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  1. #51
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    Offer your daughter $200 instead of a party and see what she says, most likely it'll be a "fuck yeah I'll take the money". You're ski pass for the week will only cost you $200 and FUCK the ex's thoughts on the matter. Go skiing and make an effort to create a special date with your kid another day and she'll be fine. At 14 your kid already knows that skiing is important to you and should understand. If she has issues with you going this is the least of your problems as a parent.

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    Check in: Am I being an asshole to skip a kidís bday for skiing?

    Quote Originally Posted by sirbumpsalot View Post
    30yrs from now:

    If you spent 0 days with your daughter you will wish you spent at least 1 more day
    If you spent 1000 days with your daughter you will wish you spent at least 1 more day
    If you spent 24/7 with your daughter you will wish you spent at least 1 more day

    Soooo....the 7 days on a ski trip will not be any different than the above.

    There are never enough days to go around. Accept it and live your life.

    IMHO
    Are you sure that math applies to when they are < 3 and 13-19? Sometimes separation makes the heart grow fonder and all that.

    Edit- my vote Mustenon is you talk to her about it. Ideally you find some event that she really wants to do and offer to go do that and celebrate her birthday then instead of cake at the exís.

    Iíll fourth the sentiment that adults who still think their birthday is a big deal are generally terrible humans. A buddyís new wife just posted like 14 insta posts all with the hashtag #birthdayweek and on the birthday she went to her parents and then his parents and they had cake at both. Then just the two of them went out to a $500 sushi dinner and he gave her a handbag. This was for a random mid thirties birthday. My reaction, ďdude you are so fucked, sheís going to expect this shit every year and your future kids are going to have massive parties every yearĒ.

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    Quote Originally Posted by irul&ublo View Post
    And you didnít invite me? Iím hurt.


    OP....you do know that if you donít go to the party, the ex is gonna trash you to the kids
    Mine wouldnít

    Go skiing - good idea to talk to daughter




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    Quote Originally Posted by Benny Profane View Post
    I got a baseball glove for my tenth birthday. What did you get?
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    Go skiing. From about the age of 12 onward, anytime my birthday rolled around and "happy birthday" wishes were bestowed in my general direction, my default response was to shrug and quote Pink Floyd: "shorter of breath, and one day closer to death." Still my go-to reply to "happy birthday."
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mofro261 View Post
    The nest, well it be empty as of last weekend. Take them skiing.



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    Quote Originally Posted by neufox47 View Post
    Iíll fourth the sentiment that adults who still think their birthday is a big deal are generally terrible humans. A buddyís new wife just posted like 14 insta posts all with the hashtag #birthdayweek and on the birthday she went to her parents and then his parents and they had cake at both. Then just the two of them went out to a $500 sushi dinner and he gave her a handbag. This was for a random mid thirties birthday. My reaction, ďdude you are so fucked, sheís going to expect this shit every year and your future kids are going to have massive parties every yearĒ.
    Hah. Yeah, my ex would be genuinely pissed if I didnít take her birthday off work. You kidding me? Youíre 34. We are going out this weekend to celebrate.

    The week before and after her birthday were always fucking miserable. I dreaded it every year.
    focus.

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    Quote Originally Posted by glademaster View Post
    Go skiing. From about the age of 12 onward, anytime my birthday rolled around and "happy birthday" wishes were bestowed in my general direction, my default response was to shrug and quote Pink Floyd: "shorter of breath, and one day closer to death." Still my go-to reply to "happy birthday."
    Wow. We're you somewhat anti social and wore a black trenchcoat in HS?

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    Quote Originally Posted by irul&ublo View Post
    And you didnít invite me? Iím hurt.


    OP....you do know that if you donít go to the party, the ex is gonna trash you to the kids
    Something tells me it won't be the first time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mustonen View Post
    Hah. Yeah, my ex would be genuinely pissed if I didnít take her birthday off work. You kidding me? Youíre 34. We are going out this weekend to celebrate.

    The week before and after her birthday were always fucking miserable. I dreaded it every year.
    Does she tend to overdo Christmas, as well?

    When I was a kid, everyone in my family would give each other one gift, and that was pretty much it, besides eating together and watching football on TV.

