The Pending Divorce Thread

[guroo270]

Has anyone on here ever posted up naked pics of their wife, sister? If so, please link the thread. Thanks.

She took down the more risque pictures for some reason, probably family pressure, but here's my cousin. She's like my little sister, and I'd never look or post her naked, but since she wanted to do this I say more power to her. I think she's one of the more beautiful people on earth.

[guroo270]

What the fucking piece of shit photo uploader?




She used to have zero confidence, so I was pretty happy to see her put herself out there.

[shafty85]

I should have yelled at her...she certainly deserved it...

Yes, she's the same person I married.

And to all you Internet therapists...no it's not a result of my behavior.

I don't know many people who 'deserve' to be yelled at. Maybe we hang out in different crowds, but I stopped hanging out with 12 year olds a long time ago. Someone yells at me, or I yell at someone, I can guarantee you shit turns ugly. Because that's how adults deal with shit! Someone bugs me, VIOLENCE IS THE ANSWER! 'MURICA!

Let me get this straight, you are angry with her for being the person you married, and possibly an improved version? I'm glad you're dealing with this all in a mature manner and, rather than making the mistake of trying to deal with it through therapy (either for just yourself or both of you) or something similar, you've come to the much more reasonable conclusion that it is not the result of your behavior, she is the cause of the problems, and decided to take to the internet to bitch about your wife.

People are smart in different ways, eh? I'm an engineer - logic rules my world. Sometimes I get frustrated by my gf's lack of it (or my perception of her lack of it). She is a therapist - emotions and emotional intelligence rules her world. I can only imagine her frustration at my, far too often, emotional immaturity and lack of emotional 'smartness'. If you married someone who is just truly DUMB with absolutely no redeeming qualities, who is truly the dumb one? If you found her attractive and smart enough to marry her, and by your own admission she has possibly improved since then, how are you naive enough to decide it is only her, or her at all, ruining your marriage/relationship? Sure, relationships are hard. No sh*t. It's how you deal with that that defines you, either as a man or a woman.

I don't care what you do - I don't actually know you - but, you should stop coming on the internet to bitch about your wife. Man the f*ck up and deal with it, one way or the other.

[booner]

Ok...couple things...

I should clarify that when I say yell at, I'm talking about a stern knock it off. Not screaming at her.

And yes...she deserved that at the time. Her behavior was off the charts ridiculous and unnecessary. You are coming to a conclusion without even knowing what was going on.

Second, I definitely don't blame her for all the problems that come up, and never said that. You're like the 10th person to assume that.

Third, regarding her being the same person, or even a slightly improved version, sure it's on me to deal with it since I married her. But, you can't see the future, and how you'll react when she's doing something that really pushes your buttons for the millionth time. It becomes harder and harder to handle.




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[skiballs]

Who knew Dr. Phil had all these aliases here.

[Phill]

Who knew Dr. Phil had all these aliases here.

You called?

E-Dr. Phil says: Just leave, the money excuse is bullshit. You can always get more money, you can't ever get these years of your life back.

Remember, "If you don't do it this year, you'll be one year older when you do."

[Danno]

Third, regarding her being the same person, or even a slightly improved version, sure it's on me to deal with it since I married her. But, you can't see the future, and how you'll react when she's doing something that really pushes your buttons for the millionth time. It becomes harder and harder to handle.

On the other hand, isn't this what we're supposed to wish for, that our girl doesn't change? And the girl is supposed to hope/try to change us? Isn't that the old adage?

You hit the jackpot and you don't even know it!

[Bromontana]

^This. Stuck in a negative feedback loop.

What I tried to say first page, damnit!

[Tuckerman]

You'll be all stoked about the divorce, go on a porn rampage, be all hells yeah now I'll finally slay some hot puss, but the hot puss they can smell crazy desperate old guy a mile away and will stay the same.

Well I kind of think this is income level dependent.

[GoldMember]

IMHO, it sounds more like you resent her than hate her. I find that when my wife is really insecure, it's when I am disconnected and uninterested which makes her feel like I don't love her or appreciate her. Ignoring her only compounds her feelings of insecurity. I am only a stranger but I can say with certainty, giving her basic attention will turn her fire on. As many times as i say I love you or your beautiful to my wife, it's never enough. The simple things that ignite the fire in your relationship seem so hard to do at times. By no means is my relationship perfect, but when I do the things that make her happy, I reap the rewards. On the topic of lacking intelligence, you saw something in her at one point that made you believe you could spend the rest of your life with her, so find those things again and build on them. Take a few nights off from drinking and give your girl some of yourself again. You may not get the response your looking for, but hang in there. Just because she's not as smart as you doesn't mean she can't be your friend. Plus all married men know we're smarter than our wives. Even if you did split up, it's not like your going to find somebody else that's smarter than you. Take some alternate paths to coming together with your wife and see if you can enjoy some of what you originally loved. Your friend is in there but life and disconnect has turned you two into strangers. Best of luck brother, marriage is hard but it doesn't sound like it's over, it will just take extra work on your part.

