd be basically impossible to keep them apart anyways.
    However the age difference there is pretty significant so they are still struggling with lack of peer interaction. If/when summer camp is canceled I think my wife might go out for the proverbial pack of cigarettes since she is alone at home with them 10-11 hours per day while working remotely.
    Im thinking of relaxing it a bit, but undecided. Far from worried, but its still a concern.
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    My two are 13 and 11.5. They have no access to social media/ no cell phones. We are letting my dtr 11 yo use her tablet to "Hangout" with two of her girlfriends after she has done her work. She is limited to common areas- no bedroom etc and she has been loving it. My son is a bit of a loner so he's good with just us.

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    We have been meeting friends (whose kiddo is our daughter's BFF) for a friday evening picnic in the park the last couple of weeks. We sit more than 6' apart and the kids run around, staying (mostly) 6' apart. It's tough. But I don't foresee relaxing much more than that until the news changes.

    Everyone is looking at ways to open up, relax their approach, etc, but if the cases spike significantly and shit gets much worse (as I expect) it will be that much harder to go back to full lock down. Which is why we're staying the course.
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    My 18 year old son spends all his spare time online gaming. That is his social event. He has 1 friend he usually sees but it's no big deal.
    My 16 year old daughter is very social and misses her friends. She doesn't whine about it and has supplanted school and after school socializing with facetime and zoom.
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    Quote Originally Posted by prsboogie View Post
    My two are 13 and 11.5. They have no access to social media/ no cell phones. We are letting my dtr 11 yo use her tablet to "Hangout" with two of her girlfriends after she has done her work. She is limited to common areas- no bedroom etc and she has been loving it. My son is a bit of a loner so he's good with just us.

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    my daughter has a cell. She gets to interact with friends that way, and she has done a "virtual sleepover" with her "bestie", but its just not the same.

    My family, as mentioned in other threads, lives very close to each other. We have been doing all normal social functions among us. We regularly get together for dinners, and social events. no masks, no social distancing when we are together. All obey stay at home orders for grocery/errands (mask, limited visits, etc), but we just don't see the point when we know none of us have symptoms. Since lockdown we have had about 4 family dinner functions for various reasons, Easter, mothers day, birthdays.

    Suck for the kids. Im fine not seeing my friends for now, but the kids are fucking bored.
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    I can't stand one of the kids in our neighborhood. So the silver lining to this for me is that kid doesn't come over anymore. My kids (7 and 9) spend a lot of time rides bikes around the neighborhood. That keeps them approx 6' apart.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Skidog View Post
    my daughter has a cell. She gets to interact with friends that way, and she has done a "virtual sleepover" with her "bestie", but its just not the same.

    My family, as mentioned in other threads, lives very close to each other. We have been doing all normal social functions among us. We regularly get together for dinners, and social events. no masks, no social distancing when we are together. All obey stay at home orders for grocery/errands (mask, limited visits, etc), but we just don't see the point when we know none of us have symptoms. Since lockdown we have had about 4 family dinner functions for various reasons, Easter, mothers day, birthdays.

    Suck for the kids. Im fine not seeing my friends for now, but the kids are fucking bored.
    My wife and I both are RNs so, no go on any family meetups. I did let the kids see Gram on her birthday but thats it. My daughter is a softball so we are throwing in the backyard whenever we can.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Skidog View Post
    but we just don't see the point when we know none of us have symptoms..
    I'm not questioning what you and your family do, that's your choice to make and I might make the same one in your shoes, but this statement is just way off and not how I would justify family gatherings.
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    My D is pissing me off a bit. As soon as The Can. closed, she moved out of my house and into our condo with her BF. Although, we stress social distancing, who knows what they are doing. They continue to come to the house whenever they want. Now, she told me that they, and a group of friends, want to camp this weekend at the San Raphael Swell. Apparently, the BF has friends coming in from out of State for the trip. My W broke down and told her that if she camps then she is not allowed in the house for 14 days after they return. Now, my D is pissed.
    Why can't she just listen, and respect our wishes.
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    Quote Originally Posted by St. Jerry View Post
    I caught my 11 year old watching anal porn the other day.
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    My youngest misses sports and going to the gym and training coach big time. He's in 9th grade. He was on freshman and then JV basketball, those seasons managed to finish. Spring sports were cancelled, he wanted to do track and field, was eyeing jumping events. AAU basketball was cancelled. He took that hard. Local camps are all cancelled. Jr NBA probably won't happen. He's getting behind, wanted a shot at Varsity as a freshman. He wanted to do spring soccer because it's not his primary sport and he felt that he needed some work to make JV in the fall. He has decided that defense is his thing, he got more playing time as a freshman that way and fewer people try out for those spots on JV.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AK47bp View Post
    Oh shit.


