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  1. #4751
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    Quote Originally Posted by mfcf13 View Post
    Or as Benny says "The best thing to make you forget about old pussy (and the fact that the old pussy got the house) is a romp with a Hilary sex doll".
    Give it a rest


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    Quote Originally Posted by MagnificentUnicorn View Post
    Give it a rest


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    x2.

    Stalkers need to fuck right off.
    I have been in this State for 30 years and I am willing to admit that I am part of the problem.

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    Quote Originally Posted by stalefish3169 View Post
    Yeah, I agree. Once they realize they have the power, it's very hard to change that. And nothing dries up the beav faster.

    He doesn't really go on the internets much. So, not worried about him seeing this. Even though I'm writing about it with best intentions in mind. It has been a real bummer seeing my buddy get destroyed by this chick. He's normally got a pretty strong personality but I've seen him break down multiple times over this and start crying like a child while stating he just wants it to work out and keep his family together. Rough stuff.

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    First he may want to make the marriage work (and I usually agree if they can live together civilly and healthy especially with kids), but it sounds like the wife in this case is not wanting to make this work at all and is walking all over your friend and there is nothing that he can do to change her or changing her attitude and return to a healthy and not a toxic relationship unless she is willing to work on that for herself. It takes 2 willing to make it work. If she has checked out, then there is probably no good and continued pain if he tries to pursue the ongoing living together and just a new normal of a household not tied together with a marriage but only staying together "for the kids" or whatever the reasoning is. Unless finances are such that there is no way to separate the living arrangements it sounds like a long term set up for failure of him getting on with a happier life.

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    Thanks again for the thoughtful responses. Sounds like there is some consensus that living together after the divorce is a bad idea. But it's probably best I support him from a neutral position and let him reach that conclusion on his own.

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    Quote Originally Posted by stalefish3169 View Post
    Thanks again for the thoughtful responses. Sounds like there is some consensus that living together after the divorce is a bad idea. But it's probably best I support him from a neutral position and let him reach that conclusion on his own.

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    Yes, do not express your strong opinions and risk pushing him away, just listen when he wants to vent and hopefully his mind will clear and he will see his soon to be exwife (and Mother of his children) for what she sounds like a bad influence that has a hold of him still.

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    A wise man once told me when I was too caught up in a woman, "There's not just a few fish in the pond, there's a whole shitload!"
    The pacifists always lose, because the anti-pacifists kill them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by stalefish3169 View Post
    Thanks again for the thoughtful responses. Sounds like there is some consensus that living together after the divorce is a bad idea. But it's probably best I support him from a neutral position and let him reach that conclusion on his own.

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    I have a friend a who is similar and had a similar woman similar divorce 3 kids. Been a few years and he really still hasn't fully moved on. No amount of anti doormat counseling had an effect on him and his x had moved on even before the divorce. He's doing it his way and to be honest it is working fine for him. Lives in a boat all summer and shags young marina pussy from the nearby college town then dumps them in the winter.

    Who am I to tell him what to do.

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    Tammy Wynette cannot be reached for help-Divorce advice

    ^^ uhh... that’s my current program except for the boat and winter part. But same general concept. Why is this bad exactly? This is precisely how I’ve “moved on” and I’m pretty happy with it.
    I ski 135 degree chutes switch to the road.

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    Quote Originally Posted by stalefish3169 View Post
    Best friend is about to get divorced. She wants it and he is having a hard time accepting. He's been kissing her ass for years while she treats him like shit and keeps pushing him away. His latest idea is to get divorced but keep living together for "the rest of their lives." From those who've been through it, this is a terrible idea, correct?

    He texted today, "Ending the marriage bookends a pile of shit. Creates room for something far more."

    His brain is just jello right now IMO. Do I try to be supportive or tell him to snap the fuck out of it and stop clinging to something that isn't going to work? FWIW, they've been going to marriage therapy for years, both together and individually, and their therapists think they should split. They have 2 kids, 5 and 3.

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    I’ll be the contrarian and say that I sought out, and acceptaed advice (and decided against some) from friends when going through various rough patches. Never blamed a friend, lost a friend, etc.

    Some of the stories in here are more nuanced. This seems cut and dried. Helping kick his butt in gear that this is his new reality and he needs some contingency plans in formulation mode, could make his and his kids lives a little easier.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TahoeJ View Post
    ^^ uhh... that’s my current program except for the boat and winter part. But same general concept. Why is this bad exactly? This is precisely how I’ve “moved on” and I’m pretty happy with it.
    It isn't bad. That is my point. Not what I would have advised but he isn't me and it is working for him.

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    ^^ Got it. Once you’ve already had kids and done all of that life stuff and had those experiences, I’ve found the motivation to get serious again dwindles considerably. Took me some time to really wrap my head around that concept.
    I ski 135 degree chutes switch to the road.

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    Digging into this thread finally. Over the past 6 years my brother and my 4 best friends have gotten divorced. These have been the people closest to me and my daily life. I’ve been there as an ear to talk to and a shoulder to cry on. I’ve done for them what I think I would want if the tables were turned.
    But fuck dude it’s been rough. Not the being there for my friends but trying to keep my marriage going too after 24 years.
    Recently the ex wife of the last friend to go through mediation got very butthurt with the amount of support he has gotten from me over the lesser amount of support to her. I mean she’s also not doing a damn thing to help herself either. To the point she’s now trying to get between my wife and I. Come hang out with me Mrs. Buzz, but don’t bring that husband of yours with. The bitterness has begun. Time in her mind for the friend spilt up I guess.
    It’s all a damn shame.

