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**Cono Este** · 02-14-2019, 05:22 AM

Originally Posted by Rideski

So like sex only 25 times a year?

No complaints in that category.

I always believe in kids first. So with all the sports and activities that the way it was. Problem is, my kids are almost 15, don’t need me as much, dog kicked the bucket in November, so looking for more I guess.

I’ve learnt that dating in your 40’s is some weird shit. Single mothers has little to give, but still want to have fun.

I guess a was a man whore for 3 yrs.

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**delco714** · 02-14-2019, 07:35 AM

Originally Posted by Cono Este

No complaints in that category.

I always believe in kids first. So with all the sports and activities that the way it was. Problem is, my kids are almost 15, don’t need me as much, dog kicked the bucket in November, so looking for more I guess.

I’ve learnt that dating in your 40’s is some weird shit. Single mothers has little to give, but still want to have fun.

I guess a was a man whore for 3 yrs.

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Couple first. Always have to put the relationship first. The foundation of the family and will reach your kids properly relationship skills for their future. The bedrock of their attachment style and how they treat and what they expect from their lovers..

**Mustonen** · 02-14-2019, 08:06 AM

Not when you’re dating. There’s a transition that happens when you move into marriage or long-term committed. But what he describes does not trump kids.

**Danno** · 02-14-2019, 08:18 AM

Originally Posted by delco714

Couple first. Always have to put the relationship first. The foundation of the family and will reach your kids properly relationship skills for their future. The bedrock of their attachment style and how they treat and what they expect from their lovers..

Spoken like a single guy with no kids.

**liv2ski** · 02-14-2019, 08:29 AM

Originally Posted by Danno

Spoken like a single guy with no kids.

Hmmm, still early for my brain, but looking back, the kids were the over whelming first responsibility each day and it took real commitment to make "Just Us" time. Dating a single mom is tough as it is pretty much an accepted condition from her that you will also put her kids needs first to advance the relationship.
Conte, I would run and look for a nice girl that is kid free.

**delco714** · 02-14-2019, 08:32 AM

Originally Posted by Danno

Spoken like a single guy with no kids.

You're an arrogant idiot . You couldn't even take a step back and try to actually understand my statement

**Danno** · 02-14-2019, 08:49 AM

Originally Posted by delco714

You're an arrogant idiot . You couldn't even take a step back and try to actually understand my statement

Oh I understood it, even agreed with part of it, but if you think single parents are supposed to put their relationship with their lover first, you're extremely naive. Even if I'm an arrogant idiot. Tool.

**Mustonen** · 02-14-2019, 08:54 AM

Originally Posted by delco714

You're an arrogant idiot . You couldn't even take a step back and try to actually understand my statement

Any good wizard worth his Phoenix feathers knows to ship the kids off to Hogwarts so you can play “which wand?” with the milf on the regular.

**delco714** · 02-14-2019, 08:55 AM

Originally Posted by Danno

Oh I understood it, even agreed with part of it, but if you think single parents are supposed to put their relationship with their lover first, you're extremely naive. Even if I'm an arrogant idiot. Tool.

Yes. Single parenting is its own situation.
My sentiment was not particularly intended for that demographic

**oftpiste** · 02-14-2019, 09:05 AM

Cono, what are your actual feelings for her? And hers for you? Let's start there.

**Timberridge** · 02-14-2019, 09:09 AM

No personal experience in the dating scene around the 40 mark, but from what I see from a few friends both male and female, it's a bit like the land of the misfit toys. I think if the big D happened to me in my 40's, I'd just date chicks for the next 20 years, then wait to get married in my 60's. By then kids are grown up and your chances of finding a nice widow go up.

**delco714** · 02-14-2019, 09:15 AM

Originally Posted by Mustonen

Any good wizard worth his Phoenix feathers knows to ship the kids off to Hogwarts so you can play “which wand?” with the milf on the regular.

you know what was really funny. Last week when I was on call I had a hospital consult. If you're not familiar with what I do part of it includes Renal oncology surgery. I had a 42 year old who had stage 4 renal cancer and I had to go tell him that he was inoperable and that he was probably going to die within a year. I got to say that in front of his wife luckily his kids weren't in the room. And the best part is I didn't have a magic trick or even the spell that could change his prognosis.

now I don't know if this old schtick is still funny to you or if you're just trying to make friends by bullying and being part of the crowd but I really don't see where you're getting the humor anymore

**4matic** · 02-14-2019, 09:25 AM

Originally Posted by Cono Este

What’s the consensus in here on getting back together with an ex?

My brother remarried his first ex wife
40 years later. It’s odd.

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**Mustonen** · 02-14-2019, 09:42 AM

Originally Posted by delco714

you know what was really funny. Last week when I was on call I had a hospital consult. If you're not familiar with what I do part of it includes Renal oncology surgery. I had a 42 year old who had stage 4 renal cancer and I had to go tell him that he was inoperable and that he was probably going to die within a year. I got to say that in front of his wife luckily his kids weren't in the room. And the best part is I didn't have a magic trick or even the spell that could change his prognosis.

now I don't know if this old schtick is still funny to you or if you're just trying to make friends by bullying and being part of the crowd but I really don't see where you're getting the humor anymore

Oh fuck off you fucking toolbox. It’s cool you’re a doctor, but nobody bows to you over it.

