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09-24-2021, 03:09 PM #151
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09-24-2021, 05:09 PM #152
Most of my current friendships were development in college. I had no clue about what to do after school except that I had a large debt. In observing my friends from school, I see adult life choices mostly focused on whether they had college loans to pay off. I have several friends that were extremely resourceful and had their education paid for via scholarships and work/study programs and several friends that had no loans, scholarships, or financial aid because their family fully paid their way. Those friends w/o college debt all had a freedom to explore life after college in a way that I and other friends did not feel comfortable doing. My most “successful” friends exited college w/o owing anybody $$.
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09-24-2021, 06:45 PM #153Registered User
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This has been a major goal of mine for my kids since they were born. I want them to have the freedom to dream and take chances as young people without huge boat anchor student debt holding them back. Oldest just finished with zero debt and second will have very minor debt. I can't help them much more financially after under grad but I'll always have a bed and a plate of food available for them.
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09-25-2021, 09:03 AM #154
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09-25-2021, 09:11 AM #155
Sorry -- I misinterpreted. I thought you were suggesting that the women themselves were "Ewww".
You are welcome to insult me and the way women are treated in tech in general. It's a fucking disgrace.
Although on a possibly bright note, both of my daughters are recent CS graduates with 1-3 years experience in the workforce, and they both claim that they haven't personally felt the shitty treatment. The data certainly doesn't show it, but maybe things are getting better?
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09-25-2021, 09:14 AM #156yelgatgab
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Buster is right, US News rankings are built on bias and junk data. After listening to this, I’m inclined to encourage my kids to attend an HBCU.
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcas...=1000527176172
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcas...=1000528056451Remind me. We'll send him a red cap and a Speedo.
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09-25-2021, 09:25 AM #157
Any Americans send their kid to college abroad? My neighbor went to grad school in Belgium and is dead set on sending his kid to school somewhere in Europe.
I have one of those 529 college savings plans for my kids. Not sure I can use the money oversees or not, but hopefully flexibility in the 529 laws improves by the time my kids are college age.
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09-25-2021, 09:27 AM #158
Responding to the O2P -- my daughter graduated from UC Santa Cruz last year with a double major in CS and math. Both programs are solid. She built a really good foundation of CS skills there. I'm less qualified to judge the math part, but from what I could tell it was similar level.
However, In contrast with my other daughter who got a CS degree from MIT, Santa Cruz daughter had to hustle to get herself on the internship & employment train. Tech companies recruit hard at a small number of "elite" schools and pretty much ignore the rest. I hired one of her UCSC classmates and made an offer to another. They both had similar experiences finding internships and jobs. Not impossible, and maybe not even really hard compared to the rest of the world, but opportunities weren't just there for the plucking like they are for MIT kids.
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09-25-2021, 09:28 AM #159
Thanks for keeping us in the loop
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09-25-2021, 09:34 AM #160
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Two friends’ kids are doing a gap year. One is doing his last year of HS in Uruguay as a language immersion program [he actually covered his credit reqts early so effectively had graduated]. The other graduated in the spring and has no interest in being at a hybrid online/in person university so he is traveling. He visited Iceland & Ireland and is now in France.
RE: studying abroad. I think it’s a great idea, especially for those students that aren’t on a professional track that may be required for grad or licensing in their field. I put Cambridge’s Trinity College in front of my kid to see what he thought since their math department is ridiculous. [I can’t afford it w/out scholarship assist, but whatever…]
RE: 529, not sure if it’s stipulated as domestic only…quick google says “at eligible international schools or universities”
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09-25-2021, 10:02 AM #161Registered User
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Daughter was set to go to India for a semester but it was shut down due to covid. Both my kids have been hoses in many ways for the last 2 years. My daughter wanted to stay home last year and attend Portland State to take some online courses but her uni announced no transfer credits for online classes. The real shitty thing is they have a billion dollar endowment and still made the financial decisions to say fuck you to their students when trying to save a few bucks and still stay engaged academically.
One more year and I can afford to eat two meals a day gain !
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09-25-2021, 10:03 AM #162
I suggested foreign schools to both my kids, but my son didn't really want to be far from home.
My daughter however will only consider Cambridge, not Oxford since MI6 only hires from Cambridge.Merde De Glace On the Freak When Ski
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09-25-2021, 11:23 AM #163
She’s gonna be a 00x?
Ambitious
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09-25-2021, 11:29 AM #164
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Now I just want to know how you guys who are looking at these schools got your kids to a place where this is even a discussion.
Sounds like pretty good parenting to me. Any tips for someone a decade plus away from these conversations?
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09-25-2021, 11:45 AM #166
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We got lucky is the short answer.
School is emphasized in our house. A lot of reading to him & involving him in our conversations, but the kid demonstrated facility with numbers early. Depending on whether he is using his powers for good or evil at any given moment, I tend to claim the genes that allowed him to be a performer or else blame the spouse.
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09-25-2021, 12:02 PM #167
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Nm
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09-25-2021, 12:35 PM #168Registered User
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09-25-2021, 12:38 PM #169
You have no idea.
