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04-17-2019, 07:53 PM #3751
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04-18-2019, 09:28 AM #3752Registered User
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04-18-2019, 10:50 AM #3753
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04-18-2019, 11:54 AM #3754Registered User
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Checking in.
International trip with PNG (promising new girl) was fun- we met up in a far flung country in Latin America and bounced around for three days. Lots of hiking and good meals. That said, not sure how much of a spark is there. She's pretty committed to her work and seems to have trouble emotionally connecting. Saw her last week in a city where we both happened to be for work and grabbed dinner and drinks two different nights. I don't know if I see things progressing anytime soon with only seeing her once or twice a month.
MBG (mountain bike girl) is now moved in and living in my basement. Have been hanging with her a bit. Went skiing with her and her brother recently. She's a pretty damn good skier. Her bro is fun to hang with. Have been cooking dinner with her, taking our pups for walks, etc. We're both into running and fitness (she's a fitness instructor as a side gig to her government job). I put on a hockey game the other night and she started talking the rivalry between her hometown team and mine- was talking about specific players, the history of the rivalry, etc. She cuddled up with me on the couch to watch the game.
Without some serious course correction I think we both know what this is trending towards. Friends have been a mix between "definitely don't do it" and "have fun and see what happens". I've thus far kept MBG in the dark about other girls I've been hanging with. She knows I'm out with other women at times, but I haven't given her details. Pretty sure that her wondering where I've been has created attraction...
My ex found out about MBG moving in (ironically, they met a couple years ago on a MTB trip) and she has been in full on "let's get back together, you're my one true love" mode. I let her watch our dog while I was on a recent work trip. She's on a self improvement kick and has been trying really hard to win me back. Just don't know if I could ever trust her.
On a lighter note, my across the street neighbor is a retired guy who is fun to chat with. He spends his days patrolling at a local mountain. He met my ex and I a couple times, then a month I was hanging with PNG unloading skis as neighbor guy walked by to talk. He thought he had met PNG before (confusing her with my ex) and then the other night MBG and I were out walking our dogs and he said hi and talked to us for a bit. MGB and PNG look pretty similar, so he's pretty confused in a "glitch in the matrix" kind of way. Like, "is this the same girl? I think I've met her before." I think I need to walk over and shoot the shit with him and bring him up to speed.Last edited by throwitaway9876; 04-18-2019 at 12:23 PM.
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04-18-2019, 11:57 AM #3755
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04-18-2019, 12:01 PM #3756
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04-18-2019, 12:12 PM #3757Registered User
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You have a landlord/tenant relationship. I think you lose the legal right to evict her if you proceed to date her, then either of you decide to stop the dating -- the eviction would look like retaliation for the loss of a quid pro quo I believe.
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04-18-2019, 12:16 PM #3758Banned
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Once I was complaining about attracting a certain type of degenerate kind of man.
One of my best friends, the only one that I can count on for 100% truth and good insight says, no, Julie, you are attracted to that.
He is 100% right.
Probably take a stroll around what you really want before proceeding...
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04-18-2019, 01:06 PM #3759
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04-18-2019, 02:17 PM #3760
As utterly foreign, and repulsive, as it may sound. I come from a time and place were we take very seriously the vows we make before many. We even did and do quiant things like observe organized religion.
I beleive I chose wisely, one who thought and thinks the same. "unto death do you part." 3 kids, two houses, A cherokee, BMW, Sebring, Solara and 28 years later (well 2 weeks shy). it ain't been no cakewalk, I can assure you.
If you need to think it's dumb luck. thats fine. If you need to think I feel superior, that's fine too. fuck ya. I know different. Saw her at the back of the church 05.04.1991 and thought she will look pretty as we grow old. and I've been right so far."Can't you see..."
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04-18-2019, 02:23 PM #3761
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04-18-2019, 02:29 PM #3762
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04-18-2019, 02:54 PM #3763
ah fuck it. flame on. I can take it.
"Can't you see..."
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04-18-2019, 03:03 PM #3764Registered User
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04-18-2019, 03:05 PM #3765
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04-18-2019, 03:20 PM #3766
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04-18-2019, 03:36 PM #3767
MT,
it's pretty outrageous to even ponder the suggestion that those of us whose marriages have not survived our previously-thought 'wise choices' did anything less than take our vows seriously. That's where you sound smug, and it's pretty fucked up.
I hope you do grow old together and continue on that lovely path. However, I'm sure I'm not alone in this thread when I say I once was completely convinced of exactly the same thing. I couldn't imagine things going a different way. But they did.
So, practice much gratitude and don't forget that nothing, anywhere, ever is permanent. If you have that cemented in your mind if things go south it might be easier to get through.
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04-18-2019, 03:44 PM #3768
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04-18-2019, 03:45 PM #3769Registered User
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Perhaps YMMV, I was feeling smug cuz I divorced well & got out of it with half my shit ?
Lee Lau - xxx-er is the laziest Asian canuck I know
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04-18-2019, 03:49 PM #3770Registered User
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04-18-2019, 04:00 PM #3771Registered User
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smug OR proud, OR lucky to dodge a bullet ?
did I mention there was nothing wrong with #1
I was #2
she just married # 5 ?
when should one realize the time to fish or the time to cut bait ?Lee Lau - xxx-er is the laziest Asian canuck I know
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04-18-2019, 04:10 PM #3772
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04-18-2019, 04:42 PM #3773Registered User
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That’s a PT Cruiser bro, which is even worse
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04-18-2019, 05:06 PM #3774
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04-18-2019, 05:49 PM #3775
This has been posted succinctly in this thread in the past, but it bears repetition:
Marraige is just a legal contract. The moral "till death" stuff, is just in your belief system.
My first live together girlfriend, from 19-30, refused to marry, because she was wise and realized that if the commitment is there, a piece of paper doesn't mean shit.
On the other hand, I've laid it down to my last girlfriend that I would never propose. She accepted a prior proposal from someone else out of not wanting to hurt his feelings because he took her out for a big weekend.
After 9 years, she never asked, and I would have said no anyway, just based on her mental state.
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