Modern Dating ritual is broken and pathetic...

[DasBlunt]

http://thoughtcatalog.com/christophe...CY7VzZabYft.01

1. The person who cares less has all the power. Nobody wants to be the one who’s more interested.

2. Because we want to show how cavalier and blasé we can be to the other person, little psychological games like ‘Intentionally Take Hours Or Days To Text Back’ will happen. They aren’t fun.

3. A person being carefree because they have zero interest in you looks exactly like a person being carefree because they think you’re amazing & are making a conscious effort to play it cool. Good luck deciphering between the two.

4. Making phone calls is a dying art. Chances are, most of your relationship’s communication will happen via text, which is the most detached, impersonal form of interaction. Get familiar with those emoticon options.

5. Set plans are dead. People have options and up-to-the-minute updates on their friends (or other potential romantic interests) whereabouts thanks to texts & social media. If you aren’t the top priority, your invitation to spend time will be given a “Maybe” or “I’ll let you know” and the deciding factor(s) will be if that person has offers more fun/interesting than you on the table.

6. Someone who hurt you isn’t automatically going to have bad karma. At least not in the immediate future. I know it only seems fair, but sometimes people cheat and betray and move on happily while the person they left is in shambles.

7. The only difference between your actions being romantic and creepy is how attractive the other person finds you. That’s it, that’s all.

8. “Let’s chill” & “Wanna hang out?” are vague phrases that likely mean “let’s hookup” — and while you probably hate receiving them, they’re the common way to invite someone to spend time these days, and appear to be here to stay.

9. Some people just want to hookup and if you’re seeking more than sex, they won’t tell you that they’re the wrong person for you. At least, not until after they score your prize. While human decency is ideal, honesty isn’t mandatory.

10. The text message you sent went through. If they didn’t respond, it wasn’t because of malfunctioning phone carrier services.

11. So many people are scared of commitment and being official that they’ll remain in a label-free relationship, which blurs lines and only works until it doesn’t. I’ve said it many times before, I’ll say it again – “we’re just talking” is opening the door for cheating that technically wasn’t cheating because, hey, you weren’t together together.

12. Social media creates new temptations and opportunities to cheat. The private messaging and options for subtle flirtation (e.g. liking of pictures) aren’t an excuse or validation for cheating, but they certainly increase the chances of it happening.

13. Social media can also create the illusion of having options, which leads to people looking at Facebook as an attractive people menu instead of a means of keeping contact with friends & family.

14. You aren’t likely to see much of someone’s genuine, unfiltered self until you’re in an actual relationship with him or her. Generally people are scared that sincerely putting themselves out there will result in finding out that they’re too available, too anxious, too nerdy, too nice, too safe, too boring, not funny enough, not pretty enough, not some other person enough to be embraced.

15. Any person you get romantically involved with you’ll either wind up staying with forever or breaking up with them at some point. These are equally terrifying concepts.

16. When dating, instead of expressing how they feel directly to you, a person is more likely to post a Facebook status or Instagram a Tumblr-esque photo of a sunset with a quote or song lyric of someone else’s words on it, and while it may not mention your name, it’s blatantly directed at you.

17. There are plenty of people who’ll have zero respect for your relationship and if they want the person you’re with, they’ll have no qualms with trying to overstep boundaries to get to ‘em. Girl code and guy code are wishful thinking and human code isn’t embedded in everyone.

18. If you get dumped, it’s probably going to be pretty brutal. People can cut ties over the phone and avoid seeing the tears stream down your face or end things via text and avoid hearing the pain in your cracking voice and sniffling nose. Send a lengthy text and voilà, relationship over. The easy way out is far from the most considerate. TC Mark

[east or bust]

I would say a lot of that is true.

Although the douchebag existed long before phones and social media.


It's definitely harder to find genuine people these days. It might take more time but it's well worth it.

[that dude who did that thing]

Holy fuck, now the PR is populated by listicles about dating? WTF!

[rideit]

[Edgnar]

Wait, DasBlunt is Alias_09?

[irul&ublo]

Wait, DasBlunt is Alias_09?

Or AKPM....

[ill-advised strategy]

tldr. did the OP get herpes?

[mud]

[irul&ublo]

So IVplay is a ginger. Figures.

[mobygrape]

that's it? Glad I picked a winner years ago. If I was still single...

[farmer]

tgr has taught the young ginger grasshopper to use action words well.

If we had really taught the little soul-less cunt anything he would have spelt it der poopenhausen.

[raisingarizona13]

Some replies for the author since I'm bored and drinking beer.

1. Right you are.......play it cool-er and be patient but it's not about power, it's about creating attraction.

2. Don't hesitate to make the first contact, chances are she/he is wondering and waiting just like you are and for fucks sake get over your fear of rejection!

