Hah...that’s basically what I did when my ex melted down when I told her I was about to walk into the attorneys office, who she happened to go to college with.

Sorry man...been there done it. Ex cheated. I wasnt a great husband...I survived, remarried my soulmate...and guess what, it's still work, I'm still working on being a better husband.
Things will...

Your situation sounds very much like mine a decade ago. Wife was fucking a long distance co-worker, yet didn't want to split, and freaked the fuck out when I went to an attorney...so much so I...