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08-01-2012, 03:57 PM #1
Broke up with GF and need advice on how to split the mortgage. Help!
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So i'll make this as conscice as possible. I bought my current house with my GF ~4 years ago. We both split the payment the entire time we were together. We decided to go seperate ways earlier this year.
I was able to refinance the mortgage in my name soley, and closed on that refi this afternoon....so now the house, deed etc are all in my name. The question I have is this:
The "payoff" to to the previous mortgage holder at the time of the refinance (today) was ~$114,000. The house appraised at ~$108,000. With the closing cost rolled in ($4k), I now owe $118,000 on the house.
I've talked to numerous friends/family about this situation and the all say that we should split this "negative equity" between us, and that she should be writing me a check for ~$3,000 for the negative equity (plus half of the closing cost on the refi, which was $4k).
Does this sound correct?
If it were the other way around (positive equity), i'd be writing -her- a check......so splitting this negative equity (and splitting closing cost) seems only fair.
Any advice/input/experience is greatly appreciated here.
Fats-
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08-01-2012, 03:59 PM #2... jfost is really ignorant, he often just needs simple facts laid out for him...
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08-01-2012, 04:02 PM #3
She was your GF, not your wife... unfortunately, she has no legal obligation to pay you anything.
You better hope it was an amicable break, otherwise you're screwed.
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08-01-2012, 04:02 PM #4
Do you re-imburse her for the tax savings you get for mortgage interest? If you are keeping the house I'm not sure splitting the refi cost is fair for her. get what you can.
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08-01-2012, 04:04 PM #5
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08-01-2012, 04:12 PM #6
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08-01-2012, 04:16 PM #7
read toast2266's post again.
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08-01-2012, 04:18 PM #8
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08-01-2012, 04:22 PM #9Good-lookin' wool
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Not saying anything new, but unless she is ready and willing to give you a few bucks because she feels bad about blowing the mailman, let it go. If you guys decided to sell the house at the time of the split, instead of the refi, you would have equal parts in all its ups and downs.
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08-01-2012, 04:23 PM #10
I'd also add that it is kind of lame to base what she "owes" you on an appraisal, unless you both felt the appraisal actually represents what the property would sell for.
and how did you not discuss this during the entire refi process???"fuck off you asshat gaper shit for brains fucktard wanker." - Jesus Christ
"She was tossing her bean salad with the vigor of a Drunken Pop princess so I walked out of the corner and said.... "need a hand?"" - Odin
"everybody's got their hooks into you, fuck em....forge on motherfuckers, drag all those bitches across the goal line with you." - (not so) ill-advised strategy
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08-01-2012, 04:43 PM #11Registered User
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So you bought into a major financial decision with someone you aren't legally attached to and you didn't discuss the what-ifs beforehand?
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08-01-2012, 04:56 PM #12
Thanks for the replies, guys. Fortunately, it has been an extremely amicable breakup. We have discussed the financial aspect of this refi the entire time....it's just come to the point where a decision must be made.
We both realize she isn't legally obligated to pay me anything. If we were to sell the house instead of splitting it/me refinancing in my name.....we would have had to bring a check for ~$6K to closing. This is where we are basing our figures and decision from. We would have split that amount, had we stayed together and sold the house.
She is willing to give me cash for half of both, the closing cost and "negative equity". I just wanted to get a little more feedback from the mags that may have gone through this before and I wasn't sure if the way we are looking at the situation is the way an objective party would (which is why i'm here).
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08-01-2012, 05:09 PM #13
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08-01-2012, 05:29 PM #14
You said you bought the house with your girlfriend...how did you initially take title?
As to the dumb ass who said you got an asset....no, you didn't. With negative net worth, you got an obligation. There is some logic in her repaying you. She would have 3g in the hole if sold and is off the obligation if it was kept.
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08-01-2012, 05:32 PM #15Good-lookin' wool
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08-01-2012, 05:38 PM #16
This was my point of contention as well. Technically, I am now ~$10,000 in the red on this house. Sure, the market may turn around in a few years, but it isn't now, and that's what matters. Initially, we bought the house together, and shared the "deed".....both of our names were on it.
The refi was done for two reasons:
1) to clear her name off the mortgage
2) to clear her of any legal right to the property
I had her sign a quit claim deed previous to the refinance, so now my name is the only name on the deed and mortgage. As stated, had we sold the house at current appraised/comps/market value.....we both would have had to bring $3k each to the table to close. This is where I feel that I should have some compensation coming my way. The house may be a profitable asset in a few years, but it is not right now.
At the very least, I feel splitting the closing cost is fair, as that had to be done to clear her name from the mortgage (which we both wanted).
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08-01-2012, 05:39 PM #17Registered User
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08-01-2012, 05:41 PM #18
Isn't you buying the house again speculation on future equity?
I think the only way you are entitled to money is if you both sold it, and you had to make up the difference. You bought it solo, so now you take the price hit solo? Something does not add up in the logic department.Terje was right.
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08-01-2012, 05:47 PM #19
How much of the down payment did she kick in on the original purchase? If she put down half and didn't take it back out as part of the refi, then she's already taken a hit for some of the neg equity.
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08-01-2012, 05:48 PM #20Registered User
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08-01-2012, 05:49 PM #21
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08-01-2012, 05:50 PM #22
I think there's also the question of who can afford what. If she has a legit job and and afford it, and if you refi'd solely in the interest of making an amicable split, then I think her kicking you the $3K is the right thing to do.
Otherwise, if you wanted to keep the house instead of selling and her paying $3K would be a major hardship for her, then let it go.
Also: pics.
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08-01-2012, 06:04 PM #23
You're a fucking moron.
You actually expect her to make up some fictional difference between what the house is supposedly worth and what you paid. What the fuck does she get? She already paid for half of the mortgage for four years, and doesn't have shit to show for it, except for the freedom of not living in the same house as you. That, she was willing to walk away from, just to get out of Dodge, right? Be happy with that. Christ, when my ex WIFE wanted me to pay for the fucking divorce and a few other things I could have, ahem, quibbled about, I said, after a pause, yeah, sure what the fuckever. Keep the fucking co-op, too, it was worth the walk.
Did you force her to go dutch everywhere else?
Don't be a dick.
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08-01-2012, 06:14 PM #24
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08-01-2012, 06:23 PM #25
Benny = bitter ragebeast. It's actually quite sad.
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