Results 26 to 50 of 209
-
08-13-2019, 12:12 PM #26
I got a baseball glove for my tenth birthday. What did you get?
-
08-13-2019, 12:13 PM #27
Do either of you have kids?
-
08-13-2019, 12:18 PM #28
-
08-13-2019, 12:19 PM #29
I think Danno needs to chirp in, I'm sure he has an opinion on this.
-
08-13-2019, 12:20 PM #30Funky But Chic
- Join Date
- Sep 2001
- Location
- The Cone of Uncertainty
- Posts
- 49,306
Well he might know more about kids and birthday parties than someone who doesn't have kids and apparently never had a party.
-
08-13-2019, 12:20 PM #31
-
08-13-2019, 12:20 PM #32"fuck off you asshat gaper shit for brains fucktard wanker." - Jesus Christ
"She was tossing her bean salad with the vigor of a Drunken Pop princess so I walked out of the corner and said.... "need a hand?"" - Odin
"everybody's got their hooks into you, fuck em....forge on motherfuckers, drag all those bitches across the goal line with you." - (not so) ill-advised strategy
-
08-13-2019, 12:23 PM #33
-
08-13-2019, 12:25 PM #34
-
08-13-2019, 12:25 PM #35
-
08-13-2019, 12:26 PM #36
Check in: Am I being an asshole to skip a kid’s bday for skiing?
Quando paramucho mi amore de felice carathon.
Mundo paparazzi mi amore cicce verdi parasol.
Questo abrigado tantamucho que canite carousel.
-
08-13-2019, 12:27 PM #37
-
08-13-2019, 12:29 PM #38
-
08-13-2019, 12:30 PM #39
Go skiing. Talk to your kid about it. But go ski.
Sent from my iPhone using TGR Forums
-
08-13-2019, 12:33 PM #40Registered User
- Join Date
- Jan 2014
- Location
- Gaperville, CO
- Posts
- 5,849
You're not an asshole for considering it. It's not a ski day -- it's a mostly paid for ski vacation for a week. It's a multi-thousand dollar bonus vs an afternoon buying cake and parents minor bitching at each other.
You're only an asshole if you don't:
1. Make it clear that it is absolutely her choice. How she reacts and chooses will do nothing more than tell you how you're doing as parents -- what values you're passing on to your kids.
2. Get plans on the books to make it up to her. Be that enabling her to have a fun day/night out with friends, spending quality time with her some other way, etc.
I vividly remember being given a big family choice (way the fuck bigger than this) at 15. Knowing that it was my choice and my parents approached me that way about it stuck with me.
-
08-13-2019, 12:34 PM #41
-
08-13-2019, 12:38 PM #42Funky But Chic
- Join Date
- Sep 2001
- Location
- The Cone of Uncertainty
- Posts
- 49,306
It's awesome that Eastern Mountain Sports digs you that much.
-
08-13-2019, 12:38 PM #43
A letter like that and a hug from your kid are the best gift in the world in my opinion.
Sent from my iPhone using TGR Forums
-
08-13-2019, 12:44 PM #44
-
08-13-2019, 12:45 PM #45
-
08-13-2019, 12:48 PM #46
-
08-13-2019, 12:49 PM #47I drink it up
- Join Date
- Oct 2002
- Location
- my own little world
- Posts
- 5,867
Well, that is the question. Bringing it up implies that I think it’s ok. Like I said in my OP, my ex was offended that I’d even consider it.
I own my selfishness, and I think it’s healthy. What I’m doing here is getting a reality check on whether said selfishness is outside the lines before I ask my daughter how she feels about it.
Also a significant consideration. How much should that inform my decision?
Nice. Thanks!focus.
-
08-13-2019, 12:52 PM #48
-
08-13-2019, 01:11 PM #49
Doesn't sound like you're being an asshole (even if your ex thinks otherwise), maybe just talk to your kid and set up something before or after?
-
08-13-2019, 01:17 PM #50
30yrs from now:
If you spent 0 days with your daughter you will wish you spent at least 1 more day
If you spent 1000 days with your daughter you will wish you spent at least 1 more day
If you spent 24/7 with your daughter you will wish you spent at least 1 more day
Soooo....the 7 days on a ski trip will not be any different than the above.
There are never enough days to go around. Accept it and live your life.
IMHO
Bookmarks