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01-17-2020, 01:29 PM #4451"fuck off you asshat gaper shit for brains fucktard wanker." - Jesus Christ
"She was tossing her bean salad with the vigor of a Drunken Pop princess so I walked out of the corner and said.... "need a hand?"" - Odin
"everybody's got their hooks into you, fuck em....forge on motherfuckers, drag all those bitches across the goal line with you." - (not so) ill-advised strategy
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01-17-2020, 01:57 PM #4452"timberridge is terminally vapid" -- a fortune cookie in Yueyang
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01-17-2020, 02:06 PM #4453
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01-17-2020, 02:27 PM #4454Registered User
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They are your kids so NO you are not dumb, I went thru that same tug of war, so having to cut bait after strike 3 was the hardest things I ever had to do but I seen a pattern from which I had to save myself
So Fast Forward 20-25 yars, while she may have been a terrible wife she was actualy a good ex-wife so the kids are all right both my sons have done well
so what can you do ? well if you do decide to cut bait, always pay your support, always show up when you say you will, always do what you say you are gona do , so the kids will be Ok if you are okLee Lau - xxx-er is the laziest Asian canuck I know
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01-17-2020, 05:31 PM #4455I drink it up
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01-20-2020, 01:57 PM #4456“When you see something that is not right, not just, not fair, you have a moral obligation to say something. To do something." Rep. John Lewis
Kindness is a bridge between all people
Dunkin’ Donuts Worker Dances With Customer Who Has Autism
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01-20-2020, 02:22 PM #4457
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01-20-2020, 02:25 PM #4458
I believe last year they were so inundated with requests for this that they ran out of cock roaches.
watch out for snakes
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01-20-2020, 04:20 PM #4459
Smoke a roach instead.
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01-20-2020, 04:43 PM #4460Registered User
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we used to try and teach Gary to use his poles which was a lost cause finaly it was
" Gary, pretend the top of every mogul is yer wifes head and plant that pole ! "
edit: A gary from back in the day, not ^^ garyfromterraceLast edited by XXX-er; 01-20-2020 at 07:23 PM.
Lee Lau - xxx-er is the laziest Asian canuck I know
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02-11-2020, 07:33 PM #4461
Tammy Wynette cannot be reached for help-Divorce advice
Checking in. Ugh. This shit sucks.
Sent from my iPhone using TGR ForumsLast edited by joetron; 02-12-2020 at 12:25 AM.
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02-11-2020, 07:38 PM #4462
Damn, sorry joe.
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02-11-2020, 07:42 PM #4463
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02-11-2020, 10:37 PM #4464
Must be in the water.
In the past 3 weeks I have run across 4 friends who are no longer married.I have been in this State for 30 years and I am willing to admit that I am part of the problem.
"Happiest years of my life were earning < $8.00 and hour, collecting unemployment every spring and fall, no car, no debt and no responsibilities. 1984-1990 Park City UT"
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02-12-2020, 06:59 AM #4465
It does bite now but will get better at some point.
watch out for snakes
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02-12-2020, 07:04 AM #4466
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02-12-2020, 12:21 PM #4467
Maybe.
I have not spoken to my EX for 9 months, bottled it up, then it eventually hit me. I’ve even got a new Gal, but when they get you good, it leaves a mark.
I would just like to warn any middle aged dude to be aware of single mothers. They are generally emotionally unavailable, and if you fall for one, God help you.
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02-12-2020, 12:35 PM #4468
YMMV.
I fell a single mom after my divorce. Kept our separate houses. She raised her daughter, I co-raised my kids with my ex. Kids are all grown and healthy/happy. We've been together for 17 years. She still makes me all tingly.
There are just too many variations in humans to set hard and fast rules. You may have not had luck with the last single mom, but I wouldn't let that stop you from trying with another.
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02-12-2020, 01:51 PM #4469
Tammy Wynette cannot be reached for help-Divorce advice
Of course.
It depends if they are emotionally “available”. I keep learning new words. And, if they’ve healed from their divorce as my therapist tells me I forgot to account for.
This last girl had an abusive husband, and three kids 8-13. And it’s always kids first, I wouldn’t date a mother who didn’t have those values. But when you get to that point when you have something real, they either have to start making real room, and start getting over past scars, or you have to move on.
That’s what killed me. I stuck around and respected boundaries for 4 fucking yrs, never asked for anything, and then the chic that can’t talk about feelings and shit just exploded.
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02-12-2020, 05:08 PM #4470
Geez, I've learned so many things about dating and new relationships in the past year it's overwhelming. And amazing. And "who knew this was even possible?" And "why TF didn't I learn/do this years ago?"
For me it has boiled down to trying to determining ASAP (first date, and of course if it seems there's mutual interest) if they're willing to expose their emotional underbellies, speak candidly of their overall needs and desires and if they're wiling to let me do the same without judgement.
I spill ALL my dirt early no matter how much I might fear showing them who I really am will scare them off, and to my ongoing surprise, it usually doesn't. It also starts the relationship - whatever it is - off on the right foot and sets it up for open conversation and vulnerability down the road. It ain't hard to see if that's what's up, and you know real quick if there's anything you're both interested in beyond the first cocktail.
It's also sexy AF when both of us show up that way. I just don't hang with anyone who doesn't.
I feel like "emotional availability" is an often misused term. We all have emotional blocks, and triggers, and projection, and weirdnesses. To be "emotionally available" doesn't mean one is ready for any particular kind of relationship (true love, monogamy, commitment, etc.), but it does mean that a person is willing to acknowledge and own those issues and be up front about the fact those things will likely show up at some point.
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02-16-2020, 08:04 PM #4471
Paper work is filed, and it feels so good. 6 month waiting periods are a bitch, though. August 12th is in my calendar as "Independence Day." Bunch of my friends have already circulated this around as a "save the date" for a huge party. lol... 6 days after my 15th anniversary.
Biggest surprise to me was breaking the news to my parents yesterday that it was official. Thought they'd be sad and my mom, who is not religious, said, "Oh thank god! We've been biting our tongues for the last few years." That was a wakeup call, to some degree.
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02-16-2020, 08:32 PM #4472
Vibes TJ. Whether or not peeps close to you are happy for you it sucks to be there. It will eventually suck way less, but hang in there. Be good to yourself. Get a good lawyer (not necessarily a ballbuster but one who will protect you from one if necessary) and, sadly, do not presume amicability.
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02-17-2020, 11:06 AM #4473
Congrats TJ!
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02-17-2020, 12:05 PM #4474
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02-17-2020, 04:49 PM #4475I drink it up
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Tammy Wynette cannot be reached for help-Divorce advice
The reaction of family and close friends was really affirming for me. Got a lot of “I can’t believe you lasted that long.” To some degree, I was a little peeved... as in “why didn’t you say something??”
Understood, it’s not the kind of thing you get involved with and the correct choice is to keep your nose out of it. But still, a heads up that I seemed miserable for years and that being treated that way was far from normal would have helped me wake up a little and make a positive change sooner.
The financial impact is significant, and I’m still a ways away from recovering. But starting to make real progress on that side. Once the alimony is done and child support starts to wean off in 4 years, things will start to feel normal-ish and I can think about building a retirement. Looking forward to that....focus.
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