3. Really now, get over it and see #1

4. Adapt and stop being a pussy.

5. Probably a message that it ain't happening, hopefully by now you have gotten my #2 response figured out.

6. Toughen up kid.

7. Don't be a "romantic" until you know she is good and ready. It makes you look too eager and desperate, you are cutting your fucking head off with this one!

8. What the hell is wrong with a little no-strings attached fun? Feel free to ask about intentions without applying pressure in any way, be open, secure, and confident but keep that romance shit OUT of the equation. Own it and it will drive her nuts.

9. But you get to score too, it's called a maintenance fuck. See #6.

10. See #5 and stop crying.

11. If you pay attention to #'s 1,2,3,4,6,7,8,9,and 10 they will be the ones hoping that you will commit.

12. So what? See #6.

13. You are thinking WAY too much. Stop that.

14. Probably not but as you get older you won't give a fuck. Refer to #2.

15. See #13. Fear can be a mother fucker, you have 2 choices, either continue being miserable or get over your fears.

16. Then they are retarded and not worth your time.

17. What difference does it make. If it's meant to be then why worry? This should get easier with time, if you are in your 30's and you still can't get this figured out then you need to re-read #6.

18. Again......#6.

[DasBlunt]

^^^^Awesome…..

[schuss]

So, in other words the same problems that have existed in all time for dating? No mention of the deeper pool due to the existence of online dating etc.?

[Buster Highmen]

Most people are broken, pathetic, flaccid lumps of self absorbed fear drenched power mongering dominion driven feces zombie vampiric vaccums.
Chicken knuckles, Don Knotts, Electric Aunt Jemima, Colonel Sanders, carbureted corportate climbing zoo memos.

But then there's the ski smile. There's nothing like a ski smile from the Kandahar, through the Apothec to the Cement Creek tent, that glazed, delerious gleam tinged with weed, beer or a simple cocktail, just the best. There's nothing like the ski smile shared among friends, real friends.

[flyandski365]

Most people are broken, pathetic, flaccid lumps of self absorbed fear drenched power mongering dominion driven feces zombie vampiric vaccums.
Chicken knuckles, Don Knotts, Electric Aunt Jemima, Colonel Sanders, carbureted corportate climbing zoo memos.

But then there's the ski smile. There's nothing like a ski smile from the Kandahar, through the Apothec to the Cement Creek tent, that glazed, delerious gleam tinged with weed, beer or a simple cocktail, just the best. There's nothing like the ski smile shared among friends, real friends.

You sir, are a poet and a philosopher.

[hortence]

Most people are broken, pathetic, flaccid lumps of self absorbed fear drenched power mongering dominion driven feces zombie vampiric vaccums.
Chicken knuckles, Don Knotts, Electric Aunt Jemima, Colonel Sanders, carbureted corportate climbing zoo memos.

But then there's the ski smile. There's nothing like a ski smile from the Kandahar, through the Apothec to the Cement Creek tent, that glazed, delerious gleam tinged with weed, beer or a simple cocktail, just the best. There's nothing like the ski smile shared among friends, real friends.

Dude. Does that get you laid much?

[berko]

Maybe not much, but well.

[Tippster]

It got his ass a life partner, which the whiny little hipster in the OP can't seem to figure out.

Be someone an SO would want to be with and you will find someone. Not much quenches attraction more than neediness.

[Hugh Conway]

Tell us more stories from before the internet grandpa

- uncle who's going to tell you about his gout.

[Supermoon]

The hot, fun, smart and non-psycho women don't have some giant whole in their life that the are waiting around for a man to fill. (Pun not intended, but now totally intended)

Once your life isn't spent wondering what some girl is thinking about you all of the time, the good one miraculously start appearing in your now awesome life.

If you're interesting, confident, a bit different and have lots of interesting things going on in your life and it doesn't matter if you look like Karl Rove.

[jma233]

If you act like a chick and play games, complain about shit without doing anything, avoid confrontation, talk shit behind people's back, wander from one dead-end job to the next, wander around in life with no purpose, have no sense of humor, etc, etc, etc then no chick will (wisely) want anything to do with you. Be a man. That is all.

[Hugh Conway]

where a beard - hipster maggot advice

[Timberridge]

If you act like a chick and play games, complain about shit without doing anything, avoid confrontation, talk shit behind people's back, wander from one dead-end job to the next, wander around in life with no purpose, have no sense of humor, etc, etc, etc then no chick will (wisely) want anything to do with you. Be a man. That is all.

I now know why my wife hates me.

[nickwm21]

I used to play that game like everyone else. But I changed my strategy.

I asked myself - "How would Grandpa do this dating thing?"