    When I got married, though, I found out that my wifeís family put a LOT more effort into this gift giving thing. Multiple gifts were given, and expected. One of her sisters gave me 5 gifts one Christmas! They also have this tradition of opening one gift on Christmas Eve. Kinda blows any hope of getting by with just 1 gift.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Benny Profane View Post
    Wow. We're you somewhat anti social and wore a black trenchcoat in HS?
    Glade has been on some sort of edgy initiative this last month. Nothing is safe - menís shorts and birthdays among them.


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    Seems like a wonderful opportunity to bond with your daughter and teach her about what is important like spending time together regardless of what day is on the calendar. Learning to be flexible, moderate expectations and get to the root of what really matters are important life lessons.

    Quote Originally Posted by irul&ublo View Post

    OP....you do know that if you don’t go to the party, the ex is gonna trash you to the kids
    but if he takes the time to speak with his daughter first (and spend time with her) she will see her mother for what she really is when and if the trash talk starts.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Art Shirk View Post
    Glade has been on some sort of edgy initiative this last month. Nothing is safe - men’s shorts and birthdays among them.


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    Maybe the Op should buy his daughter some nice stationery and a quality fountain pen for her birthday?
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    Take the daughter with on the ski trip?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Benny Profane View Post
    Wow. We're you somewhat anti social and wore a black trenchcoat in HS?
    He's been on here since he was around that age. Good thing we don't raise serial killers, just misanthropes.

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    Hmmm

    First congrats on the ďexĒ part. She sounds like a terrible individual.

    Second just talk to your daughter. Iím sure youíll get the green light.

    Brink her back some serious dank from the lifty at Alta and T shirt.


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    Quote Originally Posted by waxman View Post
    Take the daughter with on the ski trip?
    If that was a possibility Iíd pursue it. It isnít.
    focus.

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    She's going to be 14. The only chance you have of remaining cool in her world is to go on a subsidized ski vacation. Make her proud.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mustonen View Post
    My 13 yo turns 14 in March. Thatís also when I have an opportunity for a most-expenses paid week long ski trip to UT.
    ...

    So Iím taking a poll: Am I a narcissistic asshole for even considering bringing it up to my daughter to see if she actually gives a shit?
    Put her back in for a few months so she'll have a summer birthday.
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    the situation strikes me as WAY too much drama at this point

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    Seriously, you are asking such a question on a dirtbag ski forum? That sad part is there are answers other then "go skiing". What is this place coming to?

    First off, fuck the ex (which apparently you already did, hence the conundrum). If she is the bitch she sounds, she already trashes you, so no worries on that point. Unless birthdays are the begin all and end all of your family celebrations go skiing. My daughters never gave a shit about b-days. Still dont. Just arent a priority in our family. Missing a wedding? That you should go to, unless it's an all expenses paid heli trip, then a silver tea set might be appropriate.

    Take the money you save on this trip and use it for a father daughter get away. A week or even a lo g weekend with just one on one dad/daughter time will make life long memories. A birthday...not so much.

    Father/daughter trips are the best, if for no other reason then the looks you get checking into a hotel

    I agree it is a constitutional right for Americans to be assholes...its just too bad that so many take the opportunity...
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    Quote Originally Posted by reckless toboggan View Post
    Put her back in for a few months so she'll have a summer birthday.




    Hmmmm, yeah, you're on to something there. We may have something to learn here. You know how all the tiger Mom's try to schedule the birth so that the kids are the oldest in the class? Bigger and better? Maybe we should have dirtbag scheduling, so the kid pops out in mud season.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Benny Profane View Post
    Hmmmm, yeah, you're on to something there. We may have something to learn here. You know how all the tiger Mom's try to schedule the birth so that the kids are the oldest in the class? Bigger and better? Maybe we should have dirtbag scheduling, so the kid pops out in mud season.
    That strategy would have helped flowing alpy. He skipped his daughter's birth (not birthday) to go day skiing.

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    Might as well get the kid used to the idea that the only people who will care about her birthday as an adult are her dentist and her insurance agent.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tbssux View Post
    That strategy would have helped flowing alpy. He skipped his daughter's birth (not birthday) to go day skiing.

    What the fuck is your problem?

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