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    Quote Originally Posted by uglymoney View Post
    Lives in a boat all summer and shags young marina pussy from the nearby college town then dumps them in the winter.
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    Btw this divorce shit is absolutely contagious. Like obviously so... be aware of that.
    I ski 135 degree chutes switch to the road.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Buzzworthy View Post
    Digging into this thread finally. Over the past 6 years my brother and my 4 best friends have gotten divorced. These have been the people closest to me and my daily life. I’ve been there as an ear to talk to and a shoulder to cry on. I’ve done for them what I think I would want if the tables were turned.
    But fuck dude it’s been rough. Not the being there for my friends but trying to keep my marriage going too after 24 years.
    Recently the ex wife of the last friend to go through mediation got very butthurt with the amount of support he has gotten from me over the lesser amount of support to her. I mean she’s also not doing a damn thing to help herself either. To the point she’s now trying to get between my wife and I. Come hang out with me Mrs. Buzz, but don’t bring that husband of yours with. The bitterness has begun. Time in her mind for the friend spilt up I guess.
    It’s all a damn shame.
    Hopefully she understands it for what it is. Tell her I said hello btw.

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    Quote Originally Posted by zion zig zag View Post
    Hopefully she understands it for what it is. Tell her I said hello btw.
    I’m certainly not worried about my wife, she’s so much smarter than I! I’ll tell her, thanks man.

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    Quote Originally Posted by zion zig zag View Post
    Tell her I said hello btw.
    Bold move.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TahoeJ View Post
    ^^ Got it. Once you’ve already had kids and done all of that life stuff and had those experiences, I’ve found the motivation to get serious again dwindles considerably. Took me some time to really wrap my head around that concept.
    Ha, put that on your bathroom mirror buddy. I have known so many guys that after shagging some hawt young thing, who wants kids, reverses the vasectomy to do it all again. The fucking horror.
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    I think you'd have an easier time understanding people if you remembered that 80% of them are fucking morons.
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    Quote Originally Posted by liv2ski View Post
    I have known so many guys that after shagging a hawt young thing who wants kids reverses the vasectomy to do it all again. The fucking horror.
    that is possible? what the fuck?
    swing your fucking sword.

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    Yes and apparently it is very painful too
    Quote Originally Posted by leroy jenkins View Post
    I think you'd have an easier time understanding people if you remembered that 80% of them are fucking morons.
    That is why I like dogs, more than most people.

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    Quote Originally Posted by liv2ski View Post
    I have known so many guys that after shagging some hawt young thing, who wants kids, reverses the vasectomy to do it all again. The fucking horror.
    I've already dealt with this. No kid reset for me.

    And yes, the reversal is possible. My friend who did that said it hurt like hell.
    I ski 135 degree chutes switch to the road.

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    Quote Originally Posted by liv2ski View Post
    Ha, put that on your bathroom mirror buddy. I have known so many guys that after shagging some hawt young thing, who wants kids, reverses the vasectomy to do it all again. The fucking horror.
    To be fair - I'd guess *every* dude that decides to do this is, IRL, a complete moran.

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    This is painful to write…

    A young man I know has been getting badly jerked around by his hopefully-soon-be-ex-wife.

    Twenty months ago she threw him out by calling out the cops with a bullshit charge of battery. Since then she has done everything she can to stall things out to keep him from seeing his daughter. He hasn’t seen his kid in person since March of 2020. Since then all he can get is 15 min via zoom twice per week.

    I’ve known him for 5 yrs, and a friend was one of his teachers in high school. We agree that there is no way he abused his hopefully-soon-to-be-ex - if anything, he’s a doormat.

    But she knew that she could make his life a living hell if she got a restraining order - and she did. He had to go thru a batterers class (which the “therapist” said straight out “you shouldn’t be here”) which cost him a bunch in addition to the legal fees he’s incurred.

    It’s amazing how easy it is for a woman to get a restraining order. I understand why but there is no reasonable course for a man to push back when it’s bullshit.

    He just wants to end the marriage and get reasonable visitation in exchange for child support (which he has been faithfully paying despite the lack of a court order). But it’s been an ordeal.

    The pandemic has really screwed up the timing of court hearings and ex keeps coming up with bullshit excuses to stall. Including changing lawyers several times. His next hearing date is in September. Two years since she sic’d the cops on him.

    He’s exhausted his funds on legal fees to this point. He’s working two jobs trying to survive and marshal more funds to get to a point where he can get representation for that hearing and to finish out this nightmare. We’ve given him a bunch of money too but our funds are limited what with me being unemployed due to COVID.

    He has set up a go GoFundMe account to beg for money for legal fees
    https://www.gofundme.com/f/coralee-n...ource=customer

    Any donation would be greatly appreciated.

    Here’s the painful part:
    - the child in question is my granddaughter
    - the hopefully-soon-to-be-ex is my daughter. She cut off all contact with Ms TBS & me 19 months ago when she found out that we let the young man stay at our house for a couple of months after the split - housing is really tight around here and he was sleeping in his car.

    This really sucks. All we want is for Granddaughter to have a relationship with her daddy. Who, based on our observations prior to the split, liked him more than her mom.

    Thanks for reading this tale of familial woe, and for any donations

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    condolences tbs. contribution forthcoming
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    ^that truly sucks


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