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04-16-2019, 04:06 PM #3726I drink it up
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I enjoy how we ascribe relationship success to “a wise choice.” It’s a nice pat on the back for a moment that becomes vanishingly minor against the full weight of maintaining lifelong relationships.
focus.
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04-16-2019, 04:11 PM #3727
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04-16-2019, 04:42 PM #3728
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04-16-2019, 05:00 PM #3729
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04-16-2019, 05:23 PM #3730Registered User
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ah yeah exactly, the person I was in my early twenties when I met my future ex wife and who I am today, well they are two totally different people
people do change over time, if you don't that's cool
today I spent two hours with someone talking about hundreds of thousands of dollars, twenty plus years ago I was trying to score a bag of weed and wondering if I was going to get 100 days on the mountain or not
power to anyone who "chose wisely" that's great, I guess we're not all that lucky, at least now, I know to dump them after two or three weeks when I realize it ain't gonna work
the relationship can change, people change, and suddenly what you both had in common at one point, well you find out you have nothing that ties you together anymore, but maybe some kids and financial interests
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04-16-2019, 05:35 PM #3731
My point is that sometimes the wisest choice you can make is to realize it's over and GTFO.
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04-16-2019, 06:22 PM #3732
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04-16-2019, 06:54 PM #3733
“A man who views the world the same at fifty as he did at twenty has wasted thirty years of his life.”
- Muhammad Ali
People change; if they don’t, Jebus; avoid them.
The hope is that you and your partner change in similar, or at least compatible, ways, and can adjust to the changes to stay on the same path. Some can, some can’t.
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04-16-2019, 07:40 PM #3734
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04-16-2019, 08:17 PM #3735Registered User
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nobody goes into it thinking marriage has a finite time line
but as opposed to ending up in a domestic disturbance
there comes a time to either fish or cut bait
and move onLee Lau - xxx-er is the laziest Asian canuck I know
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04-16-2019, 10:22 PM #3736Banned
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Everyone is crazy. The key is finding someone with a particular brand of craziness you can live with.
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04-16-2019, 10:32 PM #3737Registered User
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04-16-2019, 11:53 PM #3738
All I know is that after 30 years I still like being with her. I feel better when she is near. She makes my life better and I’m good with that.
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04-17-2019, 12:03 AM #3739
My now ex-wife developed bipolar I after the birth of our daughter. So let's not be so quick to qualify one's decisions as better than others. Shit happens, and to think you can make "good" decisions based on future events is naive.
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04-17-2019, 05:57 AM #3740
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04-17-2019, 05:58 AM #3741
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04-17-2019, 06:09 AM #3742I drink it up
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Tammy Wynette cannot be reached for help-Divorce advice
This I can get behind. I understand the expression of “wise choice” but I think it’s a fallacy to believe that luck doesn’t play a massive role in selecting the right partner that you can sustain a long term loving relationship with, and what isn’t luck is hard work. And the tiny half a percent that’s left over you might halfway seriously attribute to the application of whatever wisdom is available to your horny twenty-something or thirty-something brain.
That’s all.focus.
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04-17-2019, 07:11 AM #3743
Definitely an element of luck.
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04-17-2019, 09:16 AM #3744
Boyz, it's good and lucky and wise and wonderful until it's not, which is never for some folks. I'm happy for them and sincerely hope it stays that way. I believe that's always better than going through the mess of splitting up, but sometimes there's just no "getting through" those issues.
There are so many variables it is impossible to paint any of it with a broad brush.
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04-17-2019, 09:59 AM #3745
It takes a lot of working at the relationship, self sacrifice and just letting shit go to have a lasting relationship IMO. I love being the mom and dad that hung in there for my kids, but some days I am just over it and ready to bale. I am sure she feels the same way, but we keep trying to have fun together and hang in there. It ain't easy, but we do have our great moments after 39 years together.
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04-17-2019, 11:20 AM #3746
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04-17-2019, 02:01 PM #3747
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04-17-2019, 02:05 PM #3748
The world needs farmers. Although this is sobering...
https://www.agweek.com/opinion/colum...s-most-couples"timberridge is terminally vapid" -- a fortune cookie in Yueyang
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04-17-2019, 02:11 PM #3749
Well, at least they have their own dating site.
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04-17-2019, 03:32 PM #3750"fuck off you asshat gaper shit for brains fucktard wanker." - Jesus Christ
"She was tossing her bean salad with the vigor of a Drunken Pop princess so I walked out of the corner and said.... "need a hand?"" - Odin
"everybody's got their hooks into you, fuck em....forge on motherfuckers, drag all those bitches across the goal line with you." - (not so) ill-advised strategy
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