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12-07-2018, 02:29 PM #376glocal
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12-07-2018, 08:27 PM #377
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12-07-2018, 08:52 PM #378
hilarious until you hear your kid's second grade friend says he doesn't want to live anymore
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12-07-2018, 10:23 PM #379Registered User
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12-08-2018, 12:26 AM #380
Your story about the wrong dealership seems pretty innocent. The older we get the more we do on autopilot and anything that distracts us or takes us out of our routine can lead to mistakes. A certain amount of that is normal. One has to train oneself to be conscious of the everyday stuff we do. Rather than putting our keys down without paying attention to it we have to make a mental note of doing it. When you make that mental note and still can't find your keys it's time to worry.
(I'm always having to help my wife find stuff--she says she put it in a certain place and it's not there. I say so you must have put it somewhere else which seems obvious but for some reason she has a heard time accepting. I'm different--when I lose stuff it turns up in plain view in the first place I looked for it but didn't see it the first time I looked. Hard to figure how I didn't see it the first time--unless my wife is gaslighting me--hiding it and then putting it back LOL.)
The suicide that haunts me years later was a patient of mine. Guy was a tiny Japanese American ex jockey in his 80s I think who lived in a trailer on another guys ranch. He had an abdominal aortic aneurysm that didn't bother him but his doctor had reported him to the DMV as unsafe to drive (which was BS--if your aneurysm ruptures you should be able to pull over, stop the car and die.)The guy wasn't afraid of dying from the aneurysm but he wanted his license back so I fixed the aneurysm. He had a rough time--was in the hospital a long time, didn't want to eat, eventually spent a few months in a nursing home but was finally able to be discharged back to his trailer where he promptly shot himself. I didn't feel so bad that he died but that he went through months of suffering before he did it. I think of him a lot.
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12-08-2018, 12:43 AM #381
Sometimes I go to a room and forget what I went there for. I'll start to worry when the room is the bathroom.
A few people feel the rain. Most people just get wet.
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12-08-2018, 12:48 AM #382Registered User
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I have to go pee 3-4 times during the night. Should it bother me I don't wake up?
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12-08-2018, 08:49 AM #383Banned
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12-08-2018, 11:40 AM #384
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12-08-2018, 06:13 PM #385Registered User
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Had two friends in HS jump in front of trains. First one i saw as i was walking to school (tracks go right in front of the main entrance). Second one happened during the second quarter of the final football game of my sophmore year (tracks run 30' behind visitors stands next to the field). When the train stops where it did, we all knew exactly what had happened but not who. Game wasnt delayed and we played through only finding out who it was later that weekend. Per usual with suicides, there is a cluster of them in my hometown every few years where one happens and then a bunch more people see it and become inspired to do it as well.
IMO there are VERY few instances where a suicide isnt an incredibly selfish, hurtful act to friends, family, and acquaintances.
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12-08-2018, 06:19 PM #386
Ya, whenever there's a blip on the news about someone getting hit and killed by a train, and it happens a couple times a year here too, my wife or a kid asks.. "How can someone get hit by a train? Why are they walking down the middle of the tracks? Can't they hear it coming? I just shrug and say something like , "I don't know, maybe they had ear buds with loud music going?
Go that way really REALLY fast. If something gets in your way, TURN!
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12-08-2018, 06:41 PM #387Registered User
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I think this thought has been discussed over and over here, but this comment, while a very common idea on suicide, is ignorant. If you believe this, then you truly have not an inkling on why most people commit suicide. For some personalities, it's a really hard concept to understand, because they are seeing life through one person's eyes, their own. There's billions of us of course and many are wired much much much differently than you.
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12-08-2018, 07:04 PM #388
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12-08-2018, 07:15 PM #389
I've interacted with countless people who survived suicide attempts. I don't believe many of them intended to cause pain or suffering to their family, friends, lover, etc. Most of them say they weren't thinking rationally and clearly weighing those kind of consequences in retrospect. It's not "selfish" unless that pain inflicted on others was intentional, something most who go there no longer have the mental capacity to properly evaluate at that point.
Go that way really REALLY fast. If something gets in your way, TURN!
