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11-12-2022, 10:35 AM #4926
After 42 years together, we often think as one. It is amusing to both of us. Hood26, after nearly getting divorced about 28 years ago, we went to Retrovaille and the counselor suggested to me I might be a bit of a controlling asshole and to lighten up. Maybe your wife needs to hear the same from a third party if she wants to stay married. Good luck.
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11-12-2022, 10:48 AM #4927I drink it up
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And this too. Lots of perspective there.
All I’m saying is, this sounds more serious than how to collaborate to pick out the right can opener. It ends in misery or divorce (or worse, both) if you don’t take some agency here. Between utter lack of respect or appreciation for your contributions and no regard for your perspective (both of which I experienced in spades pre-divorce) these recent stories sound like the stories told in the TW thread as reasons why we’re in a better place now.focus.
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11-12-2022, 12:38 PM #4928
I was in the middle of typing how after 20 years my relationship was probably somewhere between this thread and TW when she say she doesn’t want to be married.
I guess it’s either time for me to find some mediation or try calling TW."Let's be careful out there."
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11-12-2022, 01:04 PM #4929I drink it up
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11-12-2022, 01:11 PM #4930
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11-12-2022, 01:34 PM #4931
Oh sorry dude. That sucks
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11-12-2022, 05:15 PM #4932
I love my wife and all, but Jesus Hercules Christ...
Misery loves company, 26. Don’t surround yourself with a bunch of divorcees before you surround yourself with a bunch of people who sorted out their problems.
Been married 16 years. Years 11-12 were brutal. Almost lost it all. But we fixed it. And it’s awesome now. So grateful for that.
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11-12-2022, 05:38 PM #4933
That's not really the vibe in the Tammy thread, for the record. Lots of go to therapy / try to work it out advice and being supportive. Also not a lot of misery, as most of us over there are well past it and reflective.
Having said that, I do think people in real life hanging out with too many people going through or recently divorced can be extremely detrimental ("well damn that sounds just like my husband / wife!"), and I've seen it happen (and almost happen in some cases) firsthand in a really ugly way so I do take your point.
On the flipside, a thread like this is therapeutic for a lot of people I'm sure. I would say more but I need to take out the recycle... overflowing because of that Amazon box! ;-)I ski 135 degree chutes switch to the road.
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11-12-2022, 05:43 PM #4934
There is that. Saving a relationship that once meant the world to you both and making it to retirement with each other and being best friends in the world means a lot to me. Once people become "Married Singles" it is tough to breath love back into the relationship, but Retrouvalle worked for us. Good luck.
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11-12-2022, 07:08 PM #4935I drink it up
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11-12-2022, 08:00 PM #4936
I love my wife and all, but Jesus Hercules Christ...
Also you tend to hear only one person’s side. My oldest friend/ski partner is the nicest, most easy going guy. He got divorced and it was her that wanted it.
Most people didn’t get it, (especially since she ended up with this semi-jerk of a guy), but my friend was also prolly a pain to live with. Maybe he shoulda had more of an opinion once in a while, etc.
I mean she’s a HEINOUS BITCH and all, but you never really know.Well maybe I'm the faggot America
I'm not a part of a redneck agenda
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11-12-2022, 08:01 PM #4937Registered User
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Might have to check into the Tammy thread. I've been busting my ass for weeks as a newly minted sandwich artist - here I am creating IMO amazing sandwiches day after day and the wife just ordered jimmy fucking Johns. The house is stocked with gourmet sandwich shit, I'm happy to make anything for her with my newfound knowledge, and SHE ORDERS JIMMY JOHNS, GUYS.
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11-12-2022, 08:24 PM #4938
At least she didn't go down on the subway.
Is it radix panax notoginseng? - splat
This is like hanging yourself but the rope breaks. - DTM
Dude Listen to mtm. He's a marriage counselor at burning man. - subtle plague
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11-12-2022, 08:44 PM #4939
Jersey Mike's, I could understand her straying. But not for Jimmy John's.
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11-12-2022, 08:52 PM #4940Registered User
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Was I too eager? Should I have played it cool when adding apple butter to the turkey? Where did I go wrong?
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11-12-2022, 08:56 PM #4941
Perhaps your pickle wasn't big enough.
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11-12-2022, 09:03 PM #4942Registered User
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11-13-2022, 08:05 PM #4943
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11-13-2022, 08:06 PM #4944
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11-14-2022, 05:49 AM #4945
Can we get back to complaining?
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11-14-2022, 08:33 AM #4946
Seriously. I’ll start. This was earlier this summer, but still…. I’m a bit of a procrastinator and wife is opposite, she jumps the gun all the fuckin time. Sometimes we’re good for each other in that she gets me to do shit, and I temper her worst impulses. However, when something truly doesn’t need doing, I’ll stand my ground.
so backyard is getting a touch shaggy but really DOESNT NEED MOWING. She gets fired up and storms out to cut the grass. Fine. In a half hour or so, I come out with a beer and notice it still looks … shaggy. So I wander over to her (still cutting, mowers running etc) and point out the blade clutch which wasn’t pushed in. She’s just spent 40 minutes pushing a running-but-not-blade-turning mower around our back yard. Boy, was she pissed
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11-14-2022, 08:55 AM #4947
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11-14-2022, 09:23 AM #4948Registered User
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My wife grew up remodeling condos and houses with her father. He was an airline pilot and so when he was home, he was home all day and so they would buy a fixer upper, do the work and then flip it and move on up. She never lived in a place more than 2 years. This is to say that she knows her way around power tools and construction way better than i do. However, somehow, she never ever did yardwork and until a few months ago had never mowed a lawn. Well, i came down with covid in late july and was laid up pretty good, while she got a very mild case. So i asked her to mow the lawn b/c it was getting real long and hadnt been mowed in about a week during its prime growing season. When i stumbled outside later that day i saw a lawn that had been mowed in a manner similar to an Americas Funniest Video of a 4 yr old buzzing his brothers head. Not only were there a shitton of missed spots all over the place, but you could tell from the wheel tracks that she had gone in a random pattern. When i calmly asked what happened, that is when she said that she had never mowed a lawn before. this was in year 2 of marriage. How did i not know this?!
Also, my new mower has a safety feature where if you dont have the blade clutch engaged, the thing will not start and will immediately die. So effectively, if you want the mower engine on, you will also have the blade spinning. No way around it without aftermarket fiddling. Seems more dangerous than helpful, but im just a hack.Last edited by californiagrown; 11-14-2022 at 12:52 PM.
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11-14-2022, 11:38 AM #4949
my girlfriend and I live a few hours apart - it’s temporary while our kids are in high school - she’s here visiting for a few days
she forgot her ski boots at homeI didn't believe in reincarnation when I was your age either.
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11-14-2022, 11:17 PM #4950
I started working in restaurants when I was 15. I've done everything from dishes, to cooking, to waiting. And now I share a home kitchen with my wife who also loves to cook. But the fact she has never worked in a restaurant makes me irate.
We discuss recipes and fusions at the table. But side-by-side cooking? Nope.
Noisy knife on the cutting board. Trash in the sink, along with every dish imaginable. Knife blades facing up in the dishwasher. KNIVES IN BOWLS FILLED WITH SOAPY WATER!
"You'd have been fired a long time ago."
She's an amazing cook as long I'm not near her to witness it.
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