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12-03-2015, 11:56 AM #101
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12-03-2015, 11:58 AM #102
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12-03-2015, 12:00 PM #103Registered User
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12-03-2015, 12:00 PM #104observing free range rude
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The powerless shtick annoys me too. Being someone with addictive tendencies (read: committed self medicator, reformed FrankTehTank'r) you'd think it's all id and I have little control. But that's a load of horseshit. The trick is to manage your vices and mental or physical weak points in a way that allows you to enjoy your time while refraining from destroying your professional and personal relationships. You can't change who you are, but you can manage your flaws in a way that both looks after the interests of loved ones and keeps your body from failing prematurely. The single most important thing is to be aware of these personal weaknesses and actively manage them. It's hard and I fail from time to time, so you're far from alone there.
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12-03-2015, 12:35 PM #105Registered User
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If someone cannot stop drinking then they lack "choice". If you think you can stop, then stop for 30 days, no pot. Stop "for you" not for others, including wife. Recruit her support... no drinking in the house. See if she is willing to support "no drinking" as opposed to "cutting back".
Then look at what is happening. Be honest about what's going on. This is about you and no one can tell you that you are an alcoholic because this is your life. If you are an alcoholic there is no future in a drink. The way you drink, your ability to drink safely, will not change simply because you stop drinking for a while. An alcoholic drinks the way they do - to get fucked up.
Let it happen, experience the difficulty of not drinking at all for 30 days, with no pot or other relief, and be honest. PM me if you like. Believe me, I have lived this situation. It's turned out well and my wife didn't leave.
Good luck
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12-03-2015, 12:37 PM #106
It's good, I can go without for a week or two at a time, I'm not like an insane alchy or anything. It's just when I go I go full throttle.
The ultimatum isn't a bad thing imo, I would love to be free from this shit. Once I'm a few deep I don't have control and it scares me.
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12-03-2015, 12:39 PM #107
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12-03-2015, 12:39 PM #108Funky But Chic
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I don't get the "no pot" dealio. Why not? Does he have to go without food or sleep too? It's about managing things in a constructive fashion, not about becoming a saint.
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12-03-2015, 12:40 PM #109
You got to control it or it can control you.
watch out for snakes
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12-03-2015, 12:48 PM #110Registered User
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When I quit booze & drugs for awhile, the only way to describe it is that I was getting a little high by being so sober after all those years of drinking/smoking ... kind cool
sounds like OP is drinking for the wrong reasons
and so we have established that its not really his crazy ass partner ... he really does have a problemLee Lau - xxx-er is the laziest Asian canuck I know
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12-03-2015, 12:52 PM #111
I have zero issues with the pot. I can't afford it being a student living on loan monies. It's never been a thing, it's enjoyable but I don't ever feel like a need it. And it's not something that makes me lazy and eat chips, I get fired up and need to be in motion getting exercise.
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12-03-2015, 12:57 PM #112Good-lookin' wool
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12-03-2015, 01:09 PM #113"I don't pretend to have all the answers, and I think there's something to be said for that" -One For The Road
Brain dead and made of money.
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12-03-2015, 01:18 PM #114
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12-03-2015, 01:19 PM #115
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12-03-2015, 01:22 PM #116
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12-03-2015, 01:22 PM #117
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12-03-2015, 01:23 PM #118
Grapefruit Sculpin IPA was the biggest offender. Lone Tree IIPA 4 packs.
Yeah a 6er will fuck me up. 3-4 usually the norm. Now its 3-4 Coors Lt, at 19 bucks a suit case.
If I am gardening though, Ill start draining Coors Lt.
Weight loss was a nice unintended gain."I don't pretend to have all the answers, and I think there's something to be said for that" -One For The Road
Brain dead and made of money.
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12-03-2015, 01:25 PM #119
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12-03-2015, 01:27 PM #120
That's why home brewing makes great sense. I can brew wot evah and do it way cheaper. Sorry that's not really helpin the OP.
watch out for snakes
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12-03-2015, 01:33 PM #121
Yeah, sorry about the thread drift. I try to stick to the $10 and under sixers. Sculpin is a special treat, not a daily drinker.
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12-03-2015, 01:56 PM #122
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12-03-2015, 01:59 PM #123
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12-03-2015, 02:05 PM #124
If you broke your leg, would you go to the hospital? Yes, of course you would. Mental health issues, although not regarded as so, can be just as serious as a broken leg.
Most insurance will pay for mental health. Have you looked into it, or are you just assuming it's expensive? If you are suffering from anxiety from a stressful childhood, you need to talk about that shit. Plus going to a therapist will help you stop drinking!"Can't vouch for him, though he seems normal via email."
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12-03-2015, 02:07 PM #125doughboyshredder Guest
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