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Thread: The Pending Divorce Thread
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09-16-2015, 10:39 AM #76
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09-16-2015, 10:44 AM #77If it's green, smoke it...if it's pink, poke it
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09-16-2015, 10:49 AM #78
There's a shit-load of projection going on in this thread.
One thing: those of you who don't have kids really need to stop giving advice. You just have no idea how different a marriage is after that - everything is far more complex to a degree you cannot understand even though you probably think you know.
Having said that, booner, it's just money - who cares? You can't take it with you. I'm actually okay with the idea of hiding some money in advance so long as you give it directly to your kids later on.
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09-16-2015, 10:59 AM #79If it's green, smoke it...if it's pink, poke it
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09-16-2015, 11:02 AM #80
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09-16-2015, 11:11 AM #81observing free range rude
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09-16-2015, 11:11 AM #82
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09-16-2015, 11:13 AM #83
I hear you Booner... Being married is tough. While I don't always like the way my wife acts or some of the decisions she makes, I do love her, and I am not inclined to actually leave. For me, it really is about me. I can be an impatient perfectionist, and I try not to impose those expectations on the people around me. They're painful and frustrating enough for me already, and it's not like any person or thing is going to live up to them, so might as well keep that shit to myself.
Good luck.
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09-16-2015, 11:17 AM #84If it's green, smoke it...if it's pink, poke it
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09-16-2015, 11:39 AM #85Hucked to flat once
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I obviously don't know you or your situation and I am certainly not the perfect guy so take this however you want.
You're the bad guy for being a pussy and not dealing with things. It's easy to hide at the bottom of a pint glass. She probably didn't deserve to be yelled at and you probably are not the right person to do the yelling if she did. She probably deserved someone to listen to her with an open mind and then have a conversation with her. Comes with being in a relationship. You deserve the same. Us dudes have a way of feeling smart by making others feel dumb. Ultimately, we look like assholes. If you look around the room and can't pick out the prick, it's probably you.
If you want out, get out. If you want to stay, try being a supportive gentleman. You married someone dumb so either realize you did it and swallow it or move on. If you were blinded by tang, that's your own fault. Or maybe you like feeling smart so you find someone "dumb" to spend time with. Seriously, I'd rather be the dumb one in the relationship.
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09-16-2015, 12:11 PM #86
Thank you Capt Obvious.
The point is that she got $2k in child support a month, and the kids were always in rags, and there was "nothing for them".
Right, that was (15-20 years ago), and even though according to the law, that was supposed to support them, in fact, I got bagged with LOTS of extra expense waaaay above and beyond what I was obligated to so as not to see them go without.
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09-16-2015, 12:21 PM #87
$2K/month doesn't go very far when it comes to the expense of kids IMO. We fly through food, clothes, medical bills, gas, etc. Then when you pile on expenses for school and activities, that $2K seems a bit paltry IMO. 15-20 years ago makes a big difference...so maybe i'm off base.
To the OP: For the kids, either stay or leave...that should be the main factor your calculation, not your personal happiness alone. You chose to bring them into the world so it's up to you to provide the best situation for them...and that may very well be that it's better for them if you and your wife part ways.Damn shame, throwing away a perfectly good white boy like that
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09-16-2015, 12:33 PM #88
You gotta know when to fold em
Know when to hold em
Know when to walk away
And know when to run
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09-16-2015, 12:39 PM #89
You are the one baring your soul. Even in your overly macho "I'm smarter/better/drunker than everyone" style, you reveal the seriously desperate nature of your current situation.
Drinking less, focusing on your children (who are not babies anymore) and being a better friend to your wife seem like top priorities in your drama world.
You win no prizes for being "right" in a family. It is HOW and the STYLE you impart knowledge............because people will only remember how angry you are.....not that you may have been right.Terje was right.
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09-16-2015, 01:38 PM #90Registered User
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Holy fuck your ex shold have spent $100 of that child support to buy you a clue. "Extra expense" over and above your $2k/month for 2+ kids. Oh yeah, it must have been just awwwwwwffullllll!!! "But" you say, it was 15 or 20 years ago, so it was 1995 or 2000, when $2k a month still wasn't enough to even begin to raise a kid. Pull your head from your ass and stop bitching about the woman who raised your children.
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09-16-2015, 01:40 PM #91
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09-16-2015, 02:06 PM #92
if your unhappy she is probably just as unhappy. Divorce, now we are both happier. As for the money. If you actually have some it is pretty easy to split in two and still be fine. keep the lawyers out. Simple dissolution. I kept my retirement and my business. We split all the assets. Since we both loved the kids was fairly easy to agree on custody. A friend who has been divorced twice says. No big deal once you realize nobody cares.
off your knees Louie
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09-16-2015, 03:36 PM #93
The Pending Divorce Thread
Because her lawyer is going to tell her to take it easy on him? I dont think so.
If you have no leverage they will walk all over you. They will not negotiate. I was practically murdered. Only now do i get an apology, and reason. 7 yrs later broke but there for my kids. Happens to alot of good men.
Ill share this, because it will get a chuckle . But i was locked up. and banned from my home. I had 2 million up for grabs i made it myself, and they went for it all!!! No mercy, none. But when they ransacked my house for tax records etc. they forgot the porn tapes. And a month later, when I was allowed home, to find everything gone or sold, including my house, I reached up high, and wouldnt you know it? There they were. The home porn tapes. All atempts on my life ceased after that.
life is nasty. i wish it were not.
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09-16-2015, 03:36 PM #94
I get the feeling there's a lot of one-sided hate fucking.
Next time you're really railing it, tell to stop being such a closed off, insecure cunt. Time how long you can hang on. Post results in Bullfighting tread. Ok, that's bull riding, but it's close.
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09-16-2015, 03:49 PM #95Funky But Chic
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09-16-2015, 04:05 PM #96"fuck off you asshat gaper shit for brains fucktard wanker." - Jesus Christ
"She was tossing her bean salad with the vigor of a Drunken Pop princess so I walked out of the corner and said.... "need a hand?"" - Odin
"everybody's got their hooks into you, fuck em....forge on motherfuckers, drag all those bitches across the goal line with you." - (not so) ill-advised strategy
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09-16-2015, 04:11 PM #97
When I was a young man in in early CPA job i did a lotta work for a client "george." Must have had about 10 or so profitable activites going on, Strip shopping centers, large insurance agency, rental centers, etc. probably worth 25 million or so today.
"claude" was the partner. One day I said something like "george sure does do well for himself, good client to have" to which claude said, "best thing I ever done for george...george said claude ahm thinkin of gettin me a DE-vorce (deep south). ah told george, I says george, it's true, you gotta lotta money. I ain't think you gotta nuff moneyfor a DE-vorce.
Yep. that's the best thing I ever done for george.""Can't you see..."
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09-16-2015, 04:17 PM #98
He must of been doing more for George. Amazing people value money over quality of life.
off your knees Louie
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09-16-2015, 04:23 PM #99
^ imagine that someone might think of thier kids before themselves. oh the horror.
"Can't you see..."
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09-16-2015, 04:27 PM #100
sorry I thought your post was about money
off your knees Louie
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