Thread: toddler acclimation to attitude?

Now that Owen is 6, he doesn't really put up with my bullshit any more. I can't frighten him into compliance with a loud voice and a stern look. What do you do when the little monsters really start to be people? He wants to make choices and shit...

I had to re-read your thread title. Thought you said acclimation to ALTitude, which would kind of make sense on a ski forum.

As for the attitude thing, I'm thinking bribery is the way to go. Some people like to call it positive reinforcement, but c'mon we know what it really is.

The perils of teaching your kids to be independent, thinking, smart little fuckers.

I read altitude too.

i read altitude also and was trying to remember if i notice anything from my 1 year old going from sea level to 9000fasl

dat's uh hole udder tread

How about a job? Does he have a job yet? Might teach him a few things. Maybe in a car wash or on a hotshot crew. No wait, how about the Marines? The Marines would straighten his ass out.

I thought he seemed like the type that would cause trouble.

I was scared of my dad's loud voice and stern look until well after I left the house, because I knew they were always followed by some kind of unpleasant consequences if I didn't knock off my shitty behavior quick.

Now that your kid's smart enough to make choices, it's time to teach him to make good ones. Lay them out for him.

take him rapidly up to 18 or 19 thousand feet, that'll straighten him out in a hurry...

When you figure it out, let me know.

This is why they made 6 year olds smaller than 30 year olds... otherwise the world would be fukt.

I've always worked at choosing my battles and allowing the kids to make non-fatal mistakes. Seems to have worked out. Now I plan on spoiling the grand kids.

"1-2-3 magic " good book and technique ... saves us a lot of the yelling. Yes they will get desensitized to yelling and tune you out... then maybe that will carry over into positive interactions too.
The older kids rarely get timeouts now, so I say it can work, persist and have partner in on it too.
An 80s book I think but has been a lifesaver for us.
Onward and upward.

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One thing my ex did (actually, still does), that bugged me was to threaten some consequence that I really didn't want to have to endure. Still makes me crazy. She'll threaten to take away skiing from them if they do/don't do something. Of course, that means I'm stuck at home with them when we could be skiing. The ex doesn't really ski any more, so it's no skin off her back.

So be careful what consequences you threaten, because it's kind of important to follow through on your threats.

Originally Posted by Sinecure

One thing my ex did (actually, still does), that bugged me was to threaten some consequence that I really didn't want to have to endure. Still makes me crazy. She'll threaten to take away skiing from them if they do/don't do something. Of course, that means I'm stuck at home with them when we could be skiing. The ex doesn't really ski any more, so it's no skin off her back.

So be careful what consequences you threaten, because it's kind of important to follow through on your threats.

Good call. My wife does this sort of thing sometimes in the heat of the moment and I'm like, "noooooooo!"

As for the attitude thing, I'm thinking bribery is the way to go

Good way to raise a little douche. I'll be a little shit even more so that I get offered something to stop being a little shit.

Child attitude adjustment tool. Guaranteed to correct the most stubborn of kids.

Originally Posted by time2clmb

Good way to raise a little douche. I'll be a little shit even more so that I get offered something to stop being a little shit.

I forgot the after I typed that.

Originally Posted by counterfeitfake

I was scared of my dad's loud voice and stern look until well after I left the house, because I knew they were always followed by some kind of unpleasant consequences if I didn't knock off my shitty behavior quick.

Now that your kid's smart enough to make choices, it's time to teach him to make good ones. Lay them out for him.

This was how I was raised also. Never any abuse, but when you knew you were fucking up, you knew the consequences. I got the consequences often and deserved it all.