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08-14-2019, 03:06 PM #126
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08-14-2019, 03:11 PM #127
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08-14-2019, 03:12 PM #128
Birthdays are not a big deal to me. I guess it is hard to say for those of us who do not know the OP or his situation/fathering skills etc. I haven't been to my stepsons birthday in years. It is one of the few times he gets to be with his Dad each year and a good time for me to yield the right of way to biology.
I'd go skiing fuck yes but probably just take my daughter with me.
How the fuck does this thread devolve into another thread about mtngirl? Who the fuck is she and why is it that some people care? Rhetorical question only.
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08-14-2019, 03:22 PM #129
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08-14-2019, 03:23 PM #130
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08-14-2019, 03:24 PM #131
oppurTUNEitywatch out for snakes
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08-14-2019, 03:46 PM #132
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08-14-2019, 03:50 PM #133
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08-14-2019, 03:53 PM #134
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08-14-2019, 03:54 PM #135
Shut up bunny.
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08-14-2019, 03:59 PM #136I drink it up
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Check in: Am I being an asshole to skip a kid’s bday for skiing?
Fair sideways points about me asking a biased audience. But that’s pretty deliberate.... I don’t feel like enduring the tedium of explaining why a week in UT is awesome to a skier to those who would equate it to spending a week at Disneyworld or Sandals.
It was a long and poorly worded question, but even so, the question was literally whether I was a narcissistic asshole for considering talking to my daughter about it.
Sometimes straightforward is harmful or offputting. If I asked you whether you’d mind terribly if I shat on your lap, you might judge me for the very question.
12 years of living with batshit and emotionally abusive has me second guessing my already awkward sense of propriety.focus.
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08-14-2019, 04:15 PM #137
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08-14-2019, 04:23 PM #138I drink it up
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08-14-2019, 04:27 PM #139
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08-14-2019, 04:40 PM #140
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08-14-2019, 04:48 PM #141
true
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08-14-2019, 06:08 PM #142
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08-14-2019, 06:09 PM #143
Heh...remember that alias?
Good times.
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08-14-2019, 06:12 PM #144
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08-14-2019, 06:27 PM #145
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08-14-2019, 06:51 PM #146
I echo to ask your daughter
Sorry that you have such a shitty ex-wife too
My mom and dad divorced and they were always respectful and kind to one another and almost always spoke positively or at least neutrally about each other
Not my dad's 2nd wife though- sounds just like your exwife. negative and using any excuse to speak ill of my dad (or really anyone and everyone- it wasn't that she was the asshole- the narrative was that everyone else was mean bc they were "jealous" of us - so strange)
Anyhow- we all were good kids (we lived with my dad and stepmom) and we just ultimately wanted happiness and to keep the peace. So often if asked, I would choose to do what would seem to keep the situation stable.
Is this right or wrong? - still not sure
But I think that might be even a more important aspect of this situation.
If you miss the birthday will your daughter have to suffer more by having her mom may go crazy or be more angry than usual bc she has a fresh excuse to rant about you?
Or maybe the other way around- that your presence makes her more angry- but your daughter will know.
And you most likely can't ask her this directly but I think you can deduce the answer. and make sure she thinks/knows it's nbd at all for you to stay and miss it- I think then you will get the answer that you need to know
although I hope it's skiing bc I'm of the camp that it's nbd to celebrate something a couple days before/ after. probably from growing up in a split home so maybe you'll get there soon and have a little more freedom too
You sound like a good egg
on a funny note- had dinner with a friend last eve and she is a pre-school teacher/ mother of 3 and she got fired from her job for not cancelling a cat skiing vacation after her boss told her she could no longer take the time off that she had prior submitted and had approved
she lives in VT so hadn't seen her in awhile and I about rolled on the ground laughing when I asked how work was/ when school started again and her husband chimed in with "oh you didn't hear that she basically got fired for going on her cat skiing trip"
I figured you guys would approveskid luxury
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08-14-2019, 06:54 PM #147
depends on the kid
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08-14-2019, 07:47 PM #148
Decided to bing read this, nice to see the usual thread meltdown in quicktime.
Do your own pre or post birthday event with your daughter, ask her what she would like to do. The regular affair with the ex sounds miserable. And your daughter is old enough to pick up on that.
Have fun on the trip!
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08-14-2019, 08:12 PM #149Registered User
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I vote against asking the teenager permission to go skiing. Just go skiing, period. Maybe send her a card.
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08-14-2019, 08:23 PM #150
Send her a John Deere letter and go ski.
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