She has binocular dysfunction, can't control her eyes well enough to read well. Grade school was hell, with vicious little kids calling her retarded and refusing to play with her.
So we yanked her from public school in 4th grade and homeschooled her until one day 3 years ago, she said she was tired of all the delinquents and sociopaths in the home school coops (usually either some sort of religious fundamentalist or expelled from public school).
So we told her we supported her and we there for her, but it was going to be rough. She had not gotten the basic skills she needed in homeschool, particularly in math.
So, she went back. There were lots of tears and evenings of self doubt and lots of handholding and hugging, but she gritted it through and fought and kept at it. And got straight A's.
Now, she is on a mission. It takes a lot of my evenings, but the motivation is all hers.
There is nothing in my life that compares to the feeling of seeing her realize that she's not retarded and the world is her oyster.Merde De Glace On the Freak When Ski
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09-25-2021, 12:46 PM #170
We got rid of the TV shortly after #1 appeared. Read every night and several times a day to each of them. Cultivated favorite books and themes. The only amusements were books, paints, toys. No media. Kept video games out of reach until teens.
My son is slightly Aspergers and has always taken to reading and being intellectually vicious. Kind of a classic nerd, except he like to ski.
My daughter just decided out of the blue to attack school with every fiber of her body and soul after we tried to give her other things at which she could excel, typically non intellectual.
I never bitched at them, only praised achievements, whatever they were. I also maintain that grades are not important, only passion and interest. If I could give my children anything, I'd choose a passion or interest in something constructive over all the money in Wall Street.
Overall, I don't think I did that much other than the TV and video game thing. All their achievements are their own.Merde De Glace On the Freak When Ski
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09-25-2021, 12:53 PM #171Registered User
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09-25-2021, 12:58 PM #172
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09-25-2021, 01:41 PM #173
My kids are dual US-CAN citizens. Thing #1 went to the University of New Brunswick, Fredericton for undergrad. She's back there for their accelerated teaching degree program. We saved a bunch of money. She didn't want to go to school in Quebec, so McGill was out which is a shame because before covid she could have almost commuted if she had to. She had the grades but not the desire. She loves UNB.
Thing#2 looked at some Canadian schools and ended up at UVM. He was into U of Guelph for a hot second. He didn't have the grades for U of T and possibly not Waterloo either. The latter also has a rep for being a hard brutal slog, plus they charge a fortune for engineering majors. McMasters was up there on the list too for a second. They have a research reactor. He did consider UNB just to annoy his sister. He also wanted a school on the smaller side of medium, around 10K students, +/-.
Thing#3 is totally opposed to going to school in Canada. He's sick of the cold and wants to go to school where it's warm.
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09-25-2021, 01:58 PM #174
One thing to take into consideration is what kind of individuals the offspring are? Intro/Extroverts, have they been traveling a lot, focused or tangential?
This is prolly one of the critical aspects of studying abroad: The individuals have to be rock solid, go getters. The safety networks are way different, even in countries like Netherlands, UK or Germany. I mean the usual stuff (health care, accommodation, SS card, Uni bureaucracy) can be complex in the aforementioned countries (and Scandinavia) but, FRA/SPA/IT it can is a different ballgame. That alone can take cut from the time & energy budget itself, which will affect the mental well being and studies. The other thing is the cultural differences, not only social but also academic. The academic one can be mitigated to a certain extent by preparing (and accepting) the differences but the social differences can be problematic.
My own take is that assimilation to the central European culture can actually be easier than to Scandiland.
Why?
Well, this is only my take but US peeps seem to be "quite" social and environments that are chaotic-yet-social are easier to adapt to than to the Scandinavian aloofness, even if the education itself might of higher standards. Mileage will vary, obviously. Interacting almost daily with students from different continents and the spectrum how people settle is wide, obviously. Individuals that are autonomous and from "challenged" backgrounds seem to find their tempo easier, but individuals from more shielded backgrounds, not so. The common trait seems to be amongst the ones that prosper, is the "I am making my own life" Go-Getters that don't even plan to return. The individuals that are escaping something, the clueless or those who (or their parents) have misjudged the reality, seem to have the hardest time: The Return is just behind the corner. The missed internships, contacts and the lives of their previous peers from can be a nagging demon. If they fail to rack up on their CVs / resumes / contacts on the old continent, proper, they can be at disadvantage when they return.
This is not to discourage to anyone to go abroad, on the contrary. But there are more than few things to take into account, imho.
I don't agree with that, sorry Buster.
Parents and their attitude are absolutely crucial part of the upbringing. Your kids are frigging blessed to have parents like you, wish that even a fraction of the kids, disadvantaged or not, would have a shadow of your wisdom & awesomeness. Carry on.
The floggings will continue until morale improves.
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09-25-2021, 08:45 PM #175
Good time for the boys to go to college
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.wsj...ol-11630948233
Men are abandoning higher education in such numbers that they now trail female college students by record levels.
At the close of the 2020-21 academic year, women made up 59.5% of college students, an all-time high, and men 40.5%, according to enrollment data from the National Student Clearinghouse, a nonprofit research group. U.S. colleges and universities had 1.5 million fewer students compared with five years ago, and men accounted for 71% of the decline.
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