Don't do it! I tried to be a good family guy and included my ex in the first xmas after separation with the lads. We ended up in the rack. One of the most bizarre experiences of my life. Did put a...

side note: I took a puff off of my kids' spliff (my THC intake is extremely rare so I get buzzed very easily) while we were having happy hour last night and magically turned into Jacque Pepin in the...

Congrats CJ. Glad the clouds are parting for you. It happens!

That's damn near the perfect house right there.

say more pleeze....

I'm a big fan of the fish basket for grilling. I've lost too many shrimpz and pieces of flakier fish into the grill burners over the years.

Here's a nice example of a house special here at the...

How big? I've done a week no problem, and have enough friends and fam in the PNW that I could probably get some land time if necessary. Living at the dock is one thing, being out cruising might be...

I would like warmer and sunnier in the winter I think. So WA and OR destinations are not super appealing. Somewhere in the SW or CA, NV. Dunno. As I said, skiing access is feeling less important than...

Where (that's a little desert-y and sunny)?

Spent a Christmas week there in college days, late 70's I think. At the time it was relatively undiscovered so the food and drink wasn't fancy and chef-y, but so good. Stayed at a wonderful...

Thread drift but.... here's another one:
https://www.washingtonnature.org/yellowisland

My folks had house on nearby Shaw Island in the 60's/70's, and we used to go visit the Dodds who had...

Oh yah, she's a keeper!

I'm trynna figure this stuff out too. My Things are older than yours, but proximity to them is a factor. I love that they roll through the house at their leisure, see them often, stay close.

And...

I have a great 1970's Japanese (Matsumoko) knockoff of a Country Gentleman made by Ventura. They're out there if you don't want to break the bank.

only after they've been chipped via covid vax.

Might kinda depend on how he did the cleaning.....

I don't mind that, nor would I probably even notice it since I've already put out the bin. Unfortunately the ONLY time they do it to mine is after the bin's been emptied and I don't bring it in from...

Snacks?

This has also happened.

Am I alone in being seriously irritated by dog people that leave their bagged shit in my garbage can if I don't bring it in from the curb fast enough? For god's sake take your own shit home! Why does...

Once a year or so I gorge on Arby's classics. No puking, much love and satisfaction.

Glad to hear you're getting good assistance!

I remember that sense of wanting to communicate directly because I was certain that she'd wake up and come to her senses! How could she not? Nope. I...

Those cuts look way too clean for deer. WTFF is wrong with people?

^^interesting thought. I was in Ellensburg during and after the eruption and we had ash around for a long fucking time. I recall there being discussions of how gnarly that stuff was because it...

Lawyers deal together, not you and her lawyer. That'd be a huge mistake.

And stop all direct contact with her on any subject other than kids' logistics. Do not say anything, or allow yourself to...

Atta girl. Makes a great breakfast too.

"Open to possibilities and not attached to outcome".

Everyone processes in their own ways and in their own times. If it's a rebound, so be it. Explore it if it feels healthy and beautiful. Whether...

Lawyer up! They usually have at least some lube even when you're getting fucked.

JCY's ridgetop was down by Stinson Beach, or so I heard when I lived in Marin and that record was hudge in the mid-'70's.

Happy that has happened for you - genuinely!- and.... this outcome is based on two presumably relatively mentally healthy individuals committed to their partnership.

Most of these experiences and...

This. and.....

Those people have their own work to do to learn compassion without experiential understanding. Compassion is best served unconditionally. At the end of the day, everyone deserves...

acostiga: fuck, man. helluva share, helluva situation. I suspect many of us struggled with 'abandoning' someone who might do something horrible to themselves or suffer even more as a result of the...

Which, in itself, is a comment diminishing (as opposed to compassion, support, empathy) another's experience, whatever it was. To say, 'buck up dood, it was probably half your fault' (when you didn't...

Thanks for your understanding. I do bristle at the dismissive tone from the 'it's half your fault' crowd, as I suspect you do, because there is SO much more in our experiences than simply two people...

Self-righteousness combined with lack of compassion and an inflated sense of yourself is unbecoming.

Dude, seriously?

Have you been through this? If you haven't you have no idea of the shitstorm it is and how bad it can get.

I spent that without going to court. The estimate to take it to court was another $50k. And your odds of victory are 50/50 at best, so yeah, the court route is fucked.

"No fault" only means...

^^take him up on that

This

Yeah, it's really just that simple as I'm sure you know. :the_finge And yes, I did. Had I known (and understood) then what I know (and understand) now, I might not have. I doubt many young folks...

In my case it was only emotional, but brutal and turned the world sideways for years. Our therapist (35+ years in practice with countless couples) who was later my therapist told me later that she...

What town? Horn section was not present in SEA.

Boy howdy. Right? You're literally thinking you're completely out of your mind ALL the time!

This. And my ex (maybe at her attorney's suggestion) did make up allegations of abuse. Even told members of my extended family with whom the relationships have never been the same. So it can and does...

I've come to the conclusion that no matter how good everyone's intentions are (or they say they are) at the beginning of the divorce process, the moment someone feels like they're not getting what...

BC.... so sorry man. What a bunch of loss all at once. Hang in there.

I'm such a fool for a ginger.

Yeah man, you gotta get confirmation from the spouse. Too many say that but it's only 'open' in their minds, or they're pissed off.

Sadly, Xtal has always known they have a captive audience and have exploited that under all recent ownerships. I wish I felt their BS would actually erode their customer base but it hasn't in the...

Apologies if this has been mentioned.....

I happened to be sleepless this morning at around 0400 PDT. Turned on the tube to see a 30 second IKON pass ad on CNN. Kinda wigged me out.