What I find ironic, booner is that you're upset because you're smarter than your wife and she's developed an insecurity over it, likely because you've pushed it in her face enough that she's self-conscious to a point of being hurt. So, if you did split and find someone smarter than you, what happens when the new one starts to put that in your face? Are you going to be resentful? Hurt? Insecure?

Keep in mind that the likelihood of finding someone with exactly your intelligence level who enjoys everything you do and agrees with all your opinions who you really want to be with is low odds. There is something that brought you together with your wife that you loved. Find it again. She and your kids deserve at least an effort on your part to get there. Lastly, anyone I know of a higher level of intelligence would know enough to not ridicule others who aren't as smart. Surely you recognize that if you're truly of high intelligence, you're in a relatively small percentage of the population and should have enough respect for other people to not criticize them for something they can't control. An IQ of 140 is approximately 2% of the population. If you're at a high level, the odds of you finding someone of your equal are slim. I don't know your IQ but if it's above median, your odds are less than 50% so grow up and consider your options if you were to leave. Grow a pair and work on your marriage. The grass may not be any greener on the other side of the fence, no matter how much you may romanticize over the idea of finding the perfect mate. Reality dictates that it's not likely so figure out how to overlook shortcomings and make the best of what you have.

[Brianskis]

Has anyone on here ever posted up naked pics of their wife, sister? If so, please link the thread. Thanks.

Not my wife (yet), not my sister, not naked. I was given permission to post on other social media so why not try to add a little sunshine to this thoroughly depressing thread...

[Harry]

^^^ HOLY FUCK !!! ^^^

You better marry her ASAP. You will never find anything hotter than that.

[frorider]

And brains & self esteem don't matter, amirite?

[stompinlines]

Not my wife (yet), not my sister, not naked. I was given permission to post on other social media so why not try to add a little sunshine to this thoroughly depressing thread...

Nice, real nice oregonian ass, clark.

[riser4]

Ok...couple things...

I should clarify that when I say yell at, I'm talking about a stern knock it off. Not screaming at her.

And yes...she deserved that at the time. Her behavior was off the charts ridiculous and unnecessary. You are coming to a conclusion without even knowing what was going on.

Second, I definitely don't blame her for all the problems that come up, and never said that. You're like the 10th person to assume that.

Third, regarding her being the same person, or even a slightly improved version, sure it's on me to deal with it since I married her. But, you can't see the future, and how you'll react when she's doing something that really pushes your buttons for the millionth time. It becomes harder and harder to handle.




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And I am reiterating, the issue is you. If you make it a battle, you lose.

[Timberridge]

^^^ HOLY FUCK !!! ^^^

You better marry her ASAP. You will never find anything hotter than that.

Maybe not. But I hope we've all learned from this thread that some questions need answering first:

What's her IQ?
Can she clear a garbage disposal?

[jetski]

Maybe not. But I hope we've all learned from this thread that some questions need answering first:

What's her IQ?
Can she clear a garbage disposal?

Frontal view could show a "bulge" in the bikini bottom and 6 hairy outer belly buttons...
Never judge a book by its back cover!
Nothing else to add, except marriage is hard sometimes...

[stuckathuntermtn]

Get that chick a diamond the size of one of her back dimples.

[shroom]

noice!

[fastfred]

There's a shit-load of projection going on in this thread.

One thing: those of you who don't have kids really need to stop giving advice. You just have no idea how different a marriage is after that - everything is far more complex to a degree you cannot understand even though you probably think you know.

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just when I thought I was a loser and people told me I made alot of bad decsions in life

I"ll give everyone some advise don't do anything stupid like get married to some fat ugly chick don't have kids why the fuck would anyone have kids and when your 21 you fucked up you shoulda moved to a ski town and said fuck it all it has worked out pretty damn good just get to sit here and laugh at this thread not a problem not a worry not a bother bro think I might pull another tube and head outside for awhile and start betting on snow

[booner]

I agree

Punctuation is WAY overrated


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[Tippster]

Get that chick a diamond the size of one of her back dimples.

If she's smart she doesn't want that overpriced bullshit.

[Harry]

OP: you are welcome to crash on my sofa this winter if you need to. Smoke a shitload of weed and ski every day.
View from my place today:

[hikesalot]

If she's smart she doesn't want that overpriced bullshit.

truth.

ETA: when we had our first child, some dear relative of my husband got in his ear that he needs to buy me a "birthing gift." And it needs to be in a box from Tiffany's (expensive jewelry for those of you wondering). I am very practical and don't even like to wear my diamond wedding rings much. I have a $5 band that I bought at an art show that I wear usually. But this was early in our marriage and I guess my loving dear husband didn't want to let me down. So imagine my surprise when a little blue box is given to me. Fucking fuck. I'm an accountant. I did the best "oh my god, I LOVE it" that I could muster. Years later I told him he really didn't need to do that. But he has a good heart.

[4matic]

View from my place today:

That's a good life.