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  1. No dude. I was married to a woman. I'm the B in...

    No dude. I was married to a woman. I'm the B in LGBT...
  2. Fist bump. I've never been out on TGR but my...

    Fist bump.

    I've never been out on TGR but my friends know I'm queer.

    Might as well open this closet door and say Hi.
  3. All I know is that I tried to make things easy...

    All I know is that I tried to make things easy and figured as long as I was doing right by my kids I didn't need a lawyer.

    In the meantime my ex's lawyer was ass raping me and my ex was...
  4. My lawyer knows her lawyer and said something...

    My lawyer knows her lawyer and said something like "oh, she's a fighter, she's not going to let your ex make a deal without going to court".

    The whole thing is gross.
  5. Lots of great advice and insight. Much thanks...

    Lots of great advice and insight. Much thanks again to everyone.
  6. Yeah, I mean it sucks. Definitely going to be...

    Yeah, I mean it sucks. Definitely going to be harmful to our relationship as co-parents. And, it's fucking stupid that two reasonable adults can't figure shit out like this without attorneys.
    ...
  7. I'm feeling a lot of guilt around going for a...

    I'm feeling a lot of guilt around going for a lawyer. Ex has been really reasonable, suggesting I just pay what I can and that we keep things off the books. Even offering a few extra hours with the...
  8. That's really how I feel, but I offered the most...

    That's really how I feel, but I offered the most I could possibly pay and she refused it. It really is sad. I plan on still giving her as much as I can, but I expect the court ordered support will be...
  9. Yeah, attorney already said I'm screwed on that...

    Yeah, attorney already said I'm screwed on that one. But, boy is she gonna be screwed on the rest. Sucks to be her. She's gonna be very unhappy that she pushed this. Crossing the T's and dotting the...
  10. Lawyer found that she slipped in that she gets...

    Lawyer found that she slipped in that she gets 30k of the proceeds from the sale of the house, then we divide what's left. She's always said that we split the proceeds. Not sure how I missed it, but...
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  12. It's really true about the switch that flips....

    It's really true about the switch that flips. Once it's flipped any perceived niceness is temporary and only proffered because it serves a purpose.

    Even knowing this, it's still so tempting to...
  13. Uggg, I'm so sorry. That must be an awesome...

    Uggg, I'm so sorry. That must be an awesome collection of hot wheels.

    Why indeed...
  14. 415600 415601 I had a nice lego room before...

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    I had a nice lego room before the divorce. Now I have a lot of sorting to do.
  15. You guys are really great. I can't even express...

    You guys are really great. I can't even express how much I appreciate all of you.

    Very hard not to text her and try to reason with her. I am having a very hard time understanding what she thinks...
  16. Great advice. Thank you. Surprised by the...

    Great advice. Thank you.

    Surprised by the emotional pain of the realization that we can't work this out.
  17. Well, I tried being the nice guy and another...

    Well, I tried being the nice guy and another 1k,just not enough for her, so now it's lawyer time and she's probably going to end up with less.
  18. Advice please Lawyer says we have a great case...

    Advice please

    Lawyer says we have a great case for modifying both spousal support and child support. Thinks we could get everything down to about 5k including my share of child care and health...
  19. Acostiga, I can really relate to how you feel...

    Acostiga,

    I can really relate to how you feel about trying to make it work for your kid, and feeling responsible to your wife.

    Leaving was the best thing I ever did for my kids.
  20. Dude. My ex tells me that she's done getting...

    Dude.

    My ex tells me that she's done getting anything she wants from the house that we are selling and I have two days to get what I want before the contractors throw everything away.

    I go in...
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    Real life mileage in the new Tundra is not...

    Real life mileage in the new Tundra is not impressive. Averaging 16.2 over about 700 miles. This tiny little engine has to fucking work hard on Seattle's hills. Truck is gutless until the the turbo...
  22. The custody arrangement is what hurts the most.

    The custody arrangement is what hurts the most.
  23. I feel fucked, but really I'm getting the typical...

    I feel fucked, but really I'm getting the typical deal. She gets alimony because she has a masters degree and quit a six figure a year job to be a stay at home mom.

    Where I'm getting fucked is the...
  24. Thank you so much Altasnob. I'm pretty much on...

    Thank you so much Altasnob. I'm pretty much on the other side emotionally, most of the time. This financial shit is tough, but I know I will get through it.
  25. That's good news, because in practice the support...

    That's good news, because in practice the support order would make me homeless if I have to pay for nanny
  26. Sounds like I'm probably fucked, because yeah it...

    Sounds like I'm probably fucked, because yeah it says "work related daycare".