I find it hilarious. What the fuck does your sad cancer story have to do with your wizardry? That you aren’t actually a wizard? No shit.

**delco714** · 02-14-2019, 09:45 AM

Originally Posted by Mustonen

Oh fuck off you fucking toolbox. It’s cool you’re a doctor, but nobody bows to you over it.

I find it hilarious. What the fuck does your sad cancer story have to do with your wizardry?

Bc some people need outlets to decompress. Retaining some childhood like enthusiasm balances me, so does exercise and meditation.
Harry Potter was a bit part of my early years. Just not sure why my enjoyment of Harry Potter is apparently the most important thing on this forum

**El Chupacabra** · 02-14-2019, 09:54 AM

It's the Harry Potter tattoo, Jaguar sticker and personalized license plate, and shirtless selfies in MC Hammer pants that all add up to our collective amusement.

**skaredshtles** · 02-14-2019, 09:56 AM

Originally Posted by El Chupacabra

It's the Harry Potter tattoo, Jaguar sticker and personalized license plate, and shirtless selfies in MC Hammer pants that all add up to our collective amusement.

**fastfred** · 02-14-2019, 10:26 AM

one of my good buddies growing up reconnected with his high school girlfriend maybe 10 plus years later
of course there is a lot more to the story than that
they have one kid together and are probably the most depressed somewhat miserable people I know
it's kind of sad

I don't get the reconnecting with the ex thing, it was over for a reason, so why try to make it work
on the other hand one of my ex's, I have a fantasy about getting back together, but it's just a fantasy, the reality is I do't need to watch her do bumps while sitting at the bar then seeing her face down on the floor a couple hours later, other than that.......

**Mustonen** · 02-14-2019, 10:30 AM

Originally Posted by fastfred

I don't get the reconnecting with the ex thing, it was over for a reason, so why try to make it work

I mostly agree, but I think some reasons are temporary things. People don’t really change, my ex is a good example of that, but situations do.

**delco714** · 02-14-2019, 10:42 AM

Originally Posted by El Chupacabra

It's the Harry Potter tattoo, Jaguar sticker and personalized license plate, and shirtless selfies in MC Hammer pants that all add up to our collective amusement.

Yeahhhhh and I get that originally

But the continuity of bringing it up in the matter of which it has has transcended typical men being men razzing to a more nefarious bullying scenario. I'm a pretty mindful and even keel person and absolutely can take a joke. I get a little irritated when the joviality declines and it seems more like an attack by those who have nothing better to do and perhaps are projecting some issues within themselves.

You can argue all you want, but it is what it is.

**Art Shirk** · 02-14-2019, 10:46 AM

Originally Posted by delco714

Yeahhhhh and I get that originally

But the continuity of bringing it up in the matter of which it has has transcended typical men being men razzing to a more nefarious bullying scenario. I'm a pretty mindful and even keel person and absolutely can take a joke. I get a little irritated when the joviality declines and it seems more like an attack by those who have nothing better to do and perhaps are projecting some issues within themselves.

You can argue all you want, but it is what it is.

When these feelings creep in, just search for any AKPM or Max Gosey thread and pour yourself a solid drink.

**Mustonen** · 02-14-2019, 10:48 AM

Originally Posted by delco714

Yeahhhhh and I get that originally

But the continuity of bringing it up in the matter of which it has has transcended typical men being men razzing to a more nefarious bullying scenario. I'm a pretty mindful and even keel person and absolutely can take a joke. I get a little irritated when the joviality declines and it seems more like an attack by those who have nothing better to do and perhaps are projecting some issues within themselves.

You can argue all you want, but it is what it is.

Men being men? You apparently don’t have friends. This is something that would live FOREVER in any of my friend groups, whether the offender or the “razzer” was a man or a woman. Bonus points for jumping contexts or throwing it in out of left field. If the offender is being a dick (as you were being) it’s a motherfucking given that such a card would be played.

**delco714** · 02-14-2019, 10:49 AM

Originally Posted by Art Shirk

When these feelings creep in, just search for any AKPM or Max Gosey thread and pour yourself a solid drink.

I have a significant family hx of alcoholism. I don't really drink very much nor very often. Never have.

**delco714** · 02-14-2019, 10:49 AM

Originally Posted by Mustonen

Men being men? You apparently don’t have friends. This is something that would live FOREVER in any of my friend groups, whether the offender or the “razzer” was a man or a woman. Bonus points for jumping contexts or throwing it in out of left field. If the offender is being a dick (as you were being) it’s a motherfucking given that such a card would be played.

Wow. You're an angry elf aren't you. Whew. Where does all that rage come from? Everything ok at home?