Check in: Am I being an asshole to skip a kid’s bday for skiing?
Quote:
Originally Posted by
sirbumpsalot
30yrs from now:
If you spent 0 days with your daughter you will wish you spent at least 1 more day
If you spent 1000 days with your daughter you will wish you spent at least 1 more day
If you spent 24/7 with your daughter you will wish you spent at least 1 more day
Soooo....the 7 days on a ski trip will not be any different than the above.
There are never enough days to go around. Accept it and live your life.
IMHO
Are you sure that math applies to when they are < 3 and 13-19? Sometimes separation makes the heart grow fonder and all that.
Edit- my vote Mustenon is you talk to her about it. Ideally you find some event that she really wants to do and offer to go do that and celebrate her birthday then instead of cake at the ex’s.
I’ll fourth the sentiment that adults who still think their birthday is a big deal are generally terrible humans. A buddy’s new wife just posted like 14 insta posts all with the hashtag #birthdayweek and on the birthday she went to her parents and then his parents and they had cake at both. Then just the two of them went out to a $500 sushi dinner and he gave her a handbag. This was for a random mid thirties birthday. My reaction, “dude you are so fucked, she’s going to expect this shit every year and your future kids are going to have massive parties every year”.