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    Ha, I know a cousin of Rush Limbaugh. She changed her last name after he became a thing.

    My Ex kept my last name. She's a teacher and thought it would just be easier for everybody- especially our kids.

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    Tammy Wynette cannot be reached for help-Divorce advice

    I don’t care what her last name is. Fucked up in the extreme, however, to introduce the idea to the kids that she would approve if they were able to change their last name to reflect hers. Had a bit of a moment when I told the kids they can do whatever they want when they are 18, but that I wouldn’t sign off on changing their name before then and I wasn’t going to take it well if they seriously thought they would like to no longer share my name. (They don’t seriously think that. They’re little kids, ferfucksake.)

    We kind of share dog custody (broadly, they follow the kids). I’m the one who takes the dogs to the vet. She changed the name on the account to her maiden name so the dogs all had her last name. Little bit of confusion when I called to set up appointments.

    It’s not like my last name is Asslorde or something..... tempted to casually suggest that maybe we should hyphenate her last name, my last name, and my girlfriend’s last name all together. See how that is received. (I would never....)
    focus.

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    It would be kinda cool if your name was Asslorde though.

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    Quote Originally Posted by oftpiste View Post
    For me, if someone to whom I wanted to be committed refused to continue the relationship without paperwork and a ring I'd be hard pressed not to consider that a major red flag, and a damn good indicator they were not a wise choice for a LTR, let alone paperwork and a ring!

    I have asked this question of men in 2nd/3rd/etc. marriages who said something like, "well, she said it marriage or nothing" and I'm thinking, "ummmmm......nothing?.....ultimatum much?"

    No thanks!
    Arent there a lot of financial benefits to being married?

    Especially as you age with estate taxes and benefits being available to the spouse as well?

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    Quote Originally Posted by iceman View Post
    It would be kinda cool if your name was Asslorde though.
    hmmm instead of ASSMAN maybe they'd allow ASSLRD for license plate
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    Asslard?

    Pass.

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    ASSLORD, wasn't he in that Harry Pothead movie?
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    Pretty sure punching a lesbian is a hate crime.
    I still call it The Jake.

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    Tongue punch my fart box

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    Richard Asslorde but friends call me dick
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    Quote Originally Posted by SB View Post
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    Many ways to protect assets without putting a relationship on paper. And, whatever I have left when I kack is going to my kids.

    Quote Originally Posted by mtngirl79 View Post
    Arent there a lot of financial benefits to being married?

    Especially as you age with estate taxes and benefits being available to the spouse as well?
    Quote Originally Posted by Foggy_Goggles View Post
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    Quote Originally Posted by mtngirl79 View Post
    Arent there a lot of financial benefits to being married?

    Especially as you age with estate taxes and benefits being available to the spouse as well?
    Not sure how the changes in tax code have impacted things, but under the old tax code, couples with similar incomes got a marriage penalty. Before getting married, I took the homeowner's deduction and my wife took the "don't itemize" standard deduction. After we started filing jointly, the tax bill went up because we shared the homeowner's deduction.

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    Quote Originally Posted by iceman View Post
    Sometime I get in arguments with my wife, and it's like she has a computer for a brain - she'll remember exactly what the last fight was about, and the one before, and exactly what was said...and I'm just floundering, I don't remember half of it. I always accused her of making it all up but I wondered..

    Well today, my wife was trying to find some notes she made on something, and she laughed. I asked what's up and she said, oh, I just found the notes I made from a fight we had last December.

    NOTES?!? No wonder she remembers this shit, she studies it! And all of a sudden shit makes more sense. I bet she's far from alone in this, although it's possible I'm just the lucky one.

    But if you find yourself on the losing end of a situation like that, where details are being mentioned, and previous exchanges quoted, I strongly suggest that you ask to review her notes before proceeding. I know I plan to. We'll see how that works out. Not well, probably, but I'll give it a shot.
    Thank you for this, I LOL'd and told my wife. She was both amused and disturbed but saw the value of keeping notes so maybe telling her was the wrong move.

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    Quote Originally Posted by oftpiste View Post
    Many ways to protect assets without putting a relationship on paper. And, whatever I have left when I kack is going to my kids.
    Seems like the best thing to do is leave everything to your kids... but then you never know how things could play out... kids very well off. Partner takes some financial hits.

    Maybe partner cares for you rather than you having to go in a nursing home?

    Or maybe you are caring for partner and then you die unexpectantly.

    Just seems like there is a lot to think about and lots of variables to make blanket statements...

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    sigh.

    I forgive you your naivete and believe your intentions are genuine. However, if you've not been through what many of us in this thread have your context and perspective is limited. Not an insult, just a fact.

    If -
    and that's a big if - I choose to commit to a partner again, said partner will be self sufficient and have their own lives and financial affairs sorted to take care fo their families, and they can make what ever choices they like about what to do with theirs. At this age, if I chose to partner again, all of those possibilities will have been out on the table for due conversation and agreement. Who will take care of whom if care taking is required will be well established and likely in writing if it is a dedicated life-partnership.

    Believe it or not, us TGR geezers actually do think beyond the next cocktail and what our futures might look like. I can make those statements because they are what I choose to do after considering the possibilities, but they are far from 'blanket'.

    And you still can do all of those things, if you are intentional and communicative, without a judge's signature and a piece of jewelry.

    Quote Originally Posted by mtngirl79 View Post
    Seems like the best thing to do is leave everything to your kids... but then you never know how things could play out... kids very well off. Partner takes some financial hits.

    Maybe partner cares for you rather than you having to go in a nursing home?

    Or maybe you are caring for partner and then you die unexpectantly.

    Just seems like there is a lot to think about and lots of variables to make blanket statements...
    Quote Originally Posted by Foggy_Goggles View Post
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    watch out for snakes

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    Quote Originally Posted by oftpiste View Post

    Believe it or not, us TGR geezers actually do think beyond the next cocktail .
    schpeek fer yershelf, l00zer...
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    c’mon he’s just getting into ex-tra time let’s cut the guy some slack sounds like he’s almost ready to be a player!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Foggy_Goggles View Post
    If I lived in WA, Oft would be my realtor. Seriously.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Buster Highmen View Post
    schpeek fer yershelf, l00zer...
    well, ok maybe not past the one after the next one.....
    Quote Originally Posted by Foggy_Goggles View Post
    If I lived in WA, Oft would be my realtor. Seriously.

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    Quote Originally Posted by oftpiste View Post
    well, ok maybe not past the one after the next one.....
    attaboy!
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