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    7yr old daughter. My wife is a nurse at the local hospital. We have been keeping our distance from friends, all our family live several hours away. Daughter is a trooper even when seeing her friends playing together in the neighbourhood (riding bikes mostly, but no adult supervision and no social distancing when they stop riding every couple hundred metres or so to chat. It helps she is an avid bookworm when not otherwised engaged. When mom works, I take time off of work to childmind as we don't trust the daycare being provided by the community for essential workers (had a health scare the first day we used it and didn't go back). First spring since daughter was born that I know I still have seasonal allergies instead of some sniffle or worse she would bring home from daycare or school. Facetime with family happens a bit more frequently than before, which is excellent. Not sure if we will bother with whatever schedule the school will come up with in the next couple weeks to finish out the school year - her scholastic work hasn't missed a beat being at home, with only minor focus issues, and she was near the top of her class before all this, so we might just roll into the summer break for her after we consult with her current teacher.

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    Quote Originally Posted by schindlerpiste View Post
    My W broke down and told her that if she camps then she is not allowed in the house for 14 days after they return. Now, my D is pissed.
    consequences, right?


    your wife is right

    hold the line on that one..there's only so much you can control regarding bad decisions by your daughter. But you can certainly state clearly what will affect you guys from her decisions & act accordingly.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Danno View Post
    I'm not questioning what you and your family do, that's your choice to make and I might make the same one in your shoes, but this statement is just way off and not how I would justify family gatherings.
    Obviously this can change week to week right? so we try our best to keep an eye on it, but i suppose you're right in the fact that we (any of us) could be asymptomatic carriers. Its worked for us so far, so I think we will stick to it. Just wondering if I am introducing any more risk by bringing in an "outsider".?
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    My five year old has been playing with his neighbor buddy for 5-10 hours a week and trading off between houses. I've been building and programming Lego robots with them. No social distancing between the boys, but both families have been strict otherwise. It sounds like they're about to relax their rules, however, and let their 13 year old see a couple friends whose families have been much less careful. And the mom wants a manicure, for fuck's sake. Need to figure out what our next move is.

    I've been doing 90% of the child care (we also have an 8 month old) while my wife works and I can't keep it up. My schedule is flexible, but there aren't enough hours in the day. I just finished teaching a class and am about to submit a book chapter. Now I need to finish my dissertation and I just need more time and solitude than I have. It's not something I can jump into for half an hour every once in a while.

    We're looking at hiring a nanny part time. But how do you really know if the nanny is being safe when you're not around? We've had a couple options that looked good at first, until they disclosed plans that undermine any other social distancing efforts. The daycare/pre-school our kids were enrolled in are open again (and we're still paying them a percentage of the tuition... for now), but that comes with obvious risk. We've looked at a shared baby sitter with the aforementioned neighbors, but now they're talking about relaxing their standards beyond what we're comfortable with.

    Part of what makes it so challenging is a lack of guidance from experts and the lack of clear standards and enforcement in Colorado. The CDC has guidelines for how child care should be run safely, but experts are also saying "don't send you kids there if you don't have to." Well, I kind of have to. There are significant health, mental health, professional and financial consequences if I can't come up with, say, 20 more hours a week to work.

    On top of all that, because of Governor Polis's futile attempt to thread the needle between enforcing social distancing and maximizing his political ambitions, a whole lot of people in Colorado seem to be saying "fuck it" to social distancing. I suspect we'll see a surge in cases in the next few weeks. I just don't see a good solution for taking care of the family AND taking care of my shit. Suggestions welcome.