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12-08-2018, 10:48 PM #390Registered User
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I have a fair amount of experience with and have spent a lot of time thinking about this topic. I'm aware of how others view this issue.
At the end of the day a person makes a choice to put their interest ahead of others. Logic doesn't leave you.when you're depressed, it might be sent to the back, but you still know right from wrong, and you still know you have options other than suicide.
We can argue till the cows come home about this, but it won't do any good. Depression is no more shameful than cancer. Most suicide is giving up treatment before a terminal diagnosis.
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12-08-2018, 10:53 PM #391Registered User
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12-08-2018, 11:31 PM #392?
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Dam I have been away for a long time.
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No not me, neverOwn your fail. ~Jer~
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12-09-2018, 12:27 AM #393
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12-09-2018, 07:29 AM #394Registered User
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NJ may be last on that list but i know of three young people (2 from hometown) who committed suicide before the age of 20. to me, at that point the overall number doesn’t really matter.
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12-09-2018, 09:38 AM #395
And yet, friends, family and acquaintances can only do so much when your life is just an impossible, sisyphean nightmare. Anybody coming with me to work? Anybody....Bueller? So...everyone owes it to everyone else to keep slogging out the death march until nature gifts us with a long, painful, expensive decline r/t cancer or heart disease or whatever?
It's one thing when you're talking about healthy 20 year olds who can't really see they have a lot to look forward to. It's another when you're talking about fully developed middle-age-or-older adults who have an idea what life is and what's coming at them.
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12-09-2018, 10:30 AM #396Funky But Chic
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I don't think that people really have a responsibility to keep on living at all costs. I do think that fucking everybody else's shit up on the way out is poor form and you'll probably pay for it somehow if you do.
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12-09-2018, 11:54 AM #397
most people i know who say it's selfish haven't stared into the abyss for extended periods with no possibility for relief of overwhelming physical, emotional or psychological pain, particularly when all accessible options of treatment have long been exhausted.
everybody dies in the end. a person's ultimate responsibility is to themselves and their children if there are any. if you're going to do it, it is nice if you don't leave a bloody chunky mess for the people who love you to remember you by.
barring dropping dead at some point, i have always intended to check out on my own terms. i clung to dear life for many years before and after my attempt and the only thing that kept me going was refusing to believe that that unbearable condition was the end of my story and wanting to see it through to the end.
i'm grateful i did but i know it doesn't work out that way for everybody.
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12-09-2018, 12:13 PM #398
Having had a family member make a lifetime of bad choices and slowly and painfully kill himself leaving a long train of pain and suffering among survivors, I can't really bring myself to fault him.
One thing that comes back to me is the Hendrix lyrics:
I'm the one that has to die when it's time for me to die, so let me live my life, the way I want to.
Maybe our positions on suicide are relative to the degree to which we can assign respect to other peoples right to choices about their own life?Merde De Glace On the Freak When Ski
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12-09-2018, 12:31 PM #399
Heres's the problem unique to 'merica: All my worst choices are listed here:
1) Becoming a federal firefighter after 9/11
2) Buying a (modest, small) house that I then couldn't afford when I was layed off in 2008...and had to sell at the low market value when the only job I could find was 12 driving hours away.
3) Going to college, which leaves me with a $200/mo anchor for the rest of my life.
4) Moving back to my hometown as my mother becomes elderly.
All of those things have fucked me over. They shouldn't, they should have been the right thing to do....it's only because we have awful politics that reward selfishness and slimy scuzzy behavior that we all constantly have to choose between watching out for ourselves and doing the right thing. It's gross, and it's not changing, and the gamut of various specific ways that general trend expresses itself in peoples' individual lives is why 'merica is so collectively troubled. We're thoroughly committed to a system where, functionally, on a day-to-day, real-world level: conscientiousness is weakness, sense of duty makes one vulnerable to exploitation, conventional wisdom and public education is consumerist manipulation, and most of the people running things are, to one degree or another, on the narcissistic and/or psychopathological spectrum.
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12-09-2018, 02:17 PM #400
Some strong points there, but I'm not sure you can entirely blame "politics" for the fact that conscientious decisions always require the acceptance of some personal cost. That's why they require a sense of duty in the first place, after all. Still, the perspective as it relates to reinforcing pessimism or depression makes sense.
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