    I just don't see how it's fair that she gets to increase her income 100% at my expense.

    So fucked.
  27. Thanks man! Luckily our house sells this month...

    Thanks man! Luckily our house sells this month and it's the high season for construction so I'm ready to spend.
    Unfortunately, this means she will also be financially able. Maybe we will get lucky...
  28. My ex had me convinced I was mental. To the point...

    My ex had me convinced I was mental. To the point that I convinced a psychiatrist that I was bi-polar. Shortly after separation my therapist let me know that I wasn't. That I was suffering ptsd and...
  29. Re: Johnny Depp. I was nearly in tears this...

    Re: Johnny Depp.

    I was nearly in tears this morning listening to Amber calling him a bitch for his response to her hitting him. Fucking toxic abusive bitch.

    I've fucking been there.
  30. Here's the rub. I was in a bad state after being...

    Here's the rub.
    I was in a bad state after being psychologically and physically abused for 8 years.

    I was living in an airbnb and was barely getting to see my kids.

    My ex said she wanted to...
  31. It's fucking absurd. It's hard to motivate to...

    It's fucking absurd.
    It's hard to motivate to work, when I am broke as fuck no matter what I do.
  32. I'm embarrassed to say that maintenance is until...

    I'm embarrassed to say that maintenance is until the kids are 18.

    Twins are 4 eldest is 7.
    I am well and truly fucked.
  33. Pretty much. 50% of extra curricular activities....

    Pretty much.
    50% of extra curricular activities. 50% of education expenses. 50% of daycare.
    And she can choose to add anything at anytime without regard to whether I can afford it.
  34. Falcon3, would appreciate your input on what I...

    Falcon3, would appreciate your input on what I wrote above
  35. Decree says that support is based on her not...

    Decree says that support is based on her not being able to work as she is homeschooling the kids. It then says that we share work related day care expenses.

    Now she's working during the day when...
  36. Finalized, but I am lawyering up and will be...

    Finalized, but I am lawyering up and will be fighting. If she gets what she wants I wouldn't have enough money to pay my living expenses.
  37. It's ridiculous. She's starting to list all the...

    It's ridiculous. She's starting to list all the things she wants me to pay half of. Most I'm just going to go along with, but there's no way in hell I'm paying for half of the nanny. Fuck that. Send...
  38. I've started the process of getting a lawyer and...

    I've started the process of getting a lawyer and fighting. I appreciate the input.
  39. I should have listened. Maybe someone else will....

    I should have listened.
    Maybe someone else will.

    GET A FUCKING LAWYER.

    I'm now getting screwed. She already gets almost half of my income in child support and maintenance. Now she has a job...
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    413816 It's a truck.

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    It's a truck.
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    No hybrid engine unfortunately. Toyota still...

    No hybrid engine unfortunately. Toyota still isn't shipping them, or if they are it's rare.
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    Thanks!

    Thanks!
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    SR5 with the accessory package. Crew Max and 6.5'...

    SR5 with the accessory package. Crew Max and 6.5' bed.

    That extra foot makes it feel like a much bigger truck than my last one with the 5.5' bed.
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    413720 Dealer had a cancelation and my truck...

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    Dealer had a cancelation and my truck got stuck in limp mode the next morning. Timing worked out right. Dealer markup was only 3k. Didn't get exactly what I wanted, but it is a nice truck.
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    Hybrid extends the wait time by about 3 months.

    Hybrid extends the wait time by about 3 months.
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    I have inattentive type. The laser focus only...

    I have inattentive type.

    The laser focus only comes about when it's something I'm interested in or something I've managed to train myself to focus on.

    Vibes for dealing with someone with...
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    Ford is sold out of hybrid motors. I had decided...

    Ford is sold out of hybrid motors. I had decided to go with the XLT F150 Hybrid. Dealer said they can't even order hybrid option until Ford starts taking orders for 2023 model year.
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    I just spoke with dealer about hybrid motor....

    I just spoke with dealer about hybrid motor. Toyota is taking factory orders for them, but delivery is at least 6-8 months out. If course you have to get Limited or higher trim package to order...
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    The market is ridiculous. I've decided to keep...

    The market is ridiculous.
    I've decided to keep putting money into my 2007 with 330k miles because it just doesn't make sense to pay the prices as they currently are.
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    Computer says lifetime average 13.7 mpg. And yes,...

    Computer says lifetime average 13.7 mpg. And yes, I use it like a truck.

    Anyway, thanks for the tip on the F150. Never thought I'd go away from toyota, but the hybrid getting 25/26 and has all the...
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