    Luckily the kids are fine. The baby is a baby, and the five years is loving all the time with me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by schindlerpiste View Post
    My D is pissing me off a bit. As soon as The Can. closed, she moved out of my house and into our condo with her BF. Although, we stress social distancing, who knows what they are doing. They continue to come to the house whenever they want. Now, she told me that they, and a group of friends, want to camp this weekend at the San Raphael Swell. Apparently, the BF has friends coming in from out of State for the trip. My W broke down and told her that if she camps then she is not allowed in the house for 14 days after they return. Now, my D is pissed.
    Why can't she just listen, and respect our wishes.
    Yeah thats rough. Mine are young so home and we know where they go, same with the close family. The go to the same places as we do, grocery, the odd home depot run, gardening center, again practicing social distancing and wearing masks in these settings. Having a kid not home, thats go their own wants and feels "adult" enough to make their own decisions, then coming and going into your space it a tough one. I'd be pissed too, but its not like they dont have somewhere to go for those 14 days. Just go back to the condo take you "medicine" for the choices you make.
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    Quote Originally Posted by I've seen black diamonds! View Post
    My five year old has been playing with his neighbor buddy for 5-10 hours a week and trading off between houses. I've been building and programming Lego robots with them. No social distancing between the boys, but both families have been strict otherwise. It sounds like they're about to relax their rules, however, and let their 13 year old see a couple friends whose families have been much less careful. And the mom wants a manicure, for fuck's sake. Need to figure out what our next move is.

    I've been doing 90% of the child care (we also have an 8 month old) while my wife works and I can't keep it up. My schedule is flexible, but there aren't enough hours in the day. I just finished teaching a class and am about to submit a book chapter. Now I need to finish my dissertation and I just need more time and solitude than I have. It's not something I can jump into for half an hour every once in a while.

    We're looking at hiring a nanny part time. But how do you really know if the nanny is being safe when you're not around? We've had a couple options that looked good at first, until they disclosed plans that undermine any other social distancing efforts. The daycare/pre-school our kids were enrolled in are open again (and we're still paying them a percentage of the tuition... for now), but that comes with obvious risk. We've looked at a shared baby sitter with the aforementioned neighbors, but now they're talking about relaxing their standards beyond what we're comfortable with.

    Part of what makes it so challenging is a lack of guidance from experts and the lack of clear standards and enforcement in Colorado. The CDC has guidelines for how child care should be run safely, but experts are also saying "don't send you kids there if you don't have to." Well, I kind of have to. There are significant health, mental health, professional and financial consequences if I can't come up with, say, 20 more hours a week to work.

    On top of all that, because of Governor Polis's futile attempt to thread the needle between enforcing social distancing and maximizing his political ambitions, a whole lot of people in Colorado seem to be saying "fuck it" to social distancing. I suspect we'll see a surge in cases in the next few weeks. I just don't see a good solution for taking care of the family AND taking care of my shit. Suggestions welcome.

    Luckily the kids are fine. The baby is a baby, and the five years is loving all the time with me.
    This is one of the type of answers I was looking for. You are letting familes you "trust" interact with your family with little or no "social distancing"

    Im really trying to gauge if im crazy thinking that if I know the family and know that they have been rather strict, that its ok to let my kids have some damned fun?
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    Quote Originally Posted by I've seen black diamonds! View Post
    <snip> But how do you really know if the nanny is being safe when you're not around?
    You don't. You can't. It's a risk that you will have to weigh...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Skidog View Post
    <snip> Just wondering if I am introducing any more risk by bringing in an "outsider".?
    There is absolutely no question that you introduce more risk doing this.

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    So schools arenít open because of the risk of massive transmission. Why are daycares and camps going to open? How are they different?

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    Quote Originally Posted by schindlerpiste View Post
    My D is pissing me off a bit. As soon as The Can. closed, she moved out of my house and into our condo with her BF. Although, we stress social distancing, who knows what they are doing. They continue to come to the house whenever they want. Now, she told me that they, and a group of friends, want to camp this weekend at the San Raphael Swell. Apparently, the BF has friends coming in from out of State for the trip. My W broke down and told her that if she camps then she is not allowed in the house for 14 days after they return. Now, my D is pissed.
    Why can't she just listen, and respect our wishes.
    No kids myself, but in our area the first 4 or 5 cases were all younger 20's and Millennial aged early 30's... They of course could then infect the rest of the family- especially older Grandparents if they live in the same area. First death in our area was a 80 something year old father. He was one of 7 that got the virus in the family, all his kids ended up with it. Not sure the youngest or the first, but went to high school with his one son that is a school teacher and fortunately the rest of